Music & Culture
Why You Should Care That J. Lo and Marc Anthony’s Marriage is a Wrap
Written by T.M. Gaouette | July 22, 2011
Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony are divorcing. Should we be surprised? Saddened, maybe, but surprised? Unfortunately, no! It’s the Hollywood way. Scarlett Johansson and Ryan Reynolds, Sandra Bullock and Jesse James, Charlie Sheen and Brooke Mueller, Ashlee Simpson-Wentz and Pete Wentz, Madonna and Guy Ritchie…
These are just a few examples of ‘big name’ divorces, but the list goes on and on.
This will be Lopez’ third divorce and Anthony’s second. With statistics stating that approximately 50% of first marriages end in divorce, I wonder if Hollywood stars alone play a huge part in that percentage. Hollywood celebs have damaged the meaning of marriage. Why?
It seems to me that marriage and having children are treated superficially in Hollywood. Weddings are a fairytale and honeymoons are a vacation, but at some point the fun ends and real life begins. Sadly, it seems that real life never begins for most Hollywood celebrities. Being rich and famous and the center of attention often overshadow truth. So when the fun ends, so does the marriage…until the next attraction comes along.
In a way, it’s like a movie. The ceremony is planned, scripted and costumed. There’s a dress rehearsal, the big day, the post-party, the honeymoon…and then….real life. Every aspect of this ceremony, except real life, puts the couple in the spotlight, the place in which they thrive. Only with real life do the elements of a real marriage arise including love, respect, trust, honesty, commitment and communication. These are easier to uphold in good times but not so much in bad. The honeymoon is over!
I pray for teen girls who look up to celebrities and try to copy them. Hollywood stars are in their own world with their own rules. No matter what they do — even if it’s considered bad in the “real world” — they’re accepted and considered cool. But we’re all the same in the eyes of God. For Him the responsibilities in marriage are the same for everyone.
Colossians 3:18-19 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
Marriage is sacred and it should be entered into with the belief that divorce is not an option, and this is why the actions of Hollywood celebrities cannot be an inspiration for others. We “regular people” are blessed because our understanding of marriage is not warped by a Hollywood lifestyle. Because we live in the real world, we understand that marriage is not a movie. At times it’s hard, it’s messy and it’s for life. But if you take the time to find and marry the person best suited to you, you will also be blessed with good and happy times for the rest of your life.
Why do you think Hollywood celebrities disregard the importance of marriage?