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Should Katie Holmes Court a Catholic?

The sad news in Hollywood is that Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise have gotten a divorce. It may not be surprising, since Hollywood relationships rarely last, but it’s still sad.

At this point, we really don’t know what the underlying reason for their divorce is, but there’s a lot of talk about it being related to Holmes having issues with Cruise’s passion for Scientology. I don’t want to get into the gossip of the story, but I do believe that this brings up a very important question for you, PI ladies.

Since she’s a Catholic–assuming she still is–should Holmes only court Catholics from now on? And when it comes to finding the right husband, should you as Christians only court someone of the same or similar faith as yours?

In other words, should Christians only court and marry other Christians? This question may sound divisive, but befriending a non-Christian is different from marrying one. Especially if you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you have a strong desire to glorify God.

On PI, we’ve discussed both courting and choosing a partner with the same or different religion. Holmes and Cruise’s situation is a great real-life example of the consequences of marrying someone of a different belief system. As Christians, we must put Christ first. Holmes’ first mistake was to put Cruise first.

Holmes had admitted in the past that she had a teen crush on Cruise. So imagine her luck when she was actually approached by him, and then to receive a proposal? I’m sure that was pretty surreal! Needless to say, putting her own Catholic faith aside for his personal belief must have seemed an easy feat. It’s Tom Cruise!!!

But one baby and five years of marriage later, the fireworks are over. Some sources close to the couple are saying it’s because their child is at an age where she too will be partaking in the faith, and Holmes is against that.

Personally, I see this as a perfect example of how religion plays a huge part in marriages. When you put boys and crushes before God, you lose sight of what’s important: Christ.

When the time comes for you to court, there will be many characteristics that you’ll take into consideration before deciding whether the person is right for you. Personality, interests, aspirations, family values and children are just a few of the subject matters that should be discussed, but the most important should be your desire to follow Christ and his teachings. And this is because Christianity dictates how you live your life, how you relate to other people, how you raise your children, and many other things.

As a Christian, Christ must come first in everything you say and do. If your husband doesn’t agree with this, or you are so besotted by him that you are willing to put him before Christ, then you’ll eventually become lost in your relationship. This is because different belief systems lead to conflicting ideas and priorities.

This is what may have happened to Holmes and Cruise. In the short term, the romantic idea of marrying her superstar celebrity crush may have blinded her. He was her No.1, not God. His interests became hers and she lost herself.

But in every marriage, reality sets in and the honeymoon ends. And when that happens, you need to be with someone who shares your love for Christ. You need it because it determines how you deal with every aspect of your marriage.

PI ladies, how important do you think it is as a Christian to marry a Christian?

Image: Katieholmes.com

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31 Comments

  1. LHOTPfan

    Posted by LHOTPfan on December 1, 2012 at 14:51

    This is so biased, it’s not even funny. real love between two people is unlike anything else. If two people have different religious beliefs and are in love and happy and blessed, it’s not a sin to be married to each other. Even the Bible says if two un-similarly believing people marry, they should not separate because they know what they are taking upon themselves in a marriage like that. An unbelieving man can have the best morals and be such a gentleman without believing in God. religion does not determine character.
    We shouldn’t tell girls that it’s not okay to love and marry a wonderful man on the basis that he doesn’t share identical religious beliefs with her.

    • morethanideserve

      Posted by morethanideserve on April 22, 2014 at 14:34

      2 Corinthians 6:14
      Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?…

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by Kathrie on August 15, 2012 at 16:59

    My Christian mom married a non-believer and it has always been stressful on me and my faith. I almost followed Dad’s beliefs when I was little because it seemed easier. But in the end, I followed Mom and learned how to work on following Jesus. Anyway, I feel like the more connected I am with God, the more disconnected I am with my own dad, so I do see marrying a non-believer as a problem not just for the relationship, but for the children’s development as well. Dad never even expressed why he believed God wasn’t real. He was just there.

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by raindance on July 28, 2012 at 10:30

    I do think Christians should strive to marry Christians, because marrying out of your religion might bring up problems later on (church? Family values? Takes on certain controversial topics?). Not to, of course, dissuade Christians from marrying non-Christians or vice versa. But even after only dating a Christian for a year (not with the intention to marry, I’m young!), I could see potential pitfalls for marriage.

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by Kasey on July 23, 2012 at 13:10

    HELP! I know this, and a friend of mine just told me he likes me, I like him too but hes not christian. I’m going to say no to a relationship, but how? I realy don’t want to hurt him. And he just got dumped by a girl who became lesbian. So his heart might be easily crushed. Please I need advice on this, this is a first, and I need help and prayers.

  5. tomboy_loves_Tigers

    Posted by tomboy_loves_Tigers on July 21, 2012 at 16:51

    Let me put it this way: my mom is a devout Roman Catholic, just like her whole family. My dad was baptized Baptist, went to a Lutheran school and a Methodist church. They have been happily married 25 years and the difference in denominations has NEVER, even once, been an issue.

  6. lotr1997

    Posted by lotr1997 on July 15, 2012 at 12:30

    I think it is very important for Christians to only date and marry other Christians. The Bible says that we must not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by Country Christian Girl on July 12, 2012 at 13:18

    I never thought of it in this way- thank you! 🙂

  8. olburrows

    Posted by olburrows on July 11, 2012 at 13:32

    It’s extremely important to marry a Christian! You need someone who will respect you and respect God.

