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It’s NEVER Too Late to Wait Until You’re Married to Have Sex!

The Bible is clear that God wants His people to wait until they’re married before having sex. However, He’s clear about other expectations, too. He tells us to honor our parents, not to lie, not to steal, not to put other idols/things before Him, etc. Unfortunately, we all fall short sometimes, but God loves us so much that He forgives us even after we’ve messed up. Premarital sex is no different. If you’ve made a mistake by having sex before marriage, and you’ve repented, then God has forgiven you, too!

Sometimes girls think that if they’ve already had sex, then it’s too late for them to choose to wait for marriage. That’s not true! It’s never too late for you to start over. You can choose right now to refrain from having sex until you’re married. This will be an amazing choice and God will be beaming down at you with pride.

God is pleased when you choose to honor your body. The Bible says this in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20:

Stay away from sexual sins. Other sins that people commit don’t affect their bodies the same way sexual sins do. People who sin sexually sin against their own bodies. Don’t you know that your body is a temple that belongs to the Holy Spirit? The Holy Spirit, whom you received from God, lives in you. You don’t belong to yourselves. You were bought for a price. So bring glory to God in the way you use your body.

However, God also says this in 2 Corinthians 5:17-19:

Whoever is a believer in Christ is a new creation. The old way of living has disappeared. A new way of living has come into existence. God has done all this. He has restored our relationship with him through Christ, and has given us this ministry of restoring relationships. In other words, God was using Christ to restore His relationship with humanity. He didn’t hold people’s faults against them, and He has given us this message of restored relationships to tell others.

When you’re born again, you become a brand new creature. This means that God gives you the opportunity to start fresh in EVERY area of your life. So, you can decide from this day forward to wait until you’re married to have sex.

Making this decision may require you to make some changes in your lifestyle. It’s probably best for you to refrain from putting yourself in a position where you might be tempted. Try to date in groups so that you won’t be alone with boys. Make sure you’re respecting yourself and sending the right message with the clothes that you wear. A little flirting is realistic, but be sure that you’re setting limits with the boys in your life. Also, keep in mind that it’s always okay to say NO!

I’m proud of you for choosing today to wait until you’re married to have sex, but more importantly, you’re making GOD proud. Remember, you’re God’s girl, and He loves you!

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  1. AMG1982

    Posted by AMG1982 on October 7, 2016 at 07:53

    I must say reading many of these comments makes me feel good inside that so many of these young ladies have chosen to wait until marriage. This is a blessing! Because, honestly I was not that strong willed before now. When I was younger I had always said I would wait until I was married, well as you can see I had fell into temptation. This I will say I am not very proud of. I am now 33 years old and have been married twice, I have 1 son by my first marriage and 1 daughter by my second marriage. I have a current boyfriend too. I recently lost my ex-husband my daughters father to suicide this past August. This turning point in my life crushed me because we had a great relationship between us for sake of our daughter. Yes, we still loved each other, we knew what our ups and downs were in our marriage and if I could go back now and fix it I would. The death of my ex-spouse has brought me closer to God like never before. The reason I am talking about this is because it brings me to what this post is all about. I had been struggling with the gut feeling of having sex with my current boyfriend for sometime being that we are not married. It was eating me up inside knowing that we were sinning. I mentioned this to him a few times but just didn’t really act on it. Then when my ex passed the guilt of the sin I was committing hit me even harder. I then reached out to God, the Bible, researching scripture and in turn my heart and my gut had me realize that I needed to make a change in my life. Yes, I am and was an active church goer during all of this. I had decided and approached my current boyfriend on the decision to STOP having sex until marriage; this meant NO foreplay, oral; NOTHING!!! Did he like what I had to say? absolutely NOT!!!! He was furious with me with how could I go from doing it to completely cutting it out. I explained myself to him and I also gave him the option that if this is something he can not live with then he can leave and I would understand. Lets say it has been a couple weeks since I have broke this to him and over a month since we have stopped having sex. Yes, we are still dating and he has accept my change. I must say I feel 110% better doing this finally getting it off my chest and doing what is right by God. This is our duty to glorify God and follow the bible. . . and just like was mentioned before it is NEVER too late to repent and change your life for the good by God. No, it is not right or normal to have sex before marriage, even my mom has told me you know you do not have to wait until marriage to have sex; WOW!!! yes, my own mother recently told me this and my response to her was, well mom, NO ONE is going to change my mind, I am doing what is right! You will find that many people will go with the norm for what society portrays as normal. But, society is not what brings you closer to God, the one who created us, the one we owe our life to. If it is in the bible it is there for a reason and if we trust in the Lord and repent our sins and believe in Jesus Christ we will be rewarded in the end when we reach the new earth . . . As my brother mentioned to me just two days ago following God and his words makes us a minority in this earth and to me that is okay! I am not here to please everyone on this earth I am here to please God! I envy each and everyone of the ladies on here who have given themselves to God & have chosen to wait until marriage! You are amazing & God is proud! Never feel ashamed to wait and do what is right.

