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    Q&A – How Can I Convince My Parents to Take Me to Church?

    Question:

    I pray, read the Bible, and worship God. However, my parents don’t take our family to church, and I REALLY want them to! My mom keeps saying things like “Maybe next week,” even though she never takes us, and “We’re too busy!” How can I convince them that our family should go?

    Answer:

    There are two things I want to address here: Respect for parents and showing them when something is important to you.

    The most important thing in this situation is respecting your parents. I can tell that you are very passionate about wanting to attend church but God says, “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the Lord your God gives you” – Exodus 20:12. This is the first commandment listed after the ones that discuss worshiping God and obeying the Sabbath. That tells us that after honoring Him, God expects us to honor our parents.

    Honoring our parents, however, doesn’t mean that we can’t show them when something is important to us. We have to do it respectfully. In light of that, these are the things I would suggest:

    • Pray for your family. If you already do this, great! If not, start. It makes a huge difference!
    • Don’t try to force your entire family to go. You may want to go to church but they may not want to. You can always ask them for a ride, but respect their feelings about attending.
    • Give your parent(s) plenty of notice. Parents are really busy and have to plan out their time in advance. The earlier in the week that you ask, the more likely your parents can fit driving to church into their schedule. If they agree to give you a ride Sunday morning, remind them Friday night so that they don’t forget. If they change their minds, don’t get mad.
    • Don’t beg. If your parents say no, respect their answer because that is what God wants – He wants us to honor our parents.
    • If your parents regularly decline to take you to church, ask them if it’s all right for you to ask a friend who goes to the church you want to attend for a ride.

    It’s a little hard to explain why, and the reasons vary, but many people feel uncomfortable with the idea of going to church if they don’t go or haven’t been in a long time. Don’t try to force your family members into doing something that they are uncomfortable with. If you continue to pray, ask nicely, wait patiently, and if you find a way to church on your own with a friend, your parents will begin to realize how important this is to you.

    Don’t give up!

    Let all that you do be done in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:14

    Written by Jenn Arman

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    Jenn Arman
    Jenn Arman is a youth pastor, freelance writer and blogger. She was born in San Diego, California and raised 2 hours north east in the Inland Empire where she lives with her husband David and their cats. Jenn desires to bring glory to God and a healthy dose of reality to Christians through both writing and preaching. Visit jenniferarman.com for more on her work. You can also connect with her on www.facebook.com/JenniferArman.Writer and https://twitter.com/JennArman

    17 COMMENTS

    1. I have the same problem, but I’m close enough I have asked to walk, but my mom always acts weird about it! But she lets me walk to the store across the street from it, which upsets me. I can’t wait to get my license so I can drive myself!

      • I do, because God has called us to have fellowship with other believers and that we have to be taught in order to go. But I do agree with it being annoying when a parent forces you to go, and that can cause rebellion or turning away.

    2. I’m sorry but I think that God also wants us to honour Him before our parents. He has given us a family and a day dedicated to Him in which we can go to church – without being persecuted – so I think, yes, respect them but their decision not to go doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. So try get a friend to take you. We are so blessed to be able to go in freedom and listen to the preaching of His Word. How can you not be glad to go or see it super necessary?

    3. My parents arent exactly Christian ( I am) It can work out. Plug in at a church that your friend goes to, Or if your mom really does want to take you but is really busy try finding a different church time. I am sure it can be worked out.
      Hope this helps!

    4. Thank you! I personally love the church I go to, but there are some family difficulties. My dad believes that being a Christian is different from being a Catholic, and my mom is just “whatever”. They believe that Christianity doesn’t uphold Jesus’ mother Mary as a saint or a virgin, and Catholicism does. That, I know, is not true, but when I told my mother this she just dropped the topic completely. Nevertheless, I’m still trying, and I want to have a closer walk with God!

    5. I really want to go to church, and my mom says that she and my step dad are still thinking about it, which has been her same answer for about 3 months, and none of my friends are Christians, so I can’t ask one of them for a ride either. This is really good advice though! I’ll start praying.

    6. -sigh- My mom keeps saying “Next week Emily” and I’m getting a little tired of it, I haven’t been to a church service in about 2 months! I’ve tried asking if my friends could give me a ride, but she says no. She’s raised me Christian, but won’t let me go to the place where I can worship him with my friends and people that I know… I don’t know what to do…

    7. My mom and my whole family goes to church but the thing is when it comes to a night worship at church they dont take me, I beg and sometimes I cry because I never go into the night worship to church so sometimes I think if my mother is really faithful to God or not because even when Im all dress up she said no always but when its morning worship she always take me because when its morning worship there’s a lot of people but when its night worship Still many but not that much so I dont know what to do or what to say to her

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