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    Quiz: Do You Know How to Deal with a Bully?

    Dealing with bullies can be one of the hardest things in life. Although every situation is unique, there are certain things you can do to increase the chances of stopping your bullies from making you the object of their torment.

    Will you know how to respond if you’re being bullied? Take my Inspired Quiz.

    1. When someone begins to bully you, you should:

    A) Walk away. If you walk away, ignore them, or calmly and assertively tell them you’re not interested in what they have to say, you’re demonstrating that they don’t have control over you.

    B) React with anger and retaliate with physical force.

    2. A more effective response to bullying is:

    A) To report the bullying to a trusted adult.

    B) Don’t report threats and assaults. A bully will often become more and more aggressive because they’ll find out that you told on them.

    3. If bullying continues to occur:

    A) Be as persistent as the bully. Report each and every bullying incident until it stops.

    B) Grit your teeth and bare it. There’s nothing you can do but try to ride it out until the end of the year.

    4. If you’re being cyber-bullied:

    A) Do not respond. Instead, block the cyber-bully and be sure to save and print out emails, text messages or screen shots. Report inappropriate messages to an Internet service provider or website moderator; report threats to the police.

    B) Respond immediately to their text messages, IMs and other forms of cyber-bullying. You want to let them know what’s on your mind.

    5. The healthier way to deal with frustration is to:

    A) Look at the big picture. Bullying can be extremely painful, but try asking yourself how important it will seem to you in the long run. Will it matter in a year? Is it worth getting so upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere.

    B) Hold on to your anger and how you feel and remain angry. Try to be in control of everything that’s happening and try to get your bullies to see things your way.

    6. When you’re feeling isolated:

    A) Share your feelings. Talk to a parent, counselor, coach, religious leader, or trusted friend. Expressing what you’re going through can make a huge difference to the way you feel, even if it doesn’t change the situation.

    B) Continue to avoid new people. Trying to find new friends at a youth group, book club, or religious organization will only increase the chance that you’ll face more bullies.

    QUIZ RESULTS

    If you answered with mostly As, good job! You have just the right instincts when it comes to dealing with bullies.

    If you answered with mostly Bs, you need help with your situation. Be sure to read these helpful articles about dealing with bullies. Always reach out for help and never settle for being bullied. Speak out until it stops!

    Notes:

    1. Bullies want to know they have control over your emotions so don’t react with anger or retaliate with physical force.

    2. In many cases adults can find ways to help with the problem without letting the bully know it was you who reported them.

    3. There is no reason for you to ever put up with bullying.

    4. The bully wants to feel in control of your emotions, so the best response is no response.

    5. Many things in life are beyond our control—including the behavior of other people. Rather than stressing, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to bullies. Try to find the positive in things including your gifts and what you like about yourself. Also, try to find the humor in the situation. If you’re able to relax enough to see the humor in it, you’ll likely be of less interest to the bullies.

    6. Having trusted people you can turn to for encouragement and support will boost your resilience when being bullied. Learn a new sport, join a team, or take up a new hobby such as chess, art, or music and always strive to find good friends who share the same interests and values as you.

    Have you successfully put a bully in their place in the past? Share your story in the comments and inspire other readers to face their bullies.

    Source: helpguide.org

    Nicole
    Nicole
    Nicole Weider is a Salem, Oregon native who moved to Los Angeles and quickly found success as a fashion model at the age of 17. Today, Nicole is an active wife, mom, producer, actress and author and has made it her mission to share her personal story, the bright moments and the challenges, with young women around the world.

    31 COMMENTS

    1. There was a girl at one of my friends birthday party, and all she said to me when I said something was “That is so lame.” And “That is stupid.” But I always smiled to her and tried to laugh…And she left me alone for the rest of the party. 🙂

    2. Thank you for posting this wonderful info, Nicole! Every girl (and guy) needs to know how to deal with a bully, even if they aren’t the ones being bullied. They can share their knowledge with friends and spread awareness. After all, knowledge is power!