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by crid21 on July 11, 2012 at 13:09

    Great post, Nicole. I started praying for my future husband when I was about 12, specifically that he would love God even more than he loved me. Jesus totally answered that prayer in my husband Nick (AND he’s a hunk to boot!). We’ve been married 8 years next month and have a fantastic marriage. Had I married a non-Christian, I don’t think it would be like this at all!

  10. JesusFreakySongbird

    Posted by JesusFreakySongbird on July 11, 2012 at 12:30

    I think she should stick to christians. I don’t care what denomination someone is if they are saved in Jesus. The Bible advises us not to yoke ourselves with unbelievers. I can understand why.

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by kcervantes on July 11, 2012 at 10:03

    I believe every believer should marry someone who loves Christ as much as they do.

  12. Project Inspired

    Posted by KelseyA on July 11, 2012 at 09:55

    I agree that we should date and marry only Christians. Not necessarily the exact same denomination as ourselves, but definitely within Christianity.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Beth1096 on July 18, 2012 at 10:46

      I agree my dad was a Babtist and my mom was Church of God and they have made it for 21 years.

  13. I

    Posted by I on July 11, 2012 at 09:40

    Well Catholics and Jews may have good standers but Catholics believe in works and the Jews believe God hasn’t come down to earth yet, meaning they don’t believe in his coming, dieing on the cross and rising for us. And no according to scripture we shouldn’t marry other unbelievers. 2 Corinthians 6:14-16 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. But scripture also says that if we already are married to an unbeliever and one of you has got saved it says in 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

  14. Project Inspired

    Posted by Joliela on July 11, 2012 at 09:27

    I don’t think it should matter which denomination she courts. We all worship the same God.

  15. MercyandGrace

    Posted by MercyandGrace on July 11, 2012 at 09:03

    I definately think that she should, if she wants a shot at a relationship that will last. I think that it’s very important that a Christian dates/courts/marries another Christian because you want someone who will keep you strong and reaffirms your faith when it is shaken.

  16. Project Inspired

    Posted by Monica on July 11, 2012 at 07:25

    To be honest, I think Katie Holmes just married Tom Cruise for the fame. (But that’s just my opinion). Anyway, as long as you believe in Christ it shouldn’t really matter what denomination you are. Although denominations could have major differences. Besides God knows who your future spouse is, so pray to Him to see if you are making the right decision.

  17. Project Inspired

    Posted by ElleEcstatic on July 10, 2012 at 21:31

    The most important thing in finding a man is whether or not he loves Jesus. Sometimes i’ll ask my dad if he would let me marry a guy that sounds unsuitable. (example: A man who is covered in tattoos and used to be addicted to drugs. This is all hypothetical) My Dad’s response is always the same. “Does he love Jesus?” my Dad will ask. I always answer that he does, and my father tells me that because this man loves Jesus, no matter what his past is, how he looks, or his race then he is a suitable man for me. (P.S. Catholic is Christian…. And no, I am not Catholic)

  18. sisterwhocares

    Posted by sisterwhocares on July 10, 2012 at 20:10

    Poor Ms. Holmes! I could not even begin to imagine the pressure she is under right now. It is definitely sad that she put aside God and made a decision not faith-based. God, please lead Ms. Holmes to a Catholic man who loves and respects you and helps her grow past her mistake into a more hopeful, faith-based future. Or, if it is your will for her to be single and learn from her mistake, then may it be. Amen

  19. Paris

    Posted by Paris on July 10, 2012 at 20:08

    It is very importnat because having a non christian husband could stunt your growth in christ.

  20. Project Inspired

    Posted by LoveConquersAll on July 10, 2012 at 18:38

    I for one know I would be miserable living with someone who didnt share my faith, its such a big part of my life. It would be a constant fight.

  21. Project Inspired

    Posted by LakenMarie33 on July 10, 2012 at 18:31

    I hope that I do fall in love with and marry a Christian. But you can’t really help who you fall in love with. As long as the person you choose to be with understands that Christ comes first, I think it’s okay to marry a non-believer. I don’t see myself ever doing that. It would be too hard for me. But whose to say that it can’t work for someone else?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by ClassyPlatypus on July 31, 2012 at 20:43

      I agree with you. I think it is easier to marry someone of the same faith, but I know some Christians who married a non- believer, and he/she ended up becoming a Christian later in their marriage, maybe that was what God planned. I am not saying you should be with someone with the idea that you are going to change them though, I’m just throwing out their. If I did end up with someone of a different faith, I would want them to be open minded and a little bit curious about my beliefs, and respect and understand them.

  22. thespiritualwarrior7

    Posted by thespiritualwarrior7 on July 10, 2012 at 18:15

    I think, as long as a Christian is courting someone in the Godly-religon range, like a Catholic or a Jew, than it’s okay.

    • Abby4Him

      Posted by Abby4Him on November 12, 2012 at 12:58

      Godly could include any religion, if you mean like the Christian God, it would be Lord, Yahweh, or Jehovah.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by butterfly-days-firefly-nights on July 19, 2012 at 13:14

      Good point.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Cierra on July 18, 2012 at 16:25

      Defiantly a passion or “relationship” with Christ. However Jew’s don’t believe Jesus Christ was the messiah…

  23. Project Inspired

    Posted by calieiscalie on July 10, 2012 at 16:37

    yes