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The Brangelina Engagement: A Good or Bad Example for Christian Girls?
Written by T.M. Gaouette | April 18, 2012
When I heard that Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie were engaged, my reaction was, “finally.”
This celebrity couple has been together since 2005. They have since adopted three children and also have three biological children together. The media has hassled Brangelina about marriage since Pitt decided to adopt Jolie’s first two adopted children. But they’d chosen to avoid it for political reasons.
Consequently, a more important group of young people has had a lot to say about Brangelina’s lack of marital commitment: their children. They’ve basically epitomized the reason why marriage should come before children.
In January of this year, Pitt told CBS News:
We’re getting a lot of pressure from the kids. It means something to them and they’re, you know, they have questions when their friends’ parents are married and why is that? We will someday. We will. [But the kids say], ‘Get mommy a ring!’ Okay, I will, I will.
Unfortunately, Pitt and Jolie have minimized the importance of marriage by suggesting in their actions that marriage is not necessary when having children. For many Hollywood couples, it’s obviously not. But ladies, I have to earnestly submit to you that this is not the case.
Pitt and Jolie have provided us with a bad example of building a family. Their approach was backwards. They had children outside of marriage and now they’re trying to create a solid foundation for those children by getting married. Jolie freely admitted this in a 2007 interview with Marie Claire when she said, “We’ve gone the back way around.” She then said the children were a reflection of their commitment to each other. But this is a selfish philosophy because the children have been voicing their need for a committed family through marriage. It’s what they need to feel security and comfort.
Marriage is a necessity in relationships that involve children. It’s a promise that strengthens parenting. Marriage provides a sense of comfort for children, and the Brangelina children understand this and have made it clear they need this security. And their desire for their parents to marry says a lot about the importance of getting married before having children.
I’m pleased this couple has finally decided to get married, but I do pray the union strengthens their relationship. They’re obviously very devoted parents, but they’re lacking in some family values. I pray they take the marriage as seriously as they’ve taken on parenthood.
Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie may be an attractive couple, and they may possess star power, but their priorities are way off when it comes to relationships and building a family.
Ladies, I pray you’re not encouraged by this celebrity couple. I pray you don’t assume it’s okay to have a baby before getting married, or worse, to have a baby in the hopes of having a boy commit to you. Maybe Pitt and Jolie will make it forever. I pray they do, for the children’s sake. But all too often, women are left to take care of their children alone because the child’s father has decided that marriage is just too much of a commitment.
Taking your time to find the right man should be your first priority in a relationship. Making sure he is the right man should be the next step. Marriage comes after and then having children. This is the traditional way of building a family. It’s the only way that secures a family and provides comfort to both parents and all children involved.
Ladies, what did you think when you first heard about the Brangelina engagement?
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Posted by Bmac on August 15, 2012 at 14:25
those poor kids
Posted by skatingsarah96 on April 29, 2012 at 15:41
i’m happy they are getting married, but if they are happy then people should leave them alone about it being “backward”.
Posted by Nisa on April 27, 2012 at 16:17
I also heard that Brad pitt didn’t want to marry until the gay community was also able to. So it seems to me that he also had an anti-christ agenda with all of this.
Posted by E-Dawg on May 2, 2012 at 16:39
No where in the Bible does it say homosexuality is wrong. Some homosexuals have God in their hearts while others don’t; just like straight people. God loves everyone and wants us to too. He also tells us not to judge others. Don’t pick out parts of the Bible and ignore others.
Posted by Footprints on April 24, 2012 at 13:36
Its sooooooooo sad that they did not marry already!
Posted by evangelight on April 22, 2012 at 10:31
I’m proud of project inspired for speaking of issues that are common knowledge to teens and bold enough to speak the truth in love, There is so much talk about the marriage being “for the sake of the children” I disagree as it must first be for the parents otherwise it’s not the original plan of God that said ” it is not good that man should be alone” God created a helper for him before children were ever thot of . Children which come as a result are a fruit of that love. Yes they have it backwards and unless they are doing it for Gods glory and true love to each other it may be a marriage of convenience.and an attempt to ease their guilty conscience before the children. I’m not saying it is but one is left to wonder. I a praying for each one involved in this rlationship and God’s mercy extended.
Posted by sweet on April 19, 2012 at 19:29
i heard that they are engaged. but will only marry when the homosexual’s get “they’re right” to marry. which is wrong. homosexual’s are lost. and we should pray for them, to draw them close to God.