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by krawlingchick on April 25, 2014 at 10:36

    I love this . I have been with my boyfriend for over 5 years and we have two kids together. I recently told him I wanted to wait to have sex till marriage. He is not a believer and doesn’t like the idea. He thinks sex is part of the relationship. He doesn’t want to be with me no more. We been having problems before this.it was getting better. Until I told him I wanted to wait. We haven’t been having sex for past month which had been hurting the relationship.Until I finally got gutsto tell him I wanted wait. I was scared tell him but now he doesnt want to be together. He is bored of me . And it hurt me when he doesn’t want be with me and he bored of me. But I want to get closer to god and have been wanting to.but I felt like me having sex was hard for me to get closer. I just wish I didnt have to lose my boyfriend because I love him and we have to kids together. I dont want to see other people and its really going hurt me when he finds someone else, because I still love him so much.

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by neon_lollipops_118 on March 23, 2014 at 12:45

    This is all SO* true!! I think that every girl in the world should read this because I see some girls that are just plainly disrespecting their bodies and some even get pregnant at 12!!! Its shocking that they care that little about themselves that they would just give their bodies to any guy that asks…. I get judged and teased sometimes for waiting till marriage but I don’t care what they think bcs I knoww I’m doing the right thingg…

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by lvaldovinos on January 8, 2013 at 12:31

    Beautifully said!! =)

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by linalizford on November 16, 2012 at 20:39

    I know it’s like 2012 and this was posted awhile ago, but it just really touched my heart. Like this sunday coming up I have come to a conclusion to get saved and ask god to come into my heart. It has been a lot of times i have been in church and wanted to go up to the alter, but something was holding me back. My mind would say “Go!! GO up there!!!” but my body would not move. not its been a few months and i’ve change a lot of things in my life. Really bad sins that i was really ashamed about and now all of a sudden i feel something pulling me and telling me to come to the Lord! I am only 19 years of age and i might be just a young adult, but when i tell you i feel the lord Pulling me to Church this Sunday. I mean I FEEL IT! and i just wanna really thank the Writer, who made this article because it really made me understand how loving and forgiving God is 🙂 i am so excited to start a new leaf and change my life around.

  6. Champ2343

    Posted by Champ2343 on October 17, 2012 at 15:10

    I love this article! 🙂

  7. lovescats

    Posted by lovescats on August 16, 2012 at 17:53

    dear, Nicole i was waching the today show and a model from cosmo was on there talking about beauty products i thought about how many girls will check out cosmo magzine thinking about if their are any beauty products in it they can buy it made me sick to think about that.

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by Heavenleejewel on July 17, 2012 at 19:51

    GREAT BLOG! I LOST MY VIRGINITY AT 16 AND ACCEPTED THE LORD AT THE AGE OF 17. I WAS SO DISAPPOINTED IN MYSELF…MY WORLD WAS SHATTERED I ALWAYS WANTED TO WAIT UNTIL I WAS MARRIED EVEN BEFORE KNOWING THAT THAT WAS WHAT PLEASED GOD. MY PARENTS FOUND OUT AND MY MOTHER REJECTED ME AT THE TIME…EVEN WANTED TO KICK ME OUT OF MY HOUSE…MY WORLD WAS LITERALLY FALLING ON MY SHOULDERS….AFTER ATTENDING A BIBLE CLASS AND LEARNING WHAT FORNICATION WAS MY EYES WERE OPENED TO A WHOLE DIFFERENT WORLD. IN MY FIRST ENCOUNTER WITH GOD…HE EXPRESSED HIS FORGIVENESS AND CALLED ME HIS PRINCESS… I DID NOT UNDERSTAND THAT MERCY OR LOVE BUT I WAS HOOKED…..TODAY I AM 24 AND FOR THE GLORY OF GOD I HAVE NOT BEEN WITH ANY OTHER MAN…AND I WILL KEEP IT THAT WAY UNTIL I GET MARRIED! IT IS TRULY A BLESSING TO BE ABLE TO WAIT ON GOD..ITS NOT EASY…BUT HE WILL STRENGTHEN YOU!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Heavenleejewel on July 17, 2012 at 19:53

      AND TO ADD..I HAVE BEEN MOCKED SO MANY TIMES..I HAVE EVEN HAD SOMEONE TELL ME “DAMN WHAT A WASTE” BECAUSE I DO NOT PRACTICE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE..MY RESPONSE TO HIM…WAS ACTUALLY ITS A GAIN!!

  9. godlovesme316

    Posted by godlovesme316 on July 15, 2012 at 16:42

    I am 18 years old, I am still a virgin and I am so very proud of myself for waiting…one of my fave songs from DC Talk is “I Don’t Want It” from their album Free At Last….it has an amazing msg..

