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5 Truths About Love

Hey, sweet girls! Love is often misrepresented in our culture. It’s promoted as a warm and fuzzy feeling associated with desire. But love is so much more than a feeling.

Paul is clear in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 about what love is and isn’t. For example, it’s patient and kind, and never jealous or boastful. I encourage you to read the whole verse if you’re not familiar with it. Paul’s words are so inspiring and saturated with truth that we’re prompted to want to love more and love well, right?

Christians are called to love, but we’re often confused about what love is. Here are some important truths about love that all Christians should know.

  1. It’s a virtue. Scripture calls for us to love our neighbors, love our enemies and love our spouses. That’s one love shared with people we know, people we don’t know and people who hurt us! How can we extend the same love to all of these people? We do it by understanding that love by itself is a virtue. It’s a demonstration of our goodness and morality.
  2. It’s reflected by our actions. 1 John 3:18 reads, “Children, let us love not in word or speech but in deed and truth.” It’s one thing to say, “I love you,” but it means so much more to show that love. Just like the good Samaritan showed love to the man beaten on the side of the road. Love is reflected in our good deeds, our kindness, our forgiveness, our charity. It’s reflected in the way we treat people, whether they’re strangers in the street or our spouses.
  3. It’s not a feeling. We often equate so many other emotions with love. Yearning, passion, lust and joy are just some emotions that mask true love. But these are emotions in themselves. Love gets lost in them and so we assume them to be love. But love can be extended to everyone, no matter who they are and no matter how you’re feeling about them. You can show love to a person while feeling angry with them. To love is to show compassion regardless of the person or the result. This is why the love we have for a spouse is the same as the love we have for our parents or siblings. We may get all feathery in the stomach for a guy and we think that’s love. Or when we get married and experience the honeymoon stage when everything is just so perfect and romantic. But when the reality of life kicks in, after the honeymoon is over, during the arguments, that’s when those feelings fade and true love kicks in.
  4. It’s unconditional. I mentioned earlier that even when you’re angry with a person you love, you still love them, right? And so you should still extend the same kind acts that constitute that love. This means still showing love to someone who’s not being lovable or loving you in return, because as Christians, that’s what we’re called to do.
  5. It’s not easy to show. In fact, sometimes it can be very difficult! This is especially true when someone you love hurts you. Should you pull back on your love? Of course not! This doesn’t mean that you should allow yourself to be abused. You can still love someone as you walk away. This is why love is a virtue and why it’s unconditional.

Ladies, do you have a story to share about love? 

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  1. that_veggie

    Posted by that_veggie on October 12, 2014 at 15:22

    Especially the emotion part… I thought I was ready to say I wanted to marry this guy! The way he made me FEEL was so good!…. I reflect on it now and at the time it ended, I felt as though I was dying. I could not eat, sleep, focus… but I prayed the Lord took away my pain… and I realized that what I felt was overlapping emotions, never once true love. From that experience, I learned that God really does use people to teach us lessons, and He closes the doors we are not meant to enter! Even though I was naive enough to continue to try to open it, when that other door opened, I forgot what I was doing knocking on a closed door.

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by Brie on September 9, 2014 at 21:12

    After majorly losing trust in one of my closest friends, this was really helpful in remembering to forgive him without letting myself get hurt again.Still praying to get the whole ordeal out of my head, because it’s really done a number on my emotions and trust in others. Thanks for writing this!

  3. Infinityfreehugzz

    Posted by Infinityfreehugzz on September 7, 2014 at 15:22

    How do break up with someone without hurting their feelings? Thanks!

  4. GrayC

    Posted by GrayC on August 30, 2014 at 18:07

    How do you know when you really love someone then? If love isn’t an emotion, can you still feel heartache from it? Is missing someone madly part of really caring for someone?

  5. Smylinggirl

    Posted by Smylinggirl on August 29, 2014 at 10:59

    An adult I trusted very much really let me down. While I’ve forgiven him, I have no desire to ever see him or speak to him again. I wonder if I still have that unconditional love or have I just forgiven and let the bridge burn? Thank you for writing on this. I often wonder what love REALLY is.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by Amyulrich on August 26, 2014 at 19:49

    Thanks! This is what I needed to hear. I had been wondering about this so I’m so glad you choose to write on this topic.