Are you frustrated by a lack of dating prospects, experiencing the heart-wrenching pain of a breakup or feeling abandoned by someone close to you?
If so, I hope this article will encourage you. You clicked on this post because the title resonated with you; you’re wondering if love is worth it. How could it be when vulnerability opens the door to pain?
I’ve felt that way myself over the years. It isn’t always in the realm of dating, either. Sometimes it was a family member or a close friend. Love, in any context, is always a risk. So why open ourselves to love? Is it really worth it?
Community is God’s design
The Garden of Eden set the template for humanity and showed us the most basic of human needs. It was not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18) and that wasn’t just a statement about marriage. It was a statement about community. Adam needed someone else—more people than just himself—to fulfill God’s mission. From Adam and Eve sprung the entire world of humanity, all a reflection of God’s design. We are not meant to be alone. We are meant to love and be loved.
Relationship is worth the cost
These relationships we have will leave us hurting at times. You’ve probably heard people say they don’t go to church because the church hurt them. But you know what the church of Jesus is made of? A whole lot of people who’ve been hurt and who love anyway. The church heals church hurt.
Relationships, romantic or otherwise, are worth the risk. They do require vulnerability, a willingness to open ourselves up to those who might not understand. But if the alternative is to be alone, an island unto ourselves? That’s not a viable option. Community is God’s will.
Author C. S. Lewis said it best: “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
God thought love was worth it
Our foremost example is God Himself, who gave everything He had—His very self, through Jesus—to win a world who hated Him. Think about that. For God, love wasn’t just a risk of getting hurt. It was a guarantee. John 3:16 says “For God so loved the world, He gave His only begotten Son.” God gave His most precious possession—He let Him die an undeserved death to make a way for us before we even thought God was worth it.
That’s some crazy love.
God’s love is our example. To God, loving relationships are worth the risk and the cost because He can redeem them. He can make them beautiful. Even in this fallen, sinful world, God makes beautiful things out of our imperfect, struggling, awkward stories.
When we give up on love, we’re in essence giving up on God. God is love. Only He knows the future. Rather than decide love isn’t worth it, decide God is worth it. Trust Him. Let Him write the story. And when you release the pen into His hand, you’ll see life unfold in a way you never could have written it.