  10. BreadBoyForever

    Posted by BreadBoyForever on July 3, 2012 at 12:51

    I used to look up yo my aunt, but when she moved in with a guy, i kind of lost all respect for her. All she cares about is all her stilettos and makeup brands, and clothes. And the Guy has a daughter who is 8. She tells me that she “hears” them at night. My aunt refused to stay in their guest room, and shares the same room as the guy. Their getting married, and i still don’t respect her. She asks me why i dint talk to her, and i try to be respectful, but i come across as rude. She even teases me about boys and getting pregnant. And my mom tells me not to diss her when she brings this stuff up, but i feel like throwing it in her face. But she can still wait till shes married, but what shes done has hurt her family and me. Am i wrong to feel like this toward her?

  11. biblegirl96

    Posted by biblegirl96 on June 19, 2012 at 20:52

    I am actually waiting to kiss till I’m married; I think if I did that I would be less likely to fall into temptation such as sex, and doing things I would regret. Also, I think it would be much more special, because you’re saving yourself for that one person to kiss and have kids with.

    • Dee

      Posted by Dee on July 8, 2012 at 20:24

      I’ve set that as a guideline, but not a rule, but I’m definitely not kissing him till I know he’s willing to have me as his one and only and vice-versa. So basically, if we get serious enough to consider marriage, then I’ll kiss him. But not before. And nothing more.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by medney on June 30, 2012 at 23:55

      Same here! i know a couple who did the same and they are both grateful they did! i just dont see my self for any reason wishing i had kissed alot of boys… ya know?

      • biblegirl96

        Posted by biblegirl96 on July 2, 2012 at 09:36

        I know exactly what you mean! You just don’t see many people doing that anymore; people think I’m crazy for not kissing and always telling me that that mentality won’t last very long. I’ll be 16 this Sunday, and I think I’m off to a pretty good start.

  12. Project Inspired

    Posted by chelielynnjump on June 19, 2012 at 19:59

    its kind of hard for me to not do anything with a guy. I really try not to but i end up doing stuff anyway. I am still a virgin but ive done other stuff. What should I do?

  13. Project Inspired

    Posted by laxgirl3 on June 17, 2012 at 17:48

    i agreee with this completely!!!! My parents have taught me to wait til i get married to have sex. There is no rush… when the time comes for you to “make babbies” then God will let you AND YOUR HUSBAND(that is after you get married)have kids!!! 🙂

  14. cantcatchme27

    Posted by cantcatchme27 on June 16, 2012 at 15:48

    I have this friend, and she REALLY wants to have sex.for a while, i did too.i read romance novels, looked on youtube {well my friend did}, but then, i went into youth group, and i made a vow to myself not to havesex. i’m happy, but please pray that i won’t be tempted

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  16. Project Inspired

    Posted by Maracta of Cut Productions on June 9, 2012 at 05:54

    1 Corinthians 6:18-20 was my facebook status two days ago! This reminds me of an AMAZING book that have read and am rereading called the Purity Principle by Randy Alcorn.
    It is a tiny, 5 by 6 inchish book, and only about a centimeter and a half thick, and would tke the average reader about two-three hours to read.
    The book is incredible! The author writes powerfully and persuasively about WHY and HOW to save your purity, using actual experiences, powerful/relatable annalogies, and persuasive writing skill which is FULL of scripture.
    I have actually bought and am rereading (with annotation) the book for the very reason of lending it to anyone I think needs it. Because of its size, you can underestimate it and won’t back out of reading it…until it’s to late! MHAHAHA!
    PLEASE READ IT! You won’t regret it! It’s a really cheep book and you can buy ‘used-but-brand-new-undamaged’ version for about $5.00 on Amazon.com (which is what I did). IT will persuade you to guard your heart and purity with more firmity then ever before.
    Good article and love the supporting verses!

  17. Project Inspired

    Posted by bri on June 8, 2012 at 18:46

    What you don’t test drive a car before you buy it? There is nothing wrong with sex or having sex before marriage. What if you marry a guy and the sex is horrible? Trust me sex is a part of that relationship and horrible sex will destroy a marriage.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Kara Brynn on September 5, 2012 at 20:13

      Bri, sweetheart, marriages may fail. But at least you have tried. God will forgive you if you gave the relationship everything you had to keep it alive and couldn’t; He accepts that we are imperfect. But your body is not yours. It is on loan from Him. And if you are test driving a lease, you would be careful. Not so much as a scrape on it. The same way, your virginity is bigger than a scrape. It’s a total wreck. A collision that kills people. Each kiss is a scrape. Each non-explicit sexual act is a dent. Intercourse is a collision. I hate comparing the body to a car, but there you go.

      A final adage: God explicitly stated that sex before marriage is a sin. Your body is so much more than a car…your body is a vehicle of the Holy Spirit.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by TheMouseLover on August 16, 2012 at 19:25

      I’ll be praying for you. Trust me, sex before marriage is NOT ok, because God said its not!

