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“My Best Friend Moved, What Do I Do?”

Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions. 

Have you ever had a close friend or even your best friend move to a different school or move far away? Have you had to relocate, adjust and make new friends? This week, a PI Girl asked for some advice because her best friend not only moved, but also has a boyfriend. She’s feeling like her friend doesn’t miss her that much, and is unsure of how to handle the situation. Read the full post here at the “Girl Talk” forum, and feel free to join the conversation.

For one, moving or making new friends is a hard thing to do. Also, having a close friend, relative and/or best friend move can be very difficult and saddening. I remember when I had to move from fifth grade into a new middle school. But I was excited because my younger brother and I were moving to the beach and to a brand-new school that had just been built, so we would be the first class to go from sixth through eighth grades. It was still a little scary to adjust and make new friends, but I met some of my closest sisters and friends who will likely be lifelong girlfriends.

Tips on How to Adjust When a Close Friend Moves Away

1. Write Letters, Stay Connected: This is a great way to keep the friendship going and to continue communicating. Skyping is also a fun way to have girl time and can be something you look forward to in your week.

2. Make New Friends, but Keep the Old: Remember the little song “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other is gold”? It’s true! You can make some great new friends without losing your friendship with your BFF. You never know who God has planned to bring into your life during different seasons. I met some of my closest pals in middle school, like Julianne, who is a very good friend and practically a sister to me. When I was a sophomore in high school, I met Nicole, so it’s never too late to meet your sister or best friend!

3. Trust God: God knows who will be in your life when, and knows your heart, your every concern and every hair on your head. Jesus even experienced moving from town to town, meeting new people, and was even forsaken by his close friends and some disciples. Remember that God knows what is BEST for you, and don’t forget that he wants you to have loving relationships!

4. Encourage Your Friend: If you’re feeling sad and missing your friend or BFF, chances are that she is missing you, too! You should send her a picture, letter, collage (scrapbook), card or something special to cheer her up! Everyone loves getting a nice card or knowing that someone is thinking about them. Usually when we’re feeling down, we need to look at who is around us and think of others before ourselves. Giving always cheers up a sad heart, plus God is delighted when we love and give to others!

Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over…” (Luke 6:38) 

5. Plan a Trip or Vacation: The upside to a friend moving out of town is that you can visit her! It’s the perfect reason to book a ticket to wherever she is moving. You can plan a fun vacation, take a road trip, make special memories and maybe have an extended sleepover! Sound like fun? I think this is a fun and optimistic way to look at the bright side of a great friend relocating.

PI Girls, what do YOU think? Do you have any advice? Have you ever experienced this? Comment below! We love you! 

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10 Comments

  1. carol

    Posted by carol on October 3, 2013 at 07:14

    why you are worried?connect through gmail,facebook etc.and you try to spread christianity to your new friends..

  2. jessiebthatsme

    Posted by jessiebthatsme on October 2, 2013 at 19:04

    I just moved to a new town as a junior in high school and it is by far the hardest thing I’ve had to go through. I don’t think that I could have handled it without the help of God. I just have to remind myself everyday that God has a purpose for me moving and that everything is going to work out. Even though its really hard because my group of friends at my old school were Christians and helped me stay close to God and a lot of the people at my new school aren’t like that.

  3. directioner16

    Posted by directioner16 on October 1, 2013 at 14:06

    Well, do you have their numbers? If you do you can text them. But if you don’t then look up their names on Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, Instagram, etc. If you found their names on Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, Instagram, etc. And you can talk to them all day long!

  4. Kate98

    Posted by Kate98 on September 26, 2013 at 10:40

    Three of my friends moved within 2 years. One moved to Kentucky, one moved to Indiana, one moved to Florida, and then my best friend moved to Taiwan.

  5. music_love_janaye

    Posted by music_love_janaye on September 25, 2013 at 14:55

    My two best friends, who are siblings, are going to be moving nearly 4,300 miles away, and it’s awful. I don’t know what I’m going to do when they’re gone 🙁

  6. goatwrangler

    Posted by goatwrangler on September 25, 2013 at 14:27

    Phhht. I’ve lost about five friends to moving, and I’ve moved too.

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by MeganSiebrecht on September 24, 2013 at 23:23

    My best friend moved to Texas after freshmen year from California and we were seriously inseparable we had every class together except our 1st and 4th period was switched. We would hang out everyday after school either at my house or hers and sleepovers almost every weekend. I brought her to God and she’d go to youth with me all the time. When I heard she was moving I was devastated and she didn’t want to leave but I threw her a party. At first we’d text all the time and I went and visited her in Texas and she stayed with us in the hotel. Then she came to California that winter and we planned on hanging out then she suddenly stopped texting me then finally responded saying shes going to hang out with her other friends and I never saw her. After that she stopped texting me back and it was the worst feeling ever, I cried a lot then I started hanging out with this other who has become my best friend ever! It’s been 3 years now and last year on Christmas Eve she text me saying she regretted not talking to me and she didn’t know what to say. I felt as if she wasn’t putting any effort into the friendship and told her I was willing to work on it but now she doesn’t text at all and never responds. When God closes one door he opens another and that’s how I got my best friend and we are seriously the best of friends and are absolutely crazy together!

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by TheGoodLife on September 24, 2013 at 14:30

    My very best friend since we were newborns moved 9 hours away to Oklahoma City when we were 7-turning-8. We were devastated. Now, I see her every 2 years and we are SO close. I actually get to surprise her for her 16th birthday this Thursday by flying down and picking her up from school! heeheehee SSOOOOOO excited!

  9. PolkaDot

    Posted by PolkaDot on September 23, 2013 at 19:22

    My best friends just moved a month ago! It really stinks! But we video chat every couple weeks and try to keep up on facebook.

  10. Publicpassion

    Posted by Publicpassion on September 23, 2013 at 10:42

    I moved in 3rd grade from Virginia to Texas. I know, I was so young that it shouldn’t have mattered. But it sure did. I have one friend left in VA, and I still consider her my best friend. It is tough though, sometimes I feel she doesn’t miss me. I’ve found that texting isn’t the best way to keep in touch. We call each other at least every 2 months, which is a lot easier. Also, we always have something to talk about, for we share the same dream of Broadway! In fact, I think we helped each other build that dream. I hope this helped! And thank you, this was great. I think Abby and I will get close again!