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Modesty Roundtable: Being Modest Is the Hottest

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I’m sure some of these attributes can be appointed to men as well, but in reality, this post is for the ladies.

Here are three reasons being modest is the hottest:

1. It shows others you have respect for yourself.

You wouldn’t let your future child walk outside half-naked, would you? So why would you allow yourself to do it? When it comes to being modest in the way you dress, I promise you that less skin will gain you more respect. Try and stay away from extremely tight and formfitting attire. Here’s a tip: If you have to make a justification as to why it okay to wear, it’s probably not a good idea to wear it in the first place. Any girl worth dating is one who respects herself from the top down and inside out. And this goes for the men as well.

2. It shows you value a yearning for purity. 

Men and women are visual creatures! And although that’s not always the case, you need to understand that what someone will show or doesn’t show can sometimes be the line between staying pure and crossing the line. I’m not saying it’s anyone’s fault, but I am saying it’s easier to stay pure when either both parties aren’t giving each other something to fascinate about (that goes for the guys, too!). Not only will dressing modestly allow you to look at yourself differently, but also it will force you to highlight aspects of yourself besides your curves…like your smile.

3. It shows you are different. 

Anyone can buy skimpy clothes and show some skin. The real world changers are the ones who realize they don’t need to dress the way culture tells them to. Don’t fall into the lie that you need to show something in order to get someone. Seek to be a Proverbs 31 woman, not a Victoria’s Secret Angel. Be different and show the world you are better than their standard of beauty. I’m not saying things like bikinis are necessarily wrong, but I am saying I would encourage you to re-think the reason you wear one, what it reveals, and how much are you wanting to expose. You were made for more than what the world wants you to be.

Modesty is what attracted me to my wife, Juli. I didn’t have to see her in a revealing dress or bathing suit to know she was beautiful. I could tell by the way she respected herself and her body that she was worth pursuing. Not to mention her heart for God is something I can’t explain in words.

Jarrid Wilson (from jarridwilson.com)


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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by cjulin on July 4, 2014 at 15:47

    Look, I know I’m not a girl, but I think in this instance it would be good to hear a male perspective. I’m a college-age male and I have recently written a blog post in response to this very issue. I ask that you also read the comments, as there are some clarifications made there. Whether or not you agree with it, I hope it will make you think.


  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by momojolo on March 22, 2014 at 12:26

    respect yourself by respecting your freedom and not letting people constantly tell you you are being irresponsible & loose in your morals because you wear something you like

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by iFLOE on February 14, 2014 at 15:19

    You stole the words right out of my heart, great job!

  4. cuppatea83

    Posted by cuppatea83 on February 11, 2014 at 01:47

    Quite encouraging, thank you. Glad to be reading this and agreeing wholeheartedly.

  5. Clairabear

    Posted by Clairabear on February 8, 2014 at 09:14

    Favorite part? Men AND women are visual… because we are, too.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by jkondratyuk on February 7, 2014 at 19:54

    I totally agree! Loved this article. Thank you! 🙂