Have you ever heard the phrase, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence? This is a saying I used to hear growing up — it means that someone else’s life always looks better than ours. Doesn’t it always seem like other people are having an easier time in their lives than we are? Well, I’ve got news for you: That just isn’t true! In my experience, there are a few reasons why it sometimes looks like others have it easier.
- They aren’t living for God – Don’t assume this. This is not always the case, but it could be. The Bible tells us that Satan wants to kill, steal and destroy. The devil is always looking for ways to drive us away from God and when we are living for God, Satan works overtime to screw things up for us. Satan doesn’t really have to bother with you if you aren’t living for God in the first place.
- Perspective – What might be a difficult situation for one person might seem easy to someone else. Here’s an example – when we were growing up, one of my sisters was diagnosed with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). This made paying attention in school difficult for her. I didn’t have a difficult time paying attention in school, but I’m more emotional than she is. My sister thought that my life was better/easier than her’s because school came easier to me, but I thought her life was better because she didn’t cry and freak out over every little thing. It’s all about perspective.
- Partial View – Do you know everything about everyone’s life? The girl you see every day who looks like she has her life all together might be verbally abused at home. The girl, who looks happy all the time, might cry herself to sleep every night. The beautiful, skinny girl might have an eating disorder. The cool girl might feel lonely all the time. We don’t know everyone’s full story. We only have a partial view of their lives. It might look better than ours, but looks can be deceiving.
- Health – Are you eating right? Getting enough sleep? Are you exercising? Our physical health has a lot to do with how we view situations. When we are living a healthy lifestyle – exercising, eating our fruits and veggies, going to bed at a decent time – we are better at dealing with difficult and stressful situations. How about your spiritual health? Are you spending time in prayer and reading your Bible? Listening to worship music and spending time with other Christians? These things help us see situations more clearly and in light of God’s plan.
I know it’s hard sometimes to look around and feel like everyone else’s life is going better than yours. It’s a difficult lesson to learn, but if God hadn’t put you on the side of the fence that you’re on, then His specific plan for your life couldn’t be fulfilled.
Do not love the world not the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. — 1 John 2:15-17