Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
Have you ever had a close friend or even your best friend move to a different school or move far away? Have you had to relocate, adjust and make new friends? This week, a PI Girl asked for some advice because her best friend not only moved, but also has a boyfriend. She’s feeling like her friend doesn’t miss her that much, and is unsure of how to handle the situation. Read the full post here at the “Girl Talk” forum, and feel free to join the conversation.
For one, moving or making new friends is a hard thing to do. Also, having a close friend, relative and/or best friend move can be very difficult and saddening. I remember when I had to move from fifth grade into a new middle school. But I was excited because my younger brother and I were moving to the beach and to a brand-new school that had just been built, so we would be the first class to go from sixth through eighth grades. It was still a little scary to adjust and make new friends, but I met some of my closest sisters and friends who will likely be lifelong girlfriends.
Tips on How to Adjust When a Close Friend Moves Away
1. Write Letters, Stay Connected: This is a great way to keep the friendship going and to continue communicating. Skyping is also a fun way to have girl time and can be something you look forward to in your week.
2. Make New Friends, but Keep the Old: Remember the little song “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other is gold”? It’s true! You can make some great new friends without losing your friendship with your BFF. You never know who God has planned to bring into your life during different seasons. I met some of my closest pals in middle school, like Julianne, who is a very good friend and practically a sister to me. When I was a sophomore in high school, I met Nicole, so it’s never too late to meet your sister or best friend!
3. Trust God: God knows who will be in your life when, and knows your heart, your every concern and every hair on your head. Jesus even experienced moving from town to town, meeting new people, and was even forsaken by his close friends and some disciples. Remember that God knows what is BEST for you, and don’t forget that he wants you to have loving relationships!
4. Encourage Your Friend: If you’re feeling sad and missing your friend or BFF, chances are that she is missing you, too! You should send her a picture, letter, collage (scrapbook), card or something special to cheer her up! Everyone loves getting a nice card or knowing that someone is thinking about them. Usually when we’re feeling down, we need to look at who is around us and think of others before ourselves. Giving always cheers up a sad heart, plus God is delighted when we love and give to others!
“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over…” (Luke 6:38)
5. Plan a Trip or Vacation: The upside to a friend moving out of town is that you can visit her! It’s the perfect reason to book a ticket to wherever she is moving. You can plan a fun vacation, take a road trip, make special memories and maybe have an extended sleepover! Sound like fun? I think this is a fun and optimistic way to look at the bright side of a great friend relocating.
PI Girls, what do YOU think? Do you have any advice? Have you ever experienced this? Comment below! We love you!