The Grass Always Looks Greener

    Have you ever heard the phrase, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence? This is a saying I used to hear growing up — it means that someone else’s life always looks better than ours. Doesn’t it always seem like other people are having an easier time in their lives than we are? Well, I’ve got news for you: That just isn’t true! In my experience, there are a few reasons why it sometimes looks like others have it easier.

    • They aren’t living for God – Don’t assume this. This is not always the case, but it could be. The Bible tells us that Satan wants to kill, steal and destroy. The devil is always looking for ways to drive us away from God and when we are living for God, Satan works overtime to screw things up for us. Satan doesn’t really have to bother with you if you aren’t living for God in the first place.
    • Perspective – What might be a difficult situation for one person might seem easy to someone else. Here’s an example – when we were growing up, one of my sisters was diagnosed with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). This made paying attention in school difficult for her. I didn’t have a difficult time paying attention in school, but I’m more emotional than she is. My sister thought that my life was better/easier than her’s because school came easier to me, but I thought her life was better because she didn’t cry and freak out over every little thing. It’s all about perspective.
    • Partial View – Do you know everything about everyone’s life? The girl you see every day who looks like she has her life all together might be verbally abused at home. The girl, who looks happy all the time, might cry herself to sleep every night. The beautiful, skinny girl might have an eating disorder. The cool girl might feel lonely all the time. We don’t know everyone’s full story. We only have a partial view of their lives. It might look better than ours, but looks can be deceiving.
    • Health – Are you eating right? Getting enough sleep? Are you exercising? Our physical health has a lot to do with how we view situations. When we are living a healthy lifestyle – exercising, eating our fruits and veggies, going to bed at a decent time – we are better at dealing with difficult and stressful situations. How about your spiritual health? Are you spending time in prayer and reading your Bible? Listening to worship music and spending time with other Christians? These things help us see situations more clearly and in light of God’s plan.


    I know it’s hard sometimes to look around and feel like everyone else’s life is going better than yours. It’s a difficult lesson to learn, but if God hadn’t put you on the side of the fence that you’re on, then His specific plan for your life couldn’t be fulfilled.

    Do not love the world not the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. — 1 John 2:15-17

    Jenn Arman
    Jenn Arman is a youth pastor, freelance writer and blogger. She was born in San Diego, California and raised 2 hours north east in the Inland Empire where she lives with her husband David and their cats. Jenn desires to bring glory to God and a healthy dose of reality to Christians through both writing and preaching. Visit for more on her work. You can also connect with her on and


    1. There is this girl at my church who seems like she is perfect. She is really skinny, everyone is her friend, and everyone looks up to her. I have always been comparing myself to her and making myself feel down about how I am not as skinny as she is or don’t have as many friends as she does. But then one day I realized something. She isn’t the perfect christian she makes herself appear to be because after her dad died, her and her mother never came back to church. She started hanging out with the young crowd at school and now I never see her. The only thing I hear from her is the updates she puts on Facebook. I also thought she was this perfect girl with this perfect life. But she was dying side. She lost her father and lost her way from Christ. It’s really sad. And all this time when I was trying to be like her, I should have tried to be her friend. Helped her through these tough times. I am glad that I have realized now, that people who seem so perfect, are actually the opposite.

      I pray that she finds her way back to Christ.

        • haha true :)but personally I feel like a better message is instead of looking at everyone else around you, just look at yourself. That’s something I struggle with too because I am competitive and like to check out my competition. I just think a better message is instead of telling yourself how not everyone is perfect, you should tell yourself how to get where you want to be. But that’s a whole other article….

          This is a good article though. I actually wrote an article similar to it on Project Inspired.

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