“My Parents Don’t Like the Guy I’m Crushing On…What Should I Do?”
Written by Aysha Ives | October 10, 2013
I really like this guy, but there’s a HUGE problem! My dad doesn’t like him and I know he won’t approve of a relationship with him. What should I do?
This is a tough one! You really like a guy and he likes you back—but the one thing that’s standing between you and a relationship is your DAD! What’s a girl to do? Here are some suggestions to deal with this situation:
- Have a conversation with your parents. God gives you parents for a reason, and their job is to guide you until you’re an adult. Even then, they’ll still be around to give their input! They love you and want to protect you—and if they don’t approve of this guy, then there’s probably a reason why. Engage them in conversation and you might realize that they have some pretty good points!
- If you still think they’re mistaken about your crush, then try to negotiate with them. Ask if it would be okay if you dated him under supervision. It might be best to start with just hanging out with this guy at home with your parents present. After a few date nights at home, perhaps your parents will be more open to letting you try group dates. Eventually you might even work up to dates with just the two of you. If he’s really a good fit for you, eventually your parents will see those good qualities and cut him some slack.
- Don’t disobey your parents! God is very clear in His Word that you should honor your parents. In fact, this is so important to Him that He promises long life IF you obey your parents. Exodus 20:12 says, “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” You should always honor your parents and respect them enough to avoid relationships that they disapprove of! If this guy is someone God has chosen for you, then eventually your parents will come around or the relationship can resume once you’re an adult.
- Pray. Never, EVER underestimate the power of prayer! Ask God if the guy you like is truly someone that HE wants you to be with! If the answer is “Yes,” then ask Him to help your parents see the goodness in this guy. Only God can rectify this situation, so let Him have control over it! You never know who He’ll send or what He’ll do to help your parents change their minds about your crush! Also, ask God to help you to forgive your parents and accept that they only want what’s best for you. This is important so that you stay pleasing to God as you wait for Him to make the situation right. Remember, God wants us to walk in the spirit of forgiveness at all times!
I know that it’s hard when you really like a guy, but your parents say, “No way!” But trust me, the situation WILL work out!
What do you girls think? Has this ever happened to you before? How did you handle it?