Should You Tell Your Friend That She’s Losing Her Way?
Written by Christi Given | September 5, 2012
Friendship is an important part of life, and the friendships we have even impact our spiritual walk of faith. Friends are there for one another in times of happiness, sadness and in the normal everyday aspects of life.
PI readers, do you have a friend who is walking in the wrong direction? Is she doing something that is harmful for her life or faith? Would you confront her to help her, even if it was hard?
It is important to be honest and open as a Christian, and to help your family and friends if they are slipping away from God. It may take boldness to tell them and you even risk them not understanding, but if you truly love them and care about them, you will try and point them back to the right path. This is also known as “tough love.”
If one falls down, his friend can help him up (Ecclesiastes 4:10).
Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself or you may also be tempted (Galatians 6:1).
The most important part of helping your friend is to pray for them. Don’t look down on them or be rude about the situation. Self-righteousness and haughtiness are sins, too. The Bible tells us to “gently” restore our friends. We need to walk in love but also in boldness. If you are unsure how to approach your friend or situation, ask God to give you the words, and also tell your friend how much you care before you discuss the matter.
Maybe start by saying, “ I really care about you and I have noticed recently you have been acting different…is everything okay? I want you to know I am here for you. Can I pray for you?” This is a good start!
If a friend is going through a tough season and seems to be acting out, remember to have compassion and patience. Depending on the severity of the situation, you may need to contact an adult for help. It is important to pray for wisdom in dealing with the situation, to be strong and to remember God is with you during this time of difficulty. God has a plan and a purpose, even when we don’t understand or when we cannot figure out why things happen.
Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity (Colossians 3: 12-14).
Sometimes these difficult situations require us to be more filled up with the Spirit. If you are having a hard time, don’t be afraid to ask for prayer, too. You may need to ask for extra wisdom, perseverance and strength.
PI readers, if you have any prayer requests you may leave them below. You don’t need to leave details or names–make sure you respect your friend’s privacy! God bless you all!