      I know personally what it’s like to be bullied. I was harassed and ridiculed all throughout elementary school because of my eyes. I have glaucoma, congenital cataracts, astigmatism and strabismus (which is often referred to as “lazy eye”). Aside from the constant teasing, the students believed that somehow my visual impairment affected my ability to succeed academically. According to them, I was “weird” and a “freak”. As you can imagine, I had serious self-image issues. I hated my eyes and I asked God the famous Q: “Why me?”

      The answer to that question was revealed to me as I progressed through middle school and junior high. God had used me to show others that I am just like them where it counts: I have a heart and emotions. I also have the ability to think and succeed and make decisions for myself. They had been wrong.

      They said I would never be “normal”. But who wants to be “normal” anyway? Why not be yourself? Stand out in the crowd-be a leader!

      The teasing and childish name-calling has ceased as far as I’m aware. I’m sure a comment or two is still made behind my back occasionally, but it doesn’t bother me anymore. I have learned to love me just the way I am because I am beautiful in the eyes of the Creator.

      I have overcome many obstacles that would have never existed where it not for my disability. The trials I have faced have only made me stronger.

      Remember, my friends, “it’s just the dark before the morning.”

      • Taylor- you are so strong, resilient, amazing, and incredible for coming through these dark days a stronger and more self-assured person! they couldn’t be more wrong about you- you ARE so beautiful just the way God made you, He loves you so, so much! He even thinks you have a more beautiful heart then the other mean kids teasing yo, and THAT’s what matters most! Thank you for telling me this, it gave me a sense of confidence about how important it is to not let other’s mean comments affect you- ever! So your story helped me too. Keep spreading the message! You go girl!

    3. When I started public school back in 3rd grade that’s when I started down the long road of being bullied and it continued through my middle school years, Middle school was the hardest because I was picked on for every little thing about me and I was bullied in all types of ways, Physically, verbally, etc. and the hard part was is that when I tried to get help from Teachers or the principal and the staff you know they always have to get everyone’s side of the story and the bullies would always tell them I was lying so then they would take the bullies side and anytime they would try to make some type of effort to stop it it would only get worse because they always told the people picking on me that I was the one telling on them. but God was with me through it all and remind me that I was special and beautiful in his eyes and that’s what mattered and I just finished my first year in high school and I wasn’t bullied at all. I mean there could have been like one comment here and there but it turned out to be the best school year I’ve had!

      • that’s so wonderful and that makes me so happy to hear Cara! See the Lord listened and answered your prayers for them to stop bullying you! When someone does that, they are just insecure, lame, jealous, or are far away from God. Don’t let them get to you because that’s what they want! God Bless. 🙂

    4. i am not often bullied(im small but mighty :)) but my sisters gets picked on a lot. in out apartment complex we are the only anglican family and theres a lot of race hatred. my sis will be out walking and some guys will come up and start yelling at her in spanish and calling her “white b****”. the problem is, we dont speak spanish yet, and cant defend ourselves without using force. whats a girl to do?

    5. I had been badly verbally bullied this past year, and when the two girls who caused all of it realized that I was trying not to let it bother me they brought my little sister into it and started spreading rumors and stuff. I finally took it to my parents and since then things have started to get better. But being bullied sucks but I know that as long as I have people around that love me and I know that I can always to go God for help, that’s really all I need. 🙂

      • have you talked to the principal a bout their abusive behavior? Go up to them and say, “I’m sorry your life is so boring that you need to constantly talk about mine.” that will wake them up! And tell them that “It’s unfortunate they are so insecure that they have to try and make themselves feel better by being evil and putting others down.” I promise that will get their attention like you wouldn’t believe! 🙂

    6. I used to have ‘buck teeth’ and everyone used to make fun of them when I was in grade school. Then I finally told a trusted adult (my friend’s mom) and they never bothered me again. I got braces and I finally removed them a few years ago. 🙂

    7. I think that the worst type of bullying is when they don’t say it to your face, but continue to whisper and laugh at you behind your back. That’s really awful, and sometimes you’ll hear it from other people, like teachers or your friends, which is REALLY horrible and embarrassing.

