Ladies, role models often are selected by the people who look up to them. And being a role model comes with a lot of responsibility, because often, your every move is being watched and much of how you act and what you do is being emulated.
Even if you would rather not be a role model, you may still have to take on the burden because God has called you to be one. Whatever the reason for your role model status, it’s important that you take the position seriously.
Check out the following quiz to see if you’re on your way to becoming a positive role model.
QUESTIONS:
1. Your friends start dressing more provocatively, so you:
A. Follow their style.
B. Continue trending your chic but modest fashion style.
C. Meet them halfway and sass your style up a bit.
2. You see a new girl sitting alone at lunch, so you:
A. Pretend you don’t see her so you don’t have to feel bad.
B. Ignore her and continue lunch with your friends.
C. Invite her to have lunch with you and your friends.
3. Your friends start picking on another student at school, and sometimes they post negative stuff about her on social media, so you:
A. Join in, even though you feel bad.
B. Tell your friends to cut it out and risk losing them.
C. Stay quiet and hope it gets old soon.
4. You’re hanging out with your group of friends and one girl leaves. The rest of your friends start talking negatively about her, so you:
A. Excuse yourself from the conversation.
B. Partake in the gossip session since you have complaints of your own.
C. Remind the group that she’s a friend and it’s wrong to gossip about her.
5. Your crush asks you out. All your friends have boyfriends and you’ve been feeling left out and lonely, so you’re excited. Only one problem! You’re not allowed to date, so you:
A. Thank him for the invite but inform him that you’re not allowed to date yet.
B. Agree to the date, telling yourself you can worry later about how you’re going to sneak out.
C. Save face and tell him you’re just not interested.
6. You’re at a party at your friend’s house. One of the kids invited brings some alcohol and suggests a drinking game. Your friends choose to partake even though they’re all underage like you, so you:
A. Decide to leave the party, just to be safe.
B. Stay at the party because you’re above temptation, but choose not to play.
C. Take part in the game so you don’t look like a square, but promise yourself that you won’t drink too much.
7. Your best friend has been feeling depressed lately, and she confides in you that she feels worthless, useless, ugly and stupid. You’ve felt that way too at times, so you:
A. Share similar stories about your moments of depression so she doesn’t feel alone in hers.
B. Change the subject, hoping to lighten the mood and get her mind off the negative vibe.
C. Listen attentively, then share God’s word with her, reminding her that He loves her so much and is her strength.
8. Your sister is struggling at school and has a big test the next day. She asks you to help her study, but you and your friends were going out, so you:
A. Cancel your date with your friends and help your sister study for as long as she needs you.
B. Tell your sister that she’ll do great as long as she studies all night.
C. Help your sister for as long as you can before leaving to meet your friends.
ANSWERS:
1: B–Modesty is always the way to go. Just because your friends choose to dress inappropriately doesn’t mean that you should drop your own values. Christ asked us to be modest, and our duty as Christians is to please Him, not follow our friends.
2: C–It’s only right that we invite new friends into our lives. It’s the compassionate choice and an opportunity to make a new friend.
3: B–God would want you to stand up for the weak, even if it means your friends will turn against you. If it was the other way around, wouldn’t you want someone to stand up for you? You may be afraid, but ask God for strength.
4: C–Gossip is so destructive, and a role model would speak up. You could walk away, but how would that teach a lesson?
5: A–Integrity is an important characteristic of a role model. Your crush may not like the truth, but he will likely respect you for it. Besides, Christ loves the truth.
6: A–You cannot assume that you’re bigger and stronger than temptation. Leave the party.
7: C–When a friend is consumed by depression, the best thing to do is guide her into the light. Changing the subject doesn’t make the depression go away, it just sets it aside. and talking about your own bouts of depression keeps you both in the darkness.
8: A–Your sister needs you and her need is more important than your date. Sometimes you have to sacrifice something that’s important to you in order to help others.
How did you score? Your responses to these scenarios say a lot about you and your desire to be a positive role model. The right answers are the ones that reflect kindness, courage, compassion, and faith, among other Christian values. Do you possess these characteristics? They’re the values of a positive role model.
Ladies, have you been called to be a positive role model? Have you found it to be burdensome at times, or are you comfortable making the right decisions, even if they may upset people close to you?
