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“My Parents Don’t Have a Relationship with Jesus! What Can I Do?”

My parents don’t believe in God and I desperately want them to! I know that I can’t force Jesus on them and that they have to experience Him for themselves, but I desperately want them to know God! What should I do?

It’s really tough when you’ve developed a relationship with Jesus and your family and friends are still lagging behind in that area. It’s even tougher when they refuse to listen to you when you try to tell them all about God’s AMAZING glory! Every believer wants their family and friends to also be believers, so what do you do when those who are closest to you DON’T believe?

I think every believer has been in this same situation at one time or another. I myself currently have family and friends whom I SO want to experience a committed relationship with Jesus. Unfortunately, they’re still blinded by Satan’s deception. So this is what I’ve learned to do…I think these tips will help you, too!

  • Love them even MORE! Use every opportunity to first demonstrate God’s love toward your parents. For example, when you and your parents disagree about an issue, instead of arguing with them, remember to respond in a Godly and respectful manner. You could also try doing extra chores to help out around the house and even go out of your way to be kind and helpful. Of course, you want to be genuine about what you do, but BE THE EXAMPLE OF CHRIST in your home. Trust me, your family will notice the difference and when they do, that’ll be a GREAT time to talk about the goodness of God!
  • Try not to be too critical. When we see people engaging in ungodly behavior, we sometimes have a tendency to be critical toward them. All of us have been guilty of this at one time or another. However, when we criticize unbelievers, that’ll just give them more of an excuse not to believe. Although it is important that people are held accountable and that they HEAR the Word of God, we should always interact with them in a Godly and loving manner. I’ve learned to give examples of my own life instead of being accusatory. For example, if someone is very angry about something, I’ll tell them a story about a time when I was angry and then describe how God’s love for me took the anger away and replaced it with joy.
  • Don’t take it too personally. When people refuse to listen to you about God, don’t take it personally. It’s NOT you they’re rejecting, they’re rejecting Gods Word because they’re feeling convicted. Deep down in every person, they know the Truth about Jesus, but Satan has deceived many people. When people reject what you have to say about God, just love them even more! Eventually the light will shine through the darkness!
  • Remember that GOD does the growing. 1 Corinthians 3:6 says “I planted the seed in your hearts, and Apollos watered it, but it was God who made it grow.” It’s the job of you as the believer to plant and water the seed by sharing the love of God with your family (through words and actions), but it’s up to God to grow it! You continue to set the Godly example and TRUST that God will do what He does best! Keep your faith activated for their salvation.
  • Don’t give up on them! Never give up on your family! Always remember that God will grant your heart’s desire and He’ll save your household. Pray for your family DAILY, love them, and speak the Word in a loving manner whenever the opportunity presents itself, and watch God come through!

It’s tough when your family isn’t close to God, but trust me, God can and will deliver them! Does anyone else have any suggestions?

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by anna.mendillo on November 14, 2018 at 20:26

    I’m 13 and this summer I re-excepted god into my life after a long and hard trial. My parents are okay with me going to a church camp, getting baptized, and going on a mission trips but they are not believers. Recently I found out that my mom is cheating on my dad he still doesn’t know but I don’t know what to do. I’ve been praying. what else should I do? I have 5 sibling’s and they are all older than me and aren’t that close to god but I think that is because of my parents. They wont take us to church. I don’t know what to do or say I love my parents but I want them to know god does too.

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by blackbelt312314 on September 10, 2013 at 21:11

    Isaiah 55:11 So shall my Word be that goes forth from my mouth: it will not return unto me void but it will accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it 12 For you shall go out with joy, and be led forth with peace: the mountains and the hills shall break forth before you into singing, and all of the trees of the field shall clap their hands.’ This verse was and still is the verse I claim. I have been waiting on my uncle to accept Christ into his heart. But like the song from Fireproof goes ‘while I’m waiting I will serve You while I’m waiting I will worship. While I’m waiting I will not faint I’ll be running the race even while I wait’ sometimes you just have to run the race of faith in front of them, pray, and wait on God to work. I’m praying for all of you who are dealing with this situation. It can be very challenging. Please pray that my uncle will come to know Christ as his Savior

  3. minminmarie

    Posted by minminmarie on August 25, 2013 at 11:18

    Hi! I can really relate to this. But I wanna share to you Acts 16:31. God has given me this verse and I can really see changes nowadays to them.. Thanks for this!

  4. SingingSara6

    Posted by SingingSara6 on August 12, 2013 at 20:34

    Thank you for this. I struggle with my parents not going to church. They were raised going very weekend and saying their prayers every night and now they don’t go to church. The last time they went was over a year ago because it was my confirmation and they won’t go to church unless it’s a confirmation, or first communion, or baptism. I go with my grandma and I continue to live my faith, volunteering at my church but it’s hard to want time for prayer and meditation and to know that I have to wait until they are at work or asleep to have that time for myself and not have them interrupting and have them not understanding why I love to spend so much time at my church. Talking to them doesn’t work so God is the only person who can change their hearts and I hope that someday He will change their hearts because I’ve been living a better life since I went to Him and saw his light and I want them to feel the same way too.

  5. godlovesme316

    Posted by godlovesme316 on August 9, 2013 at 20:16

    my parents used to have a relationship with Jesus..then after dad walked away from the church in ’05, we havent been to church as a family since then…they dont believe that the end is near…i believe it is, because of the visions i have had…and because i pay a little more attention to the news…God Bless!

  6. sha566

    Posted by sha566 on August 8, 2013 at 20:18

    Thank you this helps a lot! I think I am going to try to take them to church with us and hopefully they will find God!!

    • Mandi Pi

      Posted by Mandi Pi on August 9, 2013 at 17:59

      oh i’m glad you saw this!!! i copied it onto my advice forum that you commented on in case you hadn’t seen it. : )