Ladies, role models often are selected by the people who look up to them. And being a role model comes with a lot of responsibility, because often, your every move is being watched and much of how you act and what you do is being emulated.
Even if you would rather not be a role model, you may still have to take on the burden because God has called you to be one. Whatever the reason for your role model status, it’s important that you take the position seriously.
Check out the following quiz to see if you’re on your way to becoming a positive role model.
1. Your friends start dressing more provocatively, so you:
A. Follow their style.
B. Continue trending your chic but modest fashion style.
C. Meet them halfway and sass your style up a bit.
2. You see a new girl sitting alone at lunch, so you:
A. Pretend you don’t see her so you don’t have to feel bad.
B. Ignore her and continue lunch with your friends.
C. Invite her to have lunch with you and your friends.
3. Your friends start picking on another student at school, and sometimes they post negative stuff about her on social media, so you:
A. Join in, even though you feel bad.
B. Tell your friends to cut it out and risk losing them.
C. Stay quiet and hope it gets old soon.
4. You’re hanging out with your group of friends and one girl leaves. The rest of your friends start talking negatively about her, so you:
A. Excuse yourself from the conversation.
B. Partake in the gossip session since you have complaints of your own.
C. Remind the group that she’s a friend and it’s wrong to gossip about her.
5. Your crush asks you out. All your friends have boyfriends and you’ve been feeling left out and lonely, so you’re excited. Only one problem! You’re not allowed to date, so you:
A. Thank him for the invite but inform him that you’re not allowed to date yet.
B. Agree to the date, telling yourself you can worry later about how you’re going to sneak out.
C. Save face and tell him you’re just not interested.
6. You’re at a party at your friend’s house. One of the kids invited brings some alcohol and suggests a drinking game. Your friends choose to partake even though they’re all underage like you, so you:
A. Decide to leave the party, just to be safe.
B. Stay at the party because you’re above temptation, but choose not to play.
C. Take part in the game so you don’t look like a square, but promise yourself that you won’t drink too much.
7. Your best friend has been feeling depressed lately, and she confides in you that she feels worthless, useless, ugly and stupid. You’ve felt that way too at times, so you:
A. Share similar stories about your moments of depression so she doesn’t feel alone in hers.
B. Change the subject, hoping to lighten the mood and get her mind off the negative vibe.
C. Listen attentively, then share God’s word with her, reminding her that He loves her so much and is her strength.
8. Your sister is struggling at school and has a big test the next day. She asks you to help her study, but you and your friends were going out, so you:
A. Cancel your date with your friends and help your sister study for as long as she needs you.
B. Tell your sister that she’ll do great as long as she studies all night.
C. Help your sister for as long as you can before leaving to meet your friends.
1: B–Modesty is always the way to go. Just because your friends choose to dress inappropriately doesn’t mean that you should drop your own values. Christ asked us to be modest, and our duty as Christians is to please Him, not follow our friends.
2: C–It’s only right that we invite new friends into our lives. It’s the compassionate choice and an opportunity to make a new friend.
3: B–God would want you to stand up for the weak, even if it means your friends will turn against you. If it was the other way around, wouldn’t you want someone to stand up for you? You may be afraid, but ask God for strength.
4: C–Gossip is so destructive, and a role model would speak up. You could walk away, but how would that teach a lesson?
5: A–Integrity is an important characteristic of a role model. Your crush may not like the truth, but he will likely respect you for it. Besides, Christ loves the truth.
6: A–You cannot assume that you’re bigger and stronger than temptation. Leave the party.
7: C–When a friend is consumed by depression, the best thing to do is guide her into the light. Changing the subject doesn’t make the depression go away, it just sets it aside. and talking about your own bouts of depression keeps you both in the darkness.
8: A–Your sister needs you and her need is more important than your date. Sometimes you have to sacrifice something that’s important to you in order to help others.
How did you score? Your responses to these scenarios say a lot about you and your desire to be a positive role model. The right answers are the ones that reflect kindness, courage, compassion, and faith, among other Christian values. Do you possess these characteristics? They’re the values of a positive role model.
Ladies, have you been called to be a positive role model? Have you found it to be burdensome at times, or are you comfortable making the right decisions, even if they may upset people close to you?