I’m 13 years old and I like this guy who also likes me back! The problem is everyone keeps teasing us about it. The teasing embarrasses me! What can I do to make the teasing stop or to not be so embarrassed?
When you’re new to the dating world, figuring it out can be pretty tricky! Trying to process your feelings for this guy while dealing with other people teasing you about it can be a rather difficult task. Here are a few suggestions to help:
- Remind yourself that liking a guy is normal! God created girls to be attracted to guys and vice versa—so having a crush on a guy is absolutely NORMAL! Try not to allow other people to make you feel bad about how you feel.
- Express yourself. If your friends are the ones who are teasing you, then try having a conversation with them about it. Let them know that the teasing is bothering you! If they care about you and value your feelings, then they’ll stop. However, if they continue to tease you, then you may want to evaluate the quality of your friendships. Are they healthy or are they toxic? If you determine that they’re not healthy friendships, then you may want to consider distancing yourself from them for a while.
- Set boundaries. When your peers are teasing you and you feel uncomfortable with it, do NOT pretend that it’s okay! Instead, assert yourself and remove yourself from the situation. It’s okay to say, “That’s not cool” and walk away!
- Be confident! Be determined to show the love and power of Christ every day! Ask God to give you strength and endurance as well as the wisdom to know how to respond to other people appropriately. Eventually, others will see God shining from the inside of you and they’ll leave you alone. Remember, people tend to stop teasing when they see that it’s not having the desired impact!
- Don’t tolerate bullying! If you feel like the teasing is getting out of control or it’s going on too long, then it’s time to get an adult involved. Be sure to seek out a trusted adult (parent, teacher, principal, guidance counselor, church leader, etc.) to get help. You’re valuable and deserve to be treated with kindness and respect!
Has this ever happened to you? What did you do? Do you have any additional advice for her?