Looks like I’m on my way to becoming a positive role model, I just finished reading a book called ‘Please Stop Laughing at Me’ by Jodee Blanco. It’s such an inspiring book, it’s about her trials through middle school and high school, she always stood up for herself and for everyone else and was physically and emotionally bullied. The funny thing, is that 20 years after, in their school reunion, everyone apologized, some people even remember. My point is that if you’re being bullied for doing the right thing, for worshipping God, don’t worry, it will only make you stronger. I recommend you all read that book, it’s amazing. Anyway, thanks for this quiz, I hope I become the best role model I can be and that God wants me to be. I can’t really say how much this blog has helped me, keep it up. God bless you all. 🙂
I am making a good decisions but it does not upset the people that are close to me.
100%! Guess my current goal to be a great role-model for all of the sweet little girls I babysit is on its way to success! Yay!
I am on my way to being a positive role model!
I got them all right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with what you said, but can I make one suggestion? For question 6, you said it’s best to leave the party, but what about your friends? Do you just leave them there to possibly get hurt, either from the alcohol, being taken advantage of while under its influence, or driving home drunk? I’m not saying I’d be above temptation, but wouldn’t it be better to at least try and knock some sense into your friends before you leave? And if they still want to do it, then couldn’t you at least pick them up later?
@ Domino
I felt that way to at once, but then my mom said something very important to me. She told me to stand up on a chair and take her hand. Once I did she pulled my hand and I fell off the chair onto the floor. She said, “It is easier for your friends to pull you down, rather then you bring them up.” What she was saying is that even if you want to help your friends (in situations such as the one in question 6) that it is so much easier for you to give in than it is to convince them not to do it.
It just made me think of what she said about gossiping. It’s not good to walk away from gossiping, you should speak up. I’m not saying I wouldn’t go, I’m just saying I’d find some way to help out, at least by letting an adult know what’s going on. But hey, that’s just my opinion, and my opinions often need a little more thought to them
Hey Domino: In this scenario your friends chose to partake. So there was a decision made, and during that discussion you could say you’re leaving and suggest they do so also, but in this case, they said no, so you leave.
Okay, that makes a bit more sense. Thanks for clearing it up for me
my dad had me do the same thing. it hurts but u cant let them pull u from Jesus
Got one wrong. 🙁
its ok i got 2 wrong tht just means we need to study and meditate on God’s word more
I got almost all the answers right I missed one. Number 5 though I got right because that has already happened to me. A guy that I like a lot says he is falling in love with me, and I told him that I liked him too but we can only be friends. He said he understood that I wanted to respect my parents because they said that I couldn’t date. Even though it’s really hard I think we both will like it better when it’s ok with my parents that I date. He is even going to ask my dad before he asks me! That is an awesome guy that he will go to my dad first!
I love this quiz! It makes me feel so good that I have made the decision to be a good role model. I do try to always show my love for God through my actions and lifestyle. Now I understand why younger girls attack me with hugs. They look up to me and that’s a great feeling! Also some advice, always have on a smile! Someone once told me that you never know what people are going through and a simple smile from a friend or even a complete stranger could lift their day and they can remember that their is someone who cares!!
i like this quiz! 😀 thanks!!!!
I Love this quiz! It helps me remember that if they are my true friends they won’t judge me for doing whats right.
I did great! I struggled with number 8,but I picked the right answer!
Yay looks like im becoming a positive role model 😀
Thanks for this quiz! It makes me realize how much I need to change about myself!
Looks like I’m on my way to becoming a better role model as well as a better person! I scored 6 out of 8 correct! I’m gunna keep trying my best as well as reading gods word for guidance :). Thanks Nicole
Im sixteen, trying to live the life God has laid out fr me. At school and with my friends, i find myself being that role model, and i love leading teen girls and showing them Christ. i have two younger siblings, and God has put me in the position where i’m almost like the parent due to parents divorcing and them working a lot. sometimes i dont want to be that role model, i just wanna be a teen. but i wanna encourage you girls who are in my situation, God has placed each of us in the home and place He wants us to be in. It’s ALL for a reason in His glorious plan! Can we unite together and step up to the positions God has placed us in? LETS GO!
I got them all, I don’t think about doing those things like it’s a choice I just automatically do it because I know it’s the righ thing to do.
I got all of them right except one (being completely honest)but at least now I know something I need to work on!
What I should do and what I would do are two entirely different things, quizzes like this, I know how to ace, but I needed to be honest with myself and think about what I would actually do if the situation presented itself. I missed the last two.