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Is the Guy In Your Life Flubbing the Ancient Art of Modesty? By PI Girl, Ann

Boys are boys. Girls know how they can be. When a guy has a crush on you, he’ll probably want to show you how manly he is. But guys need to be modest, too.

Have you ever seen those boys who have only one good friend at most? That’s because, like girls, guys want their friends to be there for them and support them, even though they may not want to admit it.

When a guy isn’t modest, it makes it hard to be around him because he wants the spotlight and the attention all the time. And sometimes that can be an okay thing, but most of the time, it really annoys some people. Girls may not be modest all the time, but we really do try.

Guys should really give more of an effort to be modest because:

  • When you’re around a special guy, you want him to notice you, not himself.
  • Modest guys are more apt to stand by you and cheer you on when you need them (provided you cheer them on when needed).

If you feel like a guy in your life isn’t practicing the ancient art of modesty, here’s what you should do:

  1. Try to encourage him when he really deserves it, but keep the praise turned on low for little things.
  2. Whenever he comes to watch you play sports or do what you’re best at, ask him what he liked about it. That will get him going on what he thought you did awesome at.
  3. If he isn’t modest enough for you, it might be best to ignore him. If you try to tell an immodest person that they aren’t modest, they’ll most likely deny it.

Try these simple tips for any guy in your life who you think isn’t modest, and who knows? He could just see the light! πŸ™‚

By PI Girl, Ann

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Christina loves God on August 18, 2012 at 21:53

    I appreciate the comments as much as the article. The comments really help me to take what’s said in the passage into a personal perspective and helps me to develope my opinion and a better understanding. So thanks

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by ApphiaRose on August 2, 2012 at 13:23

    thanks, girl! I’m really glad you posted this πŸ™‚

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by KeilaAnn on August 1, 2012 at 20:56

    I think I am lucky to have had the same boyfriend for well over two years now. Sure we fight and say hurtful things sometimes but so do my best friend and I. He makes it up every time we do fight and everyday he tells me I am gorgeous and beautiful, not sexy and hott, which he knows I really appreciate. A plus to him is not only is he a Christian but he actually helps me out in my faith sometimes. His mom raised him right and I only hope that it lasts for a lifetime. After all we are only 17. I do have a question about that though. Him and I are very serious and we do talk about our future, marriage and babies and that stuff, should I as a 17 year old be that serious? My sister is a realist and tells me all the time that it most likely won’t work out. But is it all that bad that him and I both are wanting a future together for life?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by PraiseGodFromWhomAllBlessingsFlow on August 4, 2012 at 15:01

      Pray about it, it is all in God’s hands about what happens in the future. My mom started dating a guy who wass eight teen and she twenty. They we’re gonna get married and they had sent out invitations, then my mom called it off, she did it cause he would get really jealous when she was around other guys at their church, and also she didn’t know if they we’re right for each other or not, she worried. When they broke up, the guy, Sam, kept sending her flowers, and other things like gifts. Then a couple of days later she was informed that he had gotten into a motorcycle accident. She went to go see him, and then she thanked and praised God that he was okay. They sent inventions again. My dad and mom have been married the next month and happy for 22 years, God brought them together for a reason, even if it had to be them seeing each other in a hospital, it was still Gods plan for my dad to be okay, and my mom to change her mind. His reason, whatever happens KeilaAnn, know that only God know what will happen, and stop focusing on the future to much,like my mom did, and live in the now where your boyfriend is. πŸ™‚ All I know is that if you date, you should do it with intentions of seeing a future together. That’s just my opinion. πŸ™‚

  4. HISprincess13

    Posted by HISprincess13 on July 31, 2012 at 14:26

    This article is so true! Super cool!

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by Maddie on July 29, 2012 at 17:33

    Very good points in this article.

  6. Paris

    Posted by Paris on July 29, 2012 at 17:08

    Lovely article!

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by nicole.smit98 on July 27, 2012 at 11:45

    the guy i like isnt even a Christian. It’s really hard because i don’t even know why i like him. Nor do I know why he likes me. I guess its his charm. But I know, ‘charm is deceptive.’ either way my feelings just wont change. no matter how hard i try. and i know that he definitely isn’t going to change for some girl. πŸ™ yes, i know he’s only one guy and im only 14 ive got my whole world ahead of me. But that doesnt change how i feel right now. :/

    • FutureAuthor324

      Posted by FutureAuthor324 on July 27, 2012 at 14:14

      I’m 14 too…and I’ve had a few major crushes. The best thing to do is pray to God about it! Ask Him to show you what you should do. I REALLY liked this guy…he was a Christian too! I prayed to God for guidance for what to do. I haven’t seen the guy I liked in months. But you know what? I’m fine! God will show you what to do! πŸ™‚