    8. i have been dealing with bullies i have reported them and one of them has at least let up. it hasnt stoped but i know why. i may not be the healthiest espesaly when it comes to my weight but im praying and things are gettin a little better

    9. I had a girl who was mean to mean to me always said thing that i am going to beat u up and stuff. we were friends before she did this i just ignore it and now were really good friends. thanks so much Nicole for this story

    10. there was a girl

      there was this girl that i was friends with then she turned against me saying i am going to be u up and stuff like that and i ignored it and she stopped and now we are really good friends. by the way great story Nicole,

    11. What I also heard that works is when they insalt you, you just say “Why think you!” or “That means a lot” or even “Thanks for saying that, that really lifted my spirits!” 😉

    12. These are good tips! Last year, I was bullied by someone, but they weren’t worth my time and enery to be focused on, so eventually, I just didn’t let it bother me. These are great tips for the future, thank you, Nicole!! 🙂

    13. Ya know what else? Most bullies treat you badly because they are insecure themselves. Sometimes, well, all the time, you gotta pray for them. Most bullies are hurting, and just loving on them and praying pray for them can make a big difference. Every time someone bullied me (which was not often) I responded with anger, but most of the time, especially when I see it happen to other people, I feel sorry for the bully, for what must be going on in their life that makes them treat people like that? So, food for thought. (:

    14. what i actually do is :ignore, when they insult me say things like : oh thats so nice! it makes them think ‘what?’if they continue, ignore. and my favorite on: a girl called me a b**** at school, so i retaliated with this: a b**** is a dog, dogs bark, bark is on trees, trees are apart of nature, and nature is beautiful. so yeah, thanks for the compliment. 🙂

    15. I had a girl who kinda tormented my friends and me all of my fifth grade year and for about half the year it bothered me but then it actually caused me to become a christian and I am thankful for it. But for some reason I still have trouble forgiving her now, because she is still mean to others. I really want to forgive her but I dont know how……do you have any advice?

    16. please dont delete this. I just wanted to say, an adult makes everything worse, trust me. an they dont really have any authority and chances are the bully won’t care. the best thing to do is laugh in their face it makes them feel stupid and the more and more you do it the more they’ll realize it doesn’t effect you.

    17. I was bullied as a young kid in elementary school, but I never responded in a violent way…I always told my mom and the teachers. I am in 8th grade now and I havent been bullied like that in 8 years 🙂 You dont have to give up girls! And you dont have to respond in a wiolent or mean way! 🙂
      With love,
      Melody 🙂

    18. Call me loud. Call me rude. But I’m the one that stands up and says, “What is your problem?!” If I see someone being bullied in the hallway, even if I don’t know this person, he or she is an innocent person being victimized and it is my job as a Christian to protect them. If at anytime in my life I see some fifth-grade boy being cornered by high school jocks, they better be ready to either back off peacefully or knocked out cold and then arrested.

    19. “You’re so fat.”
      “Really? Thanks so much! I’ve been trying for months to put on a few pounds. Fat is fabulous, as the magazines say now!”
      “You’re so ugly.”
      “Am I ugly enough, though? I put in a lot of effort to scare off people like you.”
      “You’re crazy!”
      “I’m not crazy, my mother had me tested!” (Sheldon Cooper quote, anyone?)
      “Why do you dress so weirdly?”
      “Why do you dress so normally?”
      “I was thinking about inviting you to my party, but you’re so gross and weird, so I won’t.”
      “Thanks for the consideration! My schedule’s filled up and I won’t have time for ANY parties, so it’s nice that SOMEONE decided to acommidate to my new schedule.” (Or another Sheldon quote: “Someone just lost their ticket to Whocon!”)

      Trolololololo…

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