      • Wabby2015

        Posted by Wabby2015 on September 25, 2015 at 15:37

        Think about it this way: If you’ve never had sex before, how are you going to know what’s good and what’s bad? If you’ve had multiple sexual partners, then you are going to be comparing.

  18. Project Inspired

    Posted by justileeanne on June 8, 2012 at 12:18

    I’ve looked through the bible, and maybe I’m not understanding the verses, but where in the bible does it say sex before marriage is a sexual sin or sexual impurity?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Mary K8 on June 22, 2012 at 22:05

      To name a few: 1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Thessalonians 4:3, Colossians 3:5, Matthew 15:19, Hebrews 12:16, Hebrews 13:4 revelation 21:8

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by justileeanne on July 4, 2012 at 13:57

        I’ve read this verses, and they say to “stay away from sexual impurity.” My question is, why do we believe sex before marriage is sexual impurity, or a sin?

  19. Project Inspired

    Posted by WalkingInGrace on June 7, 2012 at 15:29

    It’s funny to read this article as I was just thinking about this topic today at work. I am married now, and abstained from the actual “deed” when I dated, but I definitely blurred the line. I thought about how my husband has made comments to me about my attachment to him because he is my first, and I realized- that’s the point! Society “condemns” someone for feeling strongly about a person after being sexually intimate because it is treated so casually these days. But the truth is, THAT CONNECTION is exactly what God ordained for marriage! I remember a friend telling me that when a family member of hers had slept with someone their spirit had changed, they had taken on a part of that person they were with. Intimacy is what God designed to “bring the two as one”. And it breaks my heart that so many people are missing the truth in what a GIFT it is to save yourself, and your heart for that one person God has destined for you. So much heartache and scars are evident in the lives of those who compromise themselves for the acceptance or affection of others. If a person truly loves you, they will respect your decission to wait (even if they do not share the same convictions.)

    Many are in such a hurry to find the “one” that we miss the beauty in letting God be our “one”. After all, who would treat you better or with more worth and fulfillment than God? Let Him set your standards! You will be saved so much heartache and pain!

  20. Project Inspired

    Posted by Ginger_who_loves_Jesus on June 7, 2012 at 13:47

    This is how I think about it:
    You and your husband are about to have sex on your wedding night. Then someone else comes into bed with you. It’s your ex boyfriend who you had sex with who your new husband doesnt know about. “I’m sorry,” you have to say to him. Already, the trust is broken between you two because he had no idea that you had already slept with someone and given away something so special to another guy.

    It hurts really bad to have to say to the person you are going to get married to that you already have given away your virginity to someone else.
    I have never had that happen to me before(I pledged purity at age 13) and I hope it never will.

    I’m not saying that your husband wont love you if you do that. It’s something you have to make right with God, though. You have to ask him for Him to love you and make you feel better again because you might feel like you are damaged. But God is forgiving and he will love you no matter what you do. He might be a little disappointed, but he will never stop loving you.

    If you have questions about this, read the “Diary of a Teenage Girl: Caitlin” series. It’s a christian teen girl series that deals with all the problems that girls deal with. Caitlin’s one is mostly about how she started questioning whether she should have sex with her boyfriend. But then God came to her and she pledged purity. It’s an amazing story.

    I will be praying for all of you 🙂
    <3, Audrey.

  21. olburrows

    Posted by olburrows on June 7, 2012 at 13:19

    The devotional book I got from my ladies group at school is called, “God’s girl.” You reminded me of it when you mentioned at the end how we are God’s girl. It’s a wonderful book by the way! I recommend that all young ladies read it! 🙂

  22. Project Inspired

    Posted by mc1207 on June 7, 2012 at 11:14

    I love that I am waiting for ONE man, and until marriage, if I am blessed with that. And if I am not, it’s ok. I’m on God’s time 🙂

  23. Project Inspired

    Posted by lorenaramos on May 15, 2012 at 10:51

    This is one of the best decisions I have made. Im getting to know more about God and I have decided not to have any more sex, and it feel way better, even though my bf is okay with it, he told me he watched pornography. I was very sad that I had to go through this. He said he was sorry and he will never do it again. I hope he doesnt because thats a disrespect to me and to God. i will pray for him, but it stilll hurts 🙁

  24. Project Inspired

    Posted by kmb10 on April 8, 2012 at 15:17

    I know that God forgives us, but I have repented before and I feel like I’m on a roller coaster. One second I’m totally in it for God then I just fall. I have been struggling for years now. I sometimes get this feeling in my gut that I need to recommit myself, but it’s so hard when I feel so guilty about what I have done. I’ll start over and then I’ll just fail again. It doesn’t help that I am in college and I’m always running around trying to get things done and working and trying to relax and see my boyfriend. I want to get off the roller coaster and feel like I did when I was 16 and just got baptized, but I always fall short…

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Mary K8 on June 22, 2012 at 21:58

      Romans 3:23-24 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by His grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus” and John 3:17 “for God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him.” no one can stay on an emotional high all the time, and that’s okay 🙂 its important to realize that God can forgive you, no matter what. Jesus came to save you, not to point out all that you had done wrong. I’ll be praying for you to stay strong with God and stay out of that guilt!

