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    Love Doesn’t Hurt: Abuse is NOT Okay

    If someone’s hurting you, it’s absolutely NOT okay. Whether it’s your boyfriend, friend, family member, or trusted adult, you don’t have to live with abuse. You have a right to live a happy and healthy life.

    Unfortunately people sometimes associate abuse with love. Girls sometimes think that her boyfriend hits her because he loves her. Or that it’s her fault that a family member is degrading her. Well, that’s not true!

    God wants you to know that “Love is patient, Love is kind” (1 Corinthians 13:4) and love does NOT hurt! If someone hurts you in any way, that’s not love. People who hurt other people need help and you need to be safe until they’re able to get the help that they need.

    The first step in stopping abuse is recognizing what it is and understanding that IT’S NOT OKAY!

    Four Types of Abuse

    • Physical Abuse includes intentional violence that may or may not result in physical injury.
    • Sexual Abuse is the act of being sexually exploited in any way.
    • Emotional Abuse is when your emotional well being is negatively affected and it typically involves fear, belittling, and verbal intimidation.
    • Neglect is when a caregiver fails to provide the basic necessities for your well being.

    If you’re experiencing any of these types of abuse, seek help immediately. If you don’t know what to do, check back soon for my post on Getting Help When Someone’s Hurting You. If you’re not sure if your situation is abuse, refer to the post on Will You Know Abusive Behavior When You See It? God loves you and He wants you to live a life of happiness. That’s His will for your life! Don’t ever believe that you have to accept abuse. You deserve so much more for your life!

    Have you ever been or know someone who has been in an abusive relationship?

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    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    7 COMMENTS

    1. So, my -ex boyfriend is a year older than me… He broke up with me because, “I have no time for a girlfriend.” But I found out that later on he was flirting with girls, someone told me he still likes me though. What should I do?

      • Hey Jenny- in my honest opinion, I wouldn’t go back out with him. He sounds like he doesn’t know what he wants yet, and definitely needs time to mature. You deserve better than a guy who’s flirting with other girls! Keep this mind and I’ll pray for you right now. 🙂

    2. I want to say thank you for posting this. No one seems to talk about abuse and I’m glad someone is. This really means a lot to me personally. It happens and thank God your making it known. Thank you so much.

    3. Thank you for the article. I did a lot of research on what abuse is because I had no idea when I was in one. It’s been tough but I broke it off with the guy and haven’t had him in my life for almost a year now. God made my body, it is a precious jewel.

    4. i have been abused emotionally, physically, and sexually…the hardest thing is believing it wasnt your fault..i still struggle with that at times…but God is working through me

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