Q&A – “I’m Bored with My Church. Help!”
Written by Jenn Arman | May 11, 2014
Everybody gets a little bored with their routines from time to time, and going to church is no exception. Feeling bored with your church is nothing to be ashamed of and it’s nothing you need to stress out about!
Boredom usually results from a period of time when our personal preferences and desires are not being met. However, personal preferences and desires aren’t why we go to church (though they do make the experience more enjoyable). We go to church to be with and worship with other believers.
The first thing I encourage you to do if you’re experiencing boredom with your church is to pray. Ask God to show you exactly what you’re bored with. Is it the style of worship, the teaching, the youth ministry?
If God doesn’t show you specifically what is causing the boredom, it’s possible that He is trying to encourage you to move on from that church. Don’t jump to this conclusion right away, though; most of the time our boredom can be eliminated by just changing up our “church routine.”
Here are a few tips you can try to beat the boredom!
- Instead of chatting with friends when you first arrive, find someplace quiet to pray by yourself. Spend time adoring God in prayer, praying for the pastor, his family and the service for that morning.
- It can be hard to get into worship if you don’t particularly enjoy the style of worship music that’s playing. If this is the case for you, try adopting a different position during worship time. Try kneeling or sitting quietly, focusing your heart on God. You can also lift your hands in worship to God. Determine that even though the music is boring, you’re going to show worship to God anyway. He loves that and He’ll bless you for it.
- If you usually attend Sunday school or youth group on Sunday mornings, try sitting in the main service instead. Sometimes all we really need is a change of scenery for a while.
- Volunteer! If you don’t already volunteer, sign up for one of the Sunday ministries at your church. Maybe you could teach a children’s Sunday school class or play with babies in the nursery. Maybe you could be a greeter helping people start their time at church with a smile! If you already volunteer, maybe it’s time to volunteer with a different ministry.
- Take one Sunday a month and leave all of your electronic devices at home. No cell phones or tablets. This will force you to pay more attention to what’s going on around you than who might be texting, Instagraming or Facebooking. You’ll be more focused on the present and that can help alleviate boredom as well.
If you find that you need something a little more drastic to break through the boredom, then see about visiting a friend’s church or youth group. You can even try visiting churches that are part of a different denomination just to see how they differ from your own.
Anytime we begin to feel bored with church, the first thing to do is check our own relationship with the Lord. Are you reading your Bible? Are you spending time in prayer? Sometimes even our own stubbornness can keep us from being satisfied in church! So always make sure to take your boredom to God and ask Him to search your heart for the root cause of it. Then you’ll have a better idea of how to fix it.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. (Colossians 3:15-16)
Girls, what are your tips for when you start to get bored with your church?
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