  25. Posted by on November 12, 2011 at 19:10

    My boyfriend says, “But what if I don’t get married,” when I asked him about abstinance. This is true but you should respect God’s special bond between married couples. So what if you do get married but your husband was not abstinate yet you are? That would make me feel awful…

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Mary K8 on June 22, 2012 at 21:51

      If you get into that situation and you truly love him, you will be able to forgive him. It was a mistake, but if he’s truly repented and if he was honest about it, then there would be no reason to feel hurt/betrayed. But let’s cross that bridge when we get to it! Haha maybe that won’t happen 🙂

      • B.I.A. Agent 006

        Posted by B.I.A. Agent 006 on January 4, 2014 at 20:36

        I help raise funds for the Christian pregnancy center in my town, at their last walkathon, they gave out bookmarks with comebacks. The comeback for “What if I never get married?” ‘Well, that’s too bad, because then you’ll never get to have sex with me.’

  26. Posted by on October 17, 2011 at 18:52

    I’ve been writing this blog and it kind of has to do with this article. I have decided to make a challenge for myself of not dating for 2 years so that I can focus on God and to fall in love with Him and not focus on guys. I want to allow God to bring that special man He has for me (and for all of you) into my life when He feels i’m ready. I encourage you to please check it out and comment and let me know what you think. I promise it’s safe and it’s just a bunch of posts i’ve written from the things God has given me to write about. 🙂
    http://athenaballes.wordpress.com/2011/09/21/game-face/

  27. Posted by on October 17, 2011 at 13:28

    it’s hard though….95% of people have sex before marriage. plus the bible is sorta outdated. like it says not to have sex before marriage, but it also says that if a child dissobeys their parents they should be stoned to death. so yeah. i kinda think sex before marriage is normal now, so if you want to, it’s your choice.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by ademco on June 18, 2012 at 13:19

      Even though 95% of people do it, doesn’t mean its right. and the only reason the bible seems outdated, is because our society has grown use to sinning, that some of the time we can’t even see the line between wrong and right. I don’t think they stoned children for being disobedient, though in certain places they would stone you for being a christian.Plus,we as christian are suppose to be set apart from the world so even though sex before marriage is normal for most people, we as christian are not suppose to because it is a sin.

    • Posted by AyshaIves on October 20, 2011 at 11:48

      Sarah, I know that it may be hard for some people to refrain from sex before marriage but it really is the best thing to do. This article is to remind young ladies (and even adults) who have already engaged in sex that it’s never too late to do it God’s way! God is understanding and forgiving, but He still expects us to be obedient. Sweetie, The Bible is never outdated! God’s Word will stand forever! “But the word of the Lord endures forever” (1 Peter 1:25.) Most people may be engaging in sex before marriage, but that is the world’s way, not God’s way. As His daughters, we’re expected to set the standard. He loves His children and rejoices when we put Him before the world. Whenever temptation arises, ask The Holy Spirit for strength, and He will give it to you. Oh, and about the stoning- that was in the Old Testament. Jesus came to Earth and died so that we no longer have to endure such things. However, that isn’t a free pass for us to be disobedient unto God or our parents- because we’ll still be held accountable when we meet our sweet Jesus. Be blessed, and I’m praying for all of you girls. It’s tough out in the world!

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by Mary K8 on June 22, 2012 at 21:47

        This is in reply to rabail’s questions- it is still morally wrong to have sex before you get married. Part of this commandment is not because you need to find the right person, it’s also in God’s timing. If he is truly the man God wants you to marry, he will be willing to wait for you. If not, he will move on and so will you. Don’t let a moment of impatience cause regret for a lifetime! And in answer to your next question about going to hell because of one mistake: please read John 3:17; For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn it, but to save the world through Him. You never have to fear going to hell as long as you love God. With love comes belief, trust and obedience. God knows you’re going to sin. The reason to avoid sin is not to avoid going to hell, it’s to reap all the blessings and rewards that come from your obedience! I promise, when you go Gods way, God will bless you in ways that you can’t begin to imagine 🙂 about getting rid of that sinful temptation, the best thing to do is pray. Ask your boyfriend to pray, and some of your Christian friends if you feel comfortable asking for it. We are human, and so we are always going to have temptation of some kind or another, but God is willing to take some of it off our shoulders, you just have to ask. I really hope this helps and I will be praying for you!!!

