The Bible is clear that God wants His people to wait until they’re married before having sex. However, He’s clear about other expectations, too. He tells us to honor our parents, not to lie, not to steal, not to put other idols/things before Him, etc. Unfortunately, we all fall short sometimes, but God loves us so much that He forgives us even after we’ve messed up. Premarital sex is no different. If you’ve made a mistake by having sex before marriage, and you’ve repented, then God has forgiven you, too!
Sometimes girls think that if they’ve already had sex, then it’s too late for them to choose to wait for marriage. That’s not true! It’s never too late for you to start over. You can choose right now to refrain from having sex until you’re married. This will be an amazing choice and God will be beaming down at you with pride.
God is pleased when you choose to honor your body. The Bible says this in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20:
Stay away from sexual sins. Other sins that people commit don’t affect their bodies the same way sexual sins do. People who sin sexually sin against their own bodies. Don’t you know that your body is a temple that belongs to the Holy Spirit? The Holy Spirit, whom you received from God, lives in you. You don’t belong to yourselves. You were bought for a price. So bring glory to God in the way you use your body.
However, God also says this in 2 Corinthians 5:17-19:
Whoever is a believer in Christ is a new creation. The old way of living has disappeared. A new way of living has come into existence. God has done all this. He has restored our relationship with him through Christ, and has given us this ministry of restoring relationships. In other words, God was using Christ to restore His relationship with humanity. He didn’t hold people’s faults against them, and He has given us this message of restored relationships to tell others.
When you’re born again, you become a brand new creature. This means that God gives you the opportunity to start fresh in EVERY area of your life. So, you can decide from this day forward to wait until you’re married to have sex.
Making this decision may require you to make some changes in your lifestyle. It’s probably best for you to refrain from putting yourself in a position where you might be tempted. Try to date in groups so that you won’t be alone with boys. Make sure you’re respecting yourself and sending the right message with the clothes that you wear. A little flirting is realistic, but be sure that you’re setting limits with the boys in your life. Also, keep in mind that it’s always okay to say NO!
I’m proud of you for choosing today to wait until you’re married to have sex, but more importantly, you’re making GOD proud. Remember, you’re God’s girl, and He loves you!