Posted by olburrows on April 19, 2012 at 14:31
Just the thought of having a child before marriage is disgusting! It is not right! The thought of marriage after children doesn’t even make sense to me! It’s like, “really?!”
Posted by Elizabeth on April 19, 2012 at 10:22
I’m happy they’re getting married, but I agree, the way they did all this is not the way to do things. I seriously hope they actually have a real, committed marriage and don’t get divorced after 6 months. I’ll be praying for them.
Posted by Paris on April 18, 2012 at 21:39
I was not shocked because there were rumors for years that they were getting married,and when I confirmed the truth,I thought,at last!
Posted by Maddie on April 18, 2012 at 20:08
All that matters is that they’re great parents. Honestly, I agree that it would have been better to get married BEFORE having kids, but you know, everyone makes mistakes. What matters now is that they’re getting married. I wish them the best of happiness. I think it’s their engagement and their life. Honestly, I don’t think they’re worrying about other people blogging about how they’re a bad example. They’re ADULTS. I just expected more out of Project Inspired than blogging about a celebrity’s engagement. If you have nothing good to say, don’t say it at all. We all known where this sort of news comes from: the tabloids. Who knows what they go through to invade the celebrities’ lives and expose their private plans. I love Project Inspired, but I can do without these types of articles.
Posted by RuthOneSixteen on April 30, 2012 at 12:45
if you think these two are great parents, you clearly know absolutely nothing about them, especially someone as bizarre as Angelina.
Posted by logan0617 on April 19, 2012 at 18:51
Very true!
Posted by Cillee on April 18, 2012 at 18:07
I’m sorry that they didn’t decide to get married first. Marriage is an imitation of the love between the Father and the Son, in a slightly different light, and one of the fruits of marriage is children. Having children is a sacred calling, as is marriage. It should not be taken lightly, and doing so undermines its importance. I really wish that they had committed to each other before imitating a committed relationship by having children.
Posted by logan0617 on April 19, 2012 at 18:51
Im sorry, but I have to disagree. They have not only imitated a commited relationship. They have had one. They have been 100% commited to one another, and have been great parents, and have helped children by adopting them. You do realize that in today’s society, being together for 7 years, exspecially in Hollywood, is extremelydifficult, and through their love for eachother, they have set a good example of true love.
Posted by trumpetchick on April 18, 2012 at 17:34
I don’t think it will last very long. It’s nice that they’re getting married, but most couples in Hollywood fail to see the importance of marriage and don’t even last long.
Posted by beautyinside12 on May 1, 2012 at 14:26
Considering the fact they have been together 7 years raised 6 children marriage is just making everything legal. Why won’t it last?
Posted by Kida on April 18, 2012 at 17:28
Well, this is where I first heard it.
Posted by 101magster on April 18, 2012 at 13:49
i heard somewhere that they dress one of their kids as the opposite gender which is really weird
Posted by Sweetchild on April 18, 2012 at 12:24
I am happy that they are finally getting married. I agree that they should have got married first before having and adopting kids, but who am I to judge? That was their choice, and you can’t undo things from the past. They seem like great parents who take care and don’t exploit their children, we don’t know about their personal life. The most important thing is that they are getting married now, so that their family can grow even stronger and that their kids are well taken care of.
Posted by RuthOneSixteen on April 30, 2012 at 12:44
are you joking? They clearly condone living in sin; they let their daughter dress as a boy; they also let her do creepy things like collect dead animals and cut off another daughter’s doll heads; they spoil them then dump them on nannies to attend fancy awards shows they don’t even need to go to. Yeaaaah. Great parents. Then they’re all the weird stuff Angie HERSELF has done… plus her immoral movies.
Posted by HeavenlyAuroraz on June 25, 2012 at 21:00
Um, I’m sorry…do you know this couple personally? Just because it’s in the media doesn’t mean it’s always true. As A Christian female, you shouldn’t be so quick to judge.
Posted by Sweetchild on May 11, 2012 at 16:07
No I am not joking. And you know this how? From what the media says? If you haven’t been to their house personally, then you cannot say what goes on in their household. We are supposed to be followers of Christ. I am not trying to be mean but I think that you should be less judgmental. Jesus would not talk that way about anyone no matter what they have done, so what gives any of us the right?
Once again, don’t take offence. God Bless 🙂
Posted by logan0617 on April 19, 2012 at 18:48
Very good post 🙂