      • Posted by on October 27, 2011 at 23:34

        Aysha, what if you have found Gods love in a man? what if you both share Gods true love or are on the path of finding it together? We have asked God to give us a sign if we should make love or not is that ok? We both have found love and God has given us this beautiful gift… should we still refrain from sex completely or ask the Lord about it? Last time we both were tempted we did pray and we fought our urge… we both have been praying together and separately and both of us have gotten the same answer from the Lord… which is to wait for his approval… is his approval only through marriage? or is that something me and my boyfriend will have to pray about…. and you know how they say sex is addicting?… what are other ways to get rid of those urges or the feeling or wanting that sinful pleasure?
        and if we do come into temptation will we both go to hell? or do we keep asking for Gods forgiveness …. again im new to Christ soo sorry for some basic questions

  28. Posted by on October 17, 2011 at 13:28

    it’s hard though….95% of people have sex before marriage. plus the bible is sorta outdated. like it says not to have sex before marriage, but it also says that if a child dissobeys their parents they should be stoned to death. so yeah. i kinda think sex before marriage is normal now.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Mary K8 on June 22, 2012 at 21:31

      The Bible is absolutely not outdated, it is still just as applicable today as it was 2000 years ago. The law of children being stoned to death is in the old testament, and since Jesus died for our sins we no longer have to be under that law. However, in Galatians 5:19 (in the NT) it talks about keeping from sexual immorality (i.e., sex before marriage). It doesn’t matter what 95% of the world does, anyway. We’re supposed to be different, to set an example as Christians.

  29. Posted by on October 16, 2011 at 17:22

    Im 17 years old & I have always wanted to wait til marriage. But in my passed I have “messed around” & at first (While being a Christain) I thought it was much different from sex but here lately God has showed me that its the same thing, its a sexual desire & that its displeasing God. I finally stopped everything. But I’ve said this before & its happened. But now I feel like I am more committed to it where I am gonna stay absolutely pure until marriage! (:

    • Jesus_chick_529

      Posted by Jesus_chick_529 on June 15, 2012 at 14:18

      thats awesome 🙂 its great to see more and more girls making the promise!

    • Posted by Nicole on October 17, 2011 at 16:27

      Amen Kasey!! It’s never too late, God has totally forgiven you of your sins!

  30. Posted by on October 12, 2011 at 15:02

    i agree! best thing that has inspired me in a long time! probly the only thing that has actually inspired me evr! im definetly going to wait till im married!! im only 13! but around this time of life it starts to get hard with peer pressure and everything….. 🙂 megan

  31. Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 12:21

    im only a freshman in hs and i made the choice to wait til marriage last year in middle school. how wud u feel if on ur wedding night u had to tell ur husband tht u didnt wait to have sex before ur married but he waited..i wud feel terible..make the choice now to wait..

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by TheMouseLover on August 16, 2012 at 19:16

      (high five) Me too sista! Waiting-till-marriage-freshmen UNITE! I want that first night with my husband to be first for both of us!

  32. Posted by on October 7, 2011 at 09:24

    but sometimes getting the guy that seems perfect and that is your dream guy means you have to make a sacrifice or 2. what if this is the sacrifice i choose? do i go to hell knowing that iam sinning and doing it anyway?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by dana13se on June 7, 2012 at 11:58

      I don’t know, that could be dangerous. Hebrews 10:26-29 says, “For if we go on sinning willfully after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a certain terrifying expectation of judgment, and the fury of a fire which will consume the adversaries. Anyone who has set aside the Law of Moses dies without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of grace?” I’m not saying that we’ll never sin as Christians (even the apostle Paul did), but what I am saying is that if we do not repent of our sins, God is obviously not #1 in our lives the way that he should be. I know it’s hard (my sin is cowardice that I constantly have to repent of), but God will help us if we rely on His strength.

      • Nellie

        Posted by Nellie on August 20, 2012 at 20:33

        Yes, it may say that… and it is not a great idea to go on sinning when you know its wrong, but that is the old testament… the new testament brings the sacrifice of Jesus and the forgiveness that comes with it. I still don’t think it is a good idea, but honestly, God will still forgive you and love you just as much. Its like in Narnia, “Once a king or queen in Narnia, always a king or queen in Narnia.” There will always be a place for you in heaven once you have recieved the gift of forgiveness!!!!

    • Posted by Nicole on October 8, 2011 at 12:44

      No! 🙂 but please, please don’t continue sinning when you know it’s wrong.

      • Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 16:16

        If your having it with him, and he’s not denying, he’s not the one God intended you to have.

  33. Posted by on October 6, 2011 at 18:55

    I think a major part of temptation is just casual conversations with friends. I’m sure most other girls with non-christian or maybe even some christian friends have experienced the awkward conversations when friends start talking and laughing about some inappropriate joke or something that happened. It’s so weird to me how people can casually joke about sex or drugs! In fact, I heard a little eight year old boy today joke about getting high!! It’s so sad. But how do you girls deal with it? I usually try to ignore it & stay out. I will NEVER laugh. I can’t… but my friends know where I stand & sometimes look at me & apologies afterwards. But I really wish they could understand why it disturbs me.

