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Miss USA 2009: “How My Promise to and Faith in God Helped Me Succeed!”

PI Girls, we’re so excited to introduce you to our new contributor, Kristen Dalton! Dalton was crowned Miss USA in 2009. Today, she is an actress, motivational speaker and founder of the website She Is MOREWe’re thrilled to welcome her to the PI community!

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I’m so excited to be a part of this community with you! I’m super passionate about girls understanding their precious worth. It can save you a lot of tears, regret and strife if you can get a head start on setting morals, standards and goals at a young age.

When I was in 7th grade, I made a promise to God, along with my girls’ Bible study group, to abstain from alcohol, drugs, smoking and sex until marriage. I wrote out a whole letter, sealed it, addressed it to God and that was that. My vow had been made, and in my mind, there were no ifs, ands or buts about it. It made it even better that all my friends were in on it, too!

But then I got to high school, and as my mom predicted, things changed. My friends started trickling off one by one. It sounds naive, I know, but I was genuinely hurt and confused. I thought, Wait, what about the vow? I don’t know where I got the conviction, but I wasn’t very influenced by peer pressure or doing something just because everyone else was doing it. But I was influenced by the knowledge that when I honored God, He would honor me.

I also was very influenced by the fact that I had a big dream. Since the age of three, I had the burning desire to become Miss USA. By high school, I was studying all the winners, their resumes and their final answers. Miss USA was always smart, polished and well-spoken; she held high morals and values, and had a passion for serving others. I wanted to be her, and I knew I had to walk the narrow path in order to stand out when I was finally old enough to compete.

Throughout high school and college, when people found out I didn’t drink and have sex, most didn’t believe me. Even adults I met would grunt and say, “I bet that’ll change soon enough” or “Yeah right, you’ll change” or “There’s no way you’ll get through high school and college without partying and doing it.” These comments made me mad and probably could have easily discouraged me, especially hearing adults say them, but I decided I would just use this as motivation. When people don’t believe in you, YOU have to believe in you…and prove them wrong, of course! 🙂

My mom always told me that it’s better to have people respect you than like you. It was kind of hard to believe that in the midst of not being invited to parties and being left out of everything social. It’s true, I was a bit of a loner, and I started doing a lot of community musical theatre in order to have a place where I felt accepted. But now, I’m so glad I listened to my mother. It’s better to live your life in a way where you’re thinking about your dreams and your future, and you’re considering the possible repercussions of your actions. I believe if I hadn’t done this, I never would have seen my childhood dream come true and won Miss USA!

It may be awesome at your school where you have a lot of strong Christian friends with whom to surround yourself. If so, yay! If not, stay faithful to this: “Blessed is she who believes that The Lord will fulfill His promises to her” (Luke 1:45). It isn’t easy to be the light, stay obedient and walk the narrow path. But making a solid decision about something before you get into the situation makes it a lot easier to stay strong. “And then they will shine among them like stars in the Universe.” (Philippians 2:15). Why try to fit in when you were born to stand out?

[Image: Courtesy Kristen Dalton]

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17 Comments

  1. Publicpassion

    Posted by Publicpassion on October 16, 2013 at 19:43

    This is so touching. I’m going through this right now, losing my friends to drugs and sex. I admit sometimes I think I need to do that for them to like me again. And adults say I will. And in fact, I go to theater to feel wanted, just like you! Thank you for your story. If you can achieve your dreams by staying strong, so can I!

  2. Alexia785

    Posted by Alexia785 on October 1, 2013 at 15:23

    That is soooo good. I really liked the letter to God 🙂

  3. Wallyandartemisforever

    Posted by Wallyandartemisforever on September 30, 2013 at 08:30

    This was an amazing post. I absolutely LOVED IT. Im kind of a loner at school, i mean i have some friends and stuff but im not very social and am never invited to any parties. But youre post has helped me accept the fact that i’ll alway be different and i’ll never truly fit in because im not MEANT TO. I was made for heaven, not a fallen world. And i cant wait to get there, but for now i’ll make the best of it and try and bring as many people with me as I can. WELCOME TO PI, KRISTEN!!!!

  4. Julie xX

    Posted by Julie xX on September 28, 2013 at 10:34

    A Big applause to our God, I’m over-proud of the Lord.He has realized the plans He had for you dear Kristen.I also need God to accomplish great miracles in my life and will keep on hoping cause now I know who MY GOD really is,the Eternal Hope and great Specialist of the impossible to POSSIBLE ever.Be blessed and encouraged all sisters who will see this comment.
    HOLY KISSES,
    JULIE xX =)

  5. brennaeskyler2

    Posted by brennaeskyler2 on September 26, 2013 at 17:48

    Kristen, I’m so glad that you kept your decision with God! That is so powerful and awesome! Right now, I am helping lead a girl’s Bible study at my school! It is so fun to see the girls grow and learn about God! And, Welcome to PI!!

  6. Nef

    Posted by Nef on September 26, 2013 at 15:45

    very encouraging and beautiful story !! <3 WELCOME TO PROJECT INSPIRED KRISTEN !! 😀 <3

  7. Greatest is Love

    Posted by Greatest is Love on September 25, 2013 at 08:25

    So awesome! Thank you and welcome to Project Inspired!

  8. IdaPahus

    Posted by IdaPahus on September 25, 2013 at 03:30

    It`s so awesome you`re a PI member!! Great to read your story, you seem really sweet!!!!:) It was such an inspiration to read your testimony!! Hope to see more of you at Project Inspired! God bless!

  9. emily.kate

    Posted by emily.kate on September 25, 2013 at 01:16

    That was beautiful

  10. Jesus_chick_529

    Posted by Jesus_chick_529 on September 24, 2013 at 16:02

    Beautiful!!!

  11. gracers122

    Posted by gracers122 on September 24, 2013 at 15:46

    Welcome to Project Inspired Kristin!! We are so excited to be your new PI family 🙂 Thanks for sharing your testimony!! It’s so encouraging to know that it IS possible to survive high school and college, being such a strong witness for Christ <3

  12. leahgrace99

    Posted by leahgrace99 on September 24, 2013 at 12:35

    Wow! So excited to read your contributions to Project Inspired! What an awesome and encouraging testimony!

  13. awksjesusfreak

    Posted by awksjesusfreak on September 24, 2013 at 12:23

    I’m so happy that you’re contributing to our precious Project Inspired, Kristen! Welcome to the family!!! 😀 I’ve always had the dream of being Miss America, and while those dreams are still a few years off…you really do inspire me! <3

  14. vanilla

    Posted by vanilla on September 24, 2013 at 11:30

    That is so cool! I would love to hear more about your story.

  15. Project Inspired

    Posted by on September 24, 2013 at 11:12

    This is so cool that your going to be contributing to PI! I am so excited!!!!!!!!!! You sound like such a sweet person. <3

  16. lotr1997

    Posted by lotr1997 on September 24, 2013 at 09:26

    It is so awesome that you will be contributing to this awesome website! I am glad to know that there are women like you out there, who have grace, love, and God in their hearts!