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    “People Are Teasing Me About the Guy I Like! What Should I Do?”

    I’m 13 years old and I like this guy who also likes me back! The problem is everyone keeps teasing us about it. The teasing embarrasses me! What can I do to make the teasing stop or to not be so embarrassed?

    When you’re new to the dating world, figuring it out can be pretty tricky! Trying to process your feelings for this guy while dealing with other people teasing you about it can be a rather difficult task. Here are a few suggestions to help:

    • Remind yourself that liking a guy is normal! God created girls to be attracted to guys and vice versa—so having a crush on a guy is absolutely NORMAL! Try not to allow other people to make you feel bad about how you feel.
    • Express yourself. If your friends are the ones who are teasing you, then try having a conversation with them about it. Let them know that the teasing is bothering you! If they care about you and value your feelings, then they’ll stop. However, if they continue to tease you, then you may want to evaluate the quality of your friendships. Are they healthy or are they toxic? If you determine that they’re not healthy friendships, then you may want to consider distancing yourself from them for a while.
    • Set boundaries. When your peers are teasing you and you feel uncomfortable with it, do NOT pretend that it’s okay! Instead, assert yourself and remove yourself from the situation. It’s okay to say, “That’s not cool” and walk away!
    • Be confident! Be determined to show the love and power of Christ every day! Ask God to give you strength and endurance as well as the wisdom to know how to respond to other people appropriately. Eventually, others will see God shining from the inside of you and they’ll leave you alone. Remember, people tend to stop teasing when they see that it’s not having the desired impact!
    • Don’t tolerate bullying! If you feel like the teasing is getting out of control or it’s going on too long, then it’s time to get an adult involved. Be sure to seek out a trusted adult (parent, teacher, principal, guidance counselor, church leader, etc.) to get help. You’re valuable and deserve to be treated with kindness and respect!

    Has this ever happened to you? What did you do? Do you have any additional advice for her?

    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    11 COMMENTS

      • I totally feel yah! I recently started liking one of my best guy friends.. Everyone says that he likes me too, but he seems so oblivious!! It’s so hard to figure out what’s going on in his head! I would love to be in a closer relationship with him, but i don’t want to ruin our relationship now:/ Boy’s are so confusing!

    1. I can’t say that I’m also bothered by this, but my crush certainly is. Whenever we’re together and someone says anything to acknowledge the fact that we like each other, he gets embarrassed and really upset with them. I’m not really sure why, but I can tell you that it gets rather annoying. I mean I understand if people are making a point to tease you about it, but unless it legitimately becomes hurtful, just try to brush it off. In my experience the situation becomes more awkward when you actually make a big deal out of what someone has said, rather than just laughing it off and moving on. I hope this helps!

    2. I think that regardless of what your friends think about the guy or think about the relationship!
      When I was in middle school and high school my friends didn’t like the guy I liked. He was nerdy and wasn’t the most handsome guy at the school, but he was really sweet and he was cute! I sometimes listened to my friends and what they had to say, but in my heart I knew that if I wanted to be with the guy, I had to forget what my friends say and do what my heart wants! I ended up dating the guy from my 8th grade year to junior year. He was in college and played baseball my junior year! I got to every game!!
      I was SO glad I didn’t give in to what my friends said!!

      • He is in his senior year of college now and we still get to talk and I get to see him when he is in town! Its pretty amazing that I have an amazing friend!
        It ended up that I stopped talking to the girls and guys that would tease me about him. But I found new amazing friends and I still have him!
        Blessing in disguise!

    3. a few people teased me about my boyfriend , and have teased me before about the guy i liked last year .
      i never really told them to stop , but i also never really told them or gave them the impression that it was okay , either .
      i can recall a few times when i would say “guys , stop . that’s not cool .” or “well that’s your opinion , and not mine .”
      I think that regardless of what your friends or anyone else says , you should always listen to your heart and just pray about it .
      if things are meant to be , then they’ll be , and obviously God brought this guy into your life for a reason – don’t let other people get into it and take control .

    4. I’m in the same spot right now too! And he is going to be my first serious reletionship cause were taking things slow but everyone seems to tease me about the way he looks and Ik they’re just joking around but that hurts a lot!

    5. I like a guy who is a devoted Christian. He’s in my youth group and I’ve known him for four years. I have two friends who give me problems regarding him once in a while. One of them references how she was in his 5th grade/6th grade split class and how immature he was. Apparently she thinks he’s still the same exact way, even though it’s been five years since then. I try to convince her that he’s matured; I can tell in his actions and the way he speaks. But once in a while she questions me. I mean, all guys are immature once in a while! But the rest of the time, he’s more mature than most of the other guys in my class.
      My other friend doesn’t think he’s good enough for me. He and I both do cross-country and track, and while he’s never been very good at it, I’ve admired his heart and dedication to the sport he loves. But my friend doesn’t see it that way. She tells me once in a while that if we were to get together, I’d be “the talented one in the relationship”. While she did compliment me, she did it at the expense of him, and I was not okay with that. I told her that she was totally wrong, because he is a talented actor and a pretty good singer, too 🙂 It’s just that I wish she wouldn’t speak about him that way.
      I love my friends, and they’re loyal and trustworthy, but this irks me. I understand that there may be things they see that I don’t because I like him too much. But I see so much potential in him that they don’t. I am beginning to not care what anyone thinks of him anymore. But ugh I just wish I could date him!!!

    6. This is such a relief to read! I’m a freshman in college, and I liked this guy who was in my class with me (we had the first trimester together) and he liked me back, but my friends were always telling me that he was a loser and not good enough for me and that it would go nowhere. Worst thing was I wasn’t strong enough and I believed them! Now we barely talk, and I regret it, but you know- you live and you learn from your mistakes and I know not to make that one again….

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