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My Best Friend Is Moving Out of State for College…What Should I Do?
Written by Christi Given | August 14, 2018
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This week, on the PI Girl Talk forum, a PI Girl asked what she should do regarding a friend moving to college out of state. They are best friends and won’t be able to see each other as often. She asked what she should do in this situation, as it’s really difficult.
Stay in Touch
If your best friend moves out of state, keep in contact through the telephone, email, Marco Polo, and Skype or FaceTime. It’s a good idea to send one another cards and letters to encourage and remind each other of the value of true friendship. You can also print pictures and send them for memory’s sake.
Schedule a Trip
One idea as life gets busier with work and school is to dedicate some time on certain weekends and for winter/spring break to visit your bestie or to have her visit you. By carving out the time, you can have something to look forward to and look at as a mini vacation. Throughout life, things inevitably change and shift, and we need to make time for what’s really important.
Because of social media, we can benefit from being able to stay connected. If your bestie moves, stay strong and remember your connection in your heart will always remain. Make sure you invest in communication and don’t give up on the friendship because of distance. What you hold valuable, you will invest in. Also, when your bestie gets done with college, she may move back.
Whether your best friend moves or you move out of state, this type of life change is inevitable. Many people get married and move to other cities or out of state. In life we have to accept and acknowledge life changes. It’s not always easy to grasp or wrap our minds around these life shifts, but be brave and stay positive and encouraging to your best friend, and it will help the process.
It All Works Out in the End
Remember, the world is not ending because your best gal friend is leaving. This also may be a time for you to grow and stretch and meet new people. Just believe in the Lord and his perfect plan for your life. Everything happens for a reason, and we all have different seasons in life. Accept what season you are in and which one you are approaching, and properly prepare yourself for that change.
Life is an adventure and we all have abrupt changes that are not easy to cope with. Remember, you are NOT alone and that God is always with you and will never forsake you. Be open-minded to the new chapter in both of your lives and don’t be codependent on your relationship. Life is beautiful and there are always ups and downs in life. The best way to overcome hardship or unexpected news is to pray. Always know Jesus loves you and wants the best for your life, and the Holy Spirit will comfort you when you feel lonely or scared. Make sure to cheer on your friend and to be honest, yet stay strong in the Lord. Amen?
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