    • Nellie

      Posted by Nellie on August 20, 2012 at 20:28

      I totally agree with you! Those jokes when people say stuff like “oh sorry i’m just a little awkward” or something, but they do it just to be “cool”!! it bothers me too! i mostly just stay away from it also…. i wish more people could understand that those things really aren’t that “cool”

  34. Posted by on October 5, 2011 at 19:11

    I love it! These days it is really hard to wait,but this article helps.

  35. Posted by on October 5, 2011 at 17:40

    my best friend really likes this boy but he does not like her what should she do

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by GodGirlLC on June 27, 2012 at 09:22

      Well, heres the thing. We don’t really know how guys think, He could like her, I had to deal with this plenty of times, I’m even dealing with it right now. 🙂 just remind her that shes beautiful, and She’ll find her match 🙂

    • emily.kate

      Posted by emily.kate on June 7, 2012 at 10:47

      that must be awful for her! i think she should try and move on so that she doesnt get hurt. youve got an excuse for lots of girly days out now to distract her and so that she can meet more guys!

    • Posted by on October 23, 2011 at 02:11

      Nothing. She wants him to like HER not “some other girl.”

    • Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 11:08

      i would tell her absolutely DO NOT push it. if he doesnt like her, there is nothing she can do about it. im sorry if that sounds harsh, but its true. Jessica has a good point, i would take that advice. but dont be pushy about it. she cant make him like her, and that would just mess things up between the both of them.

    • Posted by on October 7, 2011 at 18:03

      well maybe they could just be friends and then he may realize what a nice person she is. maybe he’ll start liking her.

    • Posted by on October 6, 2011 at 21:22

      If it was meant to be and in her plans that God wants, then it will work out! But if not, then it’s alright! God will send her the right guy.

  36. Posted by on October 5, 2011 at 16:09

    My church made us do the purity pledge a few years back. At first, some of us were upset because it was mandatory for all youth. Our parents didn’t even give us a choice! But then they started giving us classes and lessons about the decision we’d be making. It would be like getting married to God. Naturally, a couple people backed out, but nearly twenty kids remained. The ceremony was beautiful. We had dresses made as if we were actually getting married. People even cried!!! No one had any idea it would be THAT emotional, but it was. We realized we were taking a huge step. After the ceremony, we were given rings that would be replaced with a wedding band when we get married in the future.

    At school, some people were skeptical, some thought it was cute, but the major reaction I got was “I wish I had done that.” Even from boys!!! Today, I’m happy I decided not to back out. Sex complicates things, whether people realize it or not. When people ask how I do it, I simply say I don’t put myself in the position where I have to say no. It’s a lot easier than it looks.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by hannah_elisabeth96 on November 29, 2012 at 19:29

      That’s so great! I didn’t have anything quite so extravagant, but i went out to lunch with my dad and he gave me a ring and a piece of paper with some promises for me to consider. He didn’t force me to promise anything, but he didn’t need to! 🙂

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Kara Brynn on September 5, 2012 at 20:03

      Honey, you’re so lucky!! I wish I were allowed to attend a church. Unfortunately, my father is a hard-and-fast atheist, and will not let me practice my faith in the house. I watch services online on Sunday afternoons after they’ve been filmed, from my friend’s church.

      I only recently converted (it’s been just over six months!!:)) and one of the first things I did was take a vow of chastity and put on my purity ring. I think it is the most spiritually satisfying thing I’ve done since becoming close to the Lord. I’m so glad you were able to celebrate that special moment that will change your life for the better in such a huge way. Stick with it, honey!! We’re on the right path, we’re so close with our Father! Keep on honoring Him and yourself, every moment of every day.

      Why on earth would anyone want to abstain from such a holy commitment?

    • RAGdoll392

      Posted by RAGdoll392 on June 23, 2012 at 21:10

      Congratulations! That’s so awesome! It makes the promise of purity an actual material celebration. I so wish we had done something like that. I hate how people think being chaste and a “prude” is uncool, when it really is the opposite. Well, we “prudes” won’t be the ones regretting an experience that would leave us empty and broken for possibly the rest of our lives. Congratulations again!!!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by CassiaNoelle on June 12, 2012 at 10:47

      Rock on, sister! Rock on! I loved reading your post. It encouraged me to continue, as you are, not putting myself in potentially compromising situations. Thank you for your encouragement and I pray that God gives you the strength to continue honoring Him in your relationships (I know He will)! 🙂

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by ayramos on June 18, 2012 at 15:07

        thats awesome, should have been a choice though. God doesnt want anything forced from us. but that is so cute i would of totally done it

    • emily.kate

      Posted by emily.kate on June 7, 2012 at 10:45

      Awh wow! i wish i got to do something like that too!

