Q&A: Will God Punish Me for Being Boy Crazy?
Written by Jenn Arman | December 9, 2011
Will God punish me for being boy crazy?
The short answer to this is “No.” God created us to be attracted to one another, and often we actually are attracted to the attributes of God in that person (even if that person isn’t a Christian).
When you see an attractive guy, your heart is attracted to beauty. God created us to be attracted to beauty because God himself is beautiful. Have you ever been attracted to a guy who is really kind? Your heart is attracted to kindness because God is kind.
God knows that you will be attracted to boys–He created you that way. But God wants you to be crazy for Him. He loves us exactly the way we are and He can’t love us any more than He already does. What boy can compare with that?
That doesn’t change the fact that we still struggle with lust daily. I personally have battled an addiction to pornography since I was 16 years old. If you have never come into contact with any sort of pornographic material, do not start, not even out of curiosity. It is a downward spiral that is hard to reverse.
If you have encountered pornographic material, I want to give you an amazing resource: Dirty Girls Ministries. Dirty Girls Ministries is run by Crystal Renaud, a recovering pornography addict. It’s a place where women and girls of all ages can seek help and advice for lust issues and sexual addictions.
Lust is one of the most difficult issues to deal with, but the Bible has some advice:
- If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away; it is better for you to lose one of your members than for your whole body to be thrown into hell (Matthew 5:29).
Let me be clear: I am not saying that you need to tear out your eye and I don’t think that is literally what Jesus meant, either. The idea is to take precautions and keep away from the things that tempt you to sin. If you struggle with looking at pornography on the Internet, don’t use the computer unsupervised. There is always an alternative to the behavior that is contributing to lust.
- Flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart (2 Timothy 2:22).
The key words in this verse are flee and along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. Whatever intensifies the struggle with lust in your life, run from it! If most of your friends are non-Christians, then I suggest developing friendships with more Christians. They will share your burdens and support you in your struggles.
- Therefore confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, so that you may be healed (James 5:16).
I love James–he’s so practical! This verse is about accountability. You don’t need to tell everyone about your struggle, but you do need to tell someone. Find a Christian that you trust completely and tell him or her that you are struggling with lust. Be specific when you share. Ask him or her to pray for you and to help keep you accountable so that you have someone to answer to when the desire creeps up.
Don’t feel ashamed. Nearly everyone struggles with lust–I promise you aren’t the only one. If you struggle with lust, tell someone and get help. You don’t have to feel alone.
Do you have an accountability person?
No one, when tempted, should say, “I am being tempted by God;” for God cannot be tempted by evil and He himself tempts no one (James 1:13)
Written by Jenn Arman