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Q&A – How Can I Convince My Parents to Take Me to Church?

Question:

I pray, read the Bible, and worship God. However, my parents don’t take our family to church, and I REALLY want them to! My mom keeps saying things like “Maybe next week,” even though she never takes us, and “We’re too busy!” How can I convince them that our family should go?

Answer:

There are two things I want to address here: Respect for parents and showing them when something is important to you.

The most important thing in this situation is respecting your parents. I can tell that you are very passionate about wanting to attend church but God says, “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the Lord your God gives you” – Exodus 20:12. This is the first commandment listed after the ones that discuss worshiping God and obeying the Sabbath. That tells us that after honoring Him, God expects us to honor our parents.

Honoring our parents, however, doesn’t mean that we can’t show them when something is important to us. We have to do it respectfully. In light of that, these are the things I would suggest:

  • Pray for your family. If you already do this, great! If not, start. It makes a huge difference!
  • Don’t try to force your entire family to go. You may want to go to church but they may not want to. You can always ask them for a ride, but respect their feelings about attending.
  • Give your parent(s) plenty of notice. Parents are really busy and have to plan out their time in advance. The earlier in the week that you ask, the more likely your parents can fit driving to church into their schedule. If they agree to give you a ride Sunday morning, remind them Friday night so that they don’t forget. If they change their minds, don’t get mad.
  • Don’t beg. If your parents say no, respect their answer because that is what God wants – He wants us to honor our parents.
  • If your parents regularly decline to take you to church, ask them if it’s all right for you to ask a friend who goes to the church you want to attend for a ride.

It’s a little hard to explain why, and the reasons vary, but many people feel uncomfortable with the idea of going to church if they don’t go or haven’t been in a long time. Don’t try to force your family members into doing something that they are uncomfortable with. If you continue to pray, ask nicely, wait patiently, and if you find a way to church on your own with a friend, your parents will begin to realize how important this is to you.

Don’t give up!

Let all that you do be done in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:14

Written by Jenn Arman

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16 Comments

  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Saxophonegirl212 on May 15, 2012 at 21:46

    -sigh- My mom keeps saying “Next week Emily” and I’m getting a little tired of it, I haven’t been to a church service in about 2 months! I’ve tried asking if my friends could give me a ride, but she says no. She’s raised me Christian, but won’t let me go to the place where I can worship him with my friends and people that I know… I don’t know what to do…

  2. Blacky99

    Posted by Blacky99 on January 20, 2012 at 19:13

    I really want to go to church, and my mom says that she and my step dad are still thinking about it, which has been her same answer for about 3 months, and none of my friends are Christians, so I can’t ask one of them for a ride either. This is really good advice though! I’ll start praying.

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by luvJesusInHeavn on November 20, 2011 at 12:04

    Thank you! I personally love the church I go to, but there are some family difficulties. My dad believes that being a Christian is different from being a Catholic, and my mom is just “whatever”. They believe that Christianity doesn’t uphold Jesus’ mother Mary as a saint or a virgin, and Catholicism does. That, I know, is not true, but when I told my mother this she just dropped the topic completely. Nevertheless, I’m still trying, and I want to have a closer walk with God!

  4. Posted by on November 16, 2011 at 16:59

    How can I ask my friend to go to church with me when she always finds an excuse not to? She always tells me that she ants to go but when I ask her she says that I’m pushing religion on her.

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by MaximumRider on October 30, 2011 at 20:40

    My parents arent exactly Christian ( I am) It can work out. Plug in at a church that your friend goes to, Or if your mom really does want to take you but is really busy try finding a different church time. I am sure it can be worked out.
    Hope this helps!

  6. Posted by on October 29, 2011 at 07:35

    I’m sorry but I think that God also wants us to honour Him before our parents. He has given us a family and a day dedicated to Him in which we can go to church – without being persecuted – so I think, yes, respect them but their decision not to go doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. So try get a friend to take you. We are so blessed to be able to go in freedom and listen to the preaching of His Word. How can you not be glad to go or see it super necessary?

  7. Posted by on October 25, 2011 at 12:43

    I’ll be praying for you 🙂

  8. Posted by on October 24, 2011 at 11:24

    i am not a expert but i can say pray about it read the bible ask god for his help. or you can always go with a freind.

  9. Posted by on October 23, 2011 at 19:59

    My parents don’t go to church, but I go to church alone. They drive me to and from on Wednesdays and Sundays.

  10. Posted by on October 23, 2011 at 17:50

    Thank you for the advice! This helps alot, and it makes me feel alot better!

  11. Posted by on October 22, 2011 at 19:01

    This is very inspiring and helpful, THANKS
    <3K

  12. Posted by on October 22, 2011 at 17:35

    hey, i beleive in god and stuff but i don’t think church is super nessicary every week, but i HAVE to go EVERY week cause my mom makes me, and it’s sorta annoying. so don’t complain.

    • Posted by on October 25, 2011 at 18:49

      I do, because God has called us to have fellowship with other believers and that we have to be taught in order to go. But I do agree with it being annoying when a parent forces you to go, and that can cause rebellion or turning away.

  13. Posted by on October 21, 2011 at 16:52

    Awesome advice! You can’t force God down someone’s throat,all you can do is pray for them. They might even get inspired and start going to church!

  14. Posted by on October 21, 2011 at 13:29

    I have the same problem, but I’m close enough I have asked to walk, but my mom always acts weird about it! But she lets me walk to the store across the street from it, which upsets me. I can’t wait to get my license so I can drive myself!

  15. Posted by on October 21, 2011 at 13:26

    If you want to go to church and your parents can’t/won’t take you, try to find a friend who goes to that church. See if her mum wouldn’t mind picking you up.