    • trumpetchick

      Posted by trumpetchick on June 7, 2012 at 08:35

      That sounds so cool!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by skatingsarah96 on April 29, 2012 at 16:02

      they fourced you? i’m sorry hon. i PROBALLY wouldn’t listen to it…..

  37. Posted by on October 5, 2011 at 14:45

    i have a queation, a lot of guys like me but i reject a lot of them because there not what I look for in a guy. I’m looking for a guy to model Christ like behavior but a lot of them dont even come close. Do you think I may be setting my standards too high? Thank you!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by hannah_elisabeth96 on November 29, 2012 at 19:25

      No! My girlfriends are always and forever telling me that my standards are too high when it comes to guys! They think I’m crazy for caring more about guy’s hearts and their relationships with their families and God than their looks. I think your standards are right where they should be.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Roxy321 on August 2, 2012 at 13:56

      God wants us to set our standards high. You are doing the right thing. What you must do now is wait, pray, and enjoy your youth.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Heavenleejewel on July 17, 2012 at 19:40

      NO. AS A DAUGHTER OF GOD..YOUR STANDARDS HAVE TO BE HIGH! DO NOT BUDGE! I REPEAT DO NOT BUDGE!…I KNOW IT CAN FRUSTRATING TO COME ACROSS SO MANY “NICE” GUYS AND HAVE TO REJECT THEM..BUT LOOK AT IT THIS WAY…ROYALTY IS FIT FOR ROYALTY A LOT OF MEN CLAIM TO BE FOLLOWERS OF CHRIST AND THEIR LIFE/BEHAVIOR CLAIMS OTHERWISE…..BY THEIR FRUITS YOU WILL KNOW THEM!!!!!! IF HE DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO TRULY HONOR GOD HE WILL NOT KNOW HOW TO TRULY HONOR U! WAIT WAIT WAIT…GOD IS GOOD AND WHAT HE GIVES IS GOOD!

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by Heavenleejewel on July 17, 2012 at 19:40

        AND ALWAYS REMEBER..WE ARE NOT TO BE UNEQUALLY YOKED! THAT DOES NOT ONLY MEAN WITH NON CHRISTIANS..YOU CAN BE UNEQAULLY YOKED TO SOMEONE WHO IS A CHRISTIAN

    • Dee

      Posted by Dee on July 8, 2012 at 20:07

      NO! I’ve got a lot of guy friends who fit that description, so I know that they exist. Don’t worry if you haven’t found him yet. He’ll be around when God feels you’re ready for him, and he’s ready for you.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by GodGirlLC on June 27, 2012 at 09:19

      NO way! Last year was y freshman year, and you know what? I fell. HARD. I thought he was THE most perfect man ever. except the fact that later When I found Christ I was still in a relationship with him. He was Atheist, but He acted, as if he was Christian, he had the morals, but He wasn’t. He and I are great friends, because, I dont think dating an Atheist is the best idea…. but dont worry, No stadards are too high, Your Gods Daughter, therefore your a princess 🙂

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by EMM on June 21, 2012 at 18:01

      well no one is going to be an exact model of Christ but you need somebody that has strong faith and is faithful to God so no you don’t i am doing the same. God has a plan for you and for me married or not He will give us joy as we walk on the lighted path 🙂

    • Jesus_chick_529

      Posted by Jesus_chick_529 on June 15, 2012 at 14:16

      not at all! you are doing the right thing. you are waiting for the right guy, and protecting yourself from a broken heart. wait for God to tell you when the right guy comes along!

    • Posted by on October 24, 2011 at 11:43

      NO NO NO! 🙂 I thought so too for the longest time, but I lowered my standards, and just recently God has put the most amazing young man in my life! Your Father is looking out for you- he will put the right person in your life when the time is right. Until then, don’t worry about it, because if it is meant to be, it will happen!

    • Posted by on October 15, 2011 at 08:18

      personally, i think that your standards can never be too high because God has ordained the right guy to come along for you and also if he is the right guy, he will meet all those standards. 🙂 i have the same issue, too. there is really no guy at my school i would consider dating, but i’ve had people like me and i would say okay, let’s hang out/talk so i can get to know ’em, but then something would happen, lost/no interest, or we just didn’t act upon it. you learn alot about people and their standards/beliefs/relationship with God and plus, God is always watching out for His babies is how i look at it too. 🙂

    • Posted by on October 12, 2011 at 17:53

      Maybe if they don’t have high enough behavior its God calling you to look beyond your community or be celibate? Just saying, I wouldn’t know.

    • Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 13:10

      If they aren’t Christians and they don’t follow the same morals that you do then it’s not a good idea and it won’t work out. Your standards aren’t too high, they’re right.

      • Posted by on October 10, 2011 at 16:39

        ohhh ok thank you so much! 🙂 God bless!

      • Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 16:13

        No! God SAYS for us to be like that. I think every christian girl should have those standards. 🙂

  38. Posted by on October 5, 2011 at 08:34

    Great point!!