Q&A – People Think That I’m Different. What Should I Do?
Written by Aysha Ives | November 2, 2011
I need help with something. It’s important to me to be knowledgeable, so I spend a lot of time studying. My friends think I’m too smart and they also say that I act too mature at parties. I don’t have any real friends this year and most of my classmates think that I’m weird, especially since I am a vegan and bring only salads to school. The kids in my school are really sports-oriented and sometimes they put sports before God. In fact, at church they recently announced an AWESOME guest speaker and someone said “Oh, I can’t go. I have a football game.” I don’t fit in at all and I need help!
Thank you so much for writing in. Let me first say that I’m so proud of you for being a leader for God! It’s tough when you feel like you don’t really fit in with your peers. However, despite it all, you still choose to do what’s right. God is proud of you and so am I!
Unfortunately, there will always be people who are going to choose football, parties, and other things over God. Even adults do this sometimes. As God’s children, all we can do is pray for them and encourage them — it’s up to God to do the rest. Consider this:
Who is Apollos? Who is Paul? They are servants who helped you come to faith. Each did what the Lord gave him to do. I planted, and Apollos watered, but God made it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is important because only God makes it grow. The one who plants and the one who waters have the same goal, and each will receive a reward for his own work (1 Corinthians 3:5-8).
Continue to encourage your peers and eventually they’ll see your shining light!
Also, consider this:
God gives each of us talents that we’re supposed to use to further His Kingdom on Earth. So it’s not a coincidence that you’re so smart! God made you that way to better equip you for your earthly assignment. Pray to God and ask Him how to use your talents to help your peers.
- Maybe you could offer tutoring services to help other students who are struggling in some academic areas.
- Perhaps you could educate your peers about the benefits of healthy eating.
Those were just two things that came to mind as I was reading your letter, but ask God for discernment about how you can help. Don’t let your age deter you! Remember David? He was young when God used him mightily to defeat Goliath. God can use anyone who has a willing heart.
Also, please don’t be discouraged because your friends think that you’re “weird.” Even as an adult, I struggle with this same issue at times. People think I’m “weird” or “unrealistic” when I start talking about faith, healing, and other Godly things. What I’ve learned to do is select my friends wisely. If someone doesn’t appreciate me, I choose to love them from afar and move on.
However, I do understand that friendships are important, so here are some tips to help you meet other likeminded teens:
- Consider joining local organizations like a Christian teen group or something similar. This could be helpful even if it’s in a neighboring town. If that’s not an option, then maybe you could start your own!
- Volunteer. That’s a great way to meet other people who have similar interests!
- Try enrolling in a class that interests you. Chances are, the other enrollees will have similar interests.
- Go to the events that you enjoy, even if it’s by yourself. Going to see the speaker that you mentioned would be terrific! Those who do show up might share your interests. Who knows, you could end up making a really good friend or two out of it!
- Pray. Ask God to send people your way who have common interests. God knows that we enjoy friendships with other people and He will open doors in that area.
Girls, do you have any additional feedback for her? I’m sure that she would appreciate your support.