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Jamie Grace’s Take on Not Dating Before Marriage


Christian singer-songwriter Jamie Grace from TobyMac’s label Gotee Records has released a book, Boys, Boys, Boys, about dating and how she wants to one day be married, but prefers to not date. Jamie Grace’s intention of not dating is that she’s waiting for the one that God has chosen for her. This takes much faith and courage in our culture, because all society tells us to do is speed date or go on dating sites like ChristianMingle, Match or Coffee Meets Bagel (yes, it’s a real dating app). Yet Jamie Grace holds onto the the plan God has for her.


“I’m single because I choose to be.
I’m single because I’m waiting.
I’m single because I am choosing to wait.”
—Jamie Grace


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Jamie Grace has addressed the reasons why she is single and chooses to not date on her YouTube channel; the video (see below) was viewed more than 400,000 times. Her stance is unique, yet is what I believe we need in our culture today. So many girls date and date and get their heart broken because they have either gone too far physically or were not patient enough to wait on God’s timing. Yes, we can get to know our future spouses by building friendships on Christ in purity, but we don’t need to date a ton of men before meeting “The One.” Can I get an amen? I guess the Christian term for getting to know someone with the intention of possibly getting married while building a solid relationship is called “courting.”

Some of you may be scratching your head thinking: Wait a minute…if you’re saying don’t date before marriage, how can you meet “The One”? Great question—glad you asked. This is really all new to me, too, as a believer, because I never thought to just build the friendship—a relationship just built on Christ—instead of dating and it having to be romantic.



I personally believe the way to go about marriage is to build your relationship on Jesus, get to really know the person well and ultimately marry your best guy friend. Think about it: You will be with this person every day, pretty much for the rest of your life, and you cannot base your marriage on something shallow or on a quick sense of emotional butterflies. You need to really know this person is sold out to God and His Kingdom’s purpose, supports your calling and also really honors you in purity before saying, “I do.”

Watch Jamie Grace’s popular YouTube video on Boys, Boys, Boys, and hear her take on marriage and dating:



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Do you think courting is better than dating? What do you think about Jamie Grace’s ideas? Comment below!


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  1. the_Colors_of_The_Sunset

    Posted by the_Colors_of_The_Sunset on July 3, 2017 at 15:58

    I made a promise to God and to myself at the beginning of this past school year (I just finished my sophomore year) that I would not date until I’ve graduated college (and that I would not have my first kiss on the lips until I’m at the wedding altar with my future husband).
    I’ve never had an actual boyfriend before, but I’ve gotten into plenty of romantic flings, romance drama, dumb decisions based on unstable emotions, and heartbreak.
    My relationship with God has definitely grown this year, and for that I’m grateful., but one of the things the Lord showed me was that I should not be seeking out romance in this period of my life. I should be focusing on Jesus, my family, my schoolwork, the Church, my friends, and my ambitions and dreams. And I intend to do just that.
    Honestly, it feels very difficult right now. The majority of my girl-friends have boyfriends/serious crushes who are about to become their boyfriends, and I have an ever-growing crush on one of my fellow Youth Leader friends (AND he has feelings for me as well, but does not know about mine). It’s not that I want or need a boyfriend, it just feels…weird, I guess you could say, to be the one of the only girls my age that I know whose mind isn’t focused on/begging for romance 24/7.
    But I’m thankful to have role models such as Jamie Grace who are in the same boat! Thank God for not being alone in the waiting! 😀

  2. Smylinggirl

    Posted by Smylinggirl on July 1, 2017 at 16:24

    I loved that video when I watched it a few years ago, and I really like Jamie’s view. I have a little bit of a quibble with her use of words. God KNOWS who you are going to marry, but that is different than Him CHOOSING your husband.

    I’m not saying you should be dating around to find someone, but at the same time, you shouldn’t just wait for God to drop a guy on your doorstep (I’m quoting from Katie Gregoire here)


    I really like Jamie’s stance and I agree with her main premise, but I feel like, if we misunderstand people and get caught up in the idea of “The One” it will lead to problems. So I just wanted to throw this other idea out there.