As Christ followers, fellowship and mentorship are very valuable. As a young believer begins to grow and learn more about their faith by studying God’s Holy Word (the Bible), they may have questions or concerns. It is wise, once someone gets saved, for them to get plugged into healthy fellowship or a community group. Your church may have a youth group or a Bible study. Some school campuses have a Christian club, or you may be able to connect with people through your local church.
Getting rooted in your local church is so important to growing as a Christian. We must commit to learning, growing and asking questions, and it’s wise to seek out someone older in the faith who can mentor or disciple you. As you grow as a Christ follower, you will want to share your knowledge and may be able to serve in your church, or you can spread the good news of Jesus to your friends. If you have younger siblings or are connected to others through babysitting, tutoring or coaching, you can also shine a light.
Is there someone you can be accountable to who is older than you? And is there anyone who you can mentor or teach, someone you can possibly help? If you are a baby Christian and are just born again, then there’s no pressure to mentor someone under you, but over time you may find that is something you want to do. As you get filled up with God’s Word and Holy Spirit to an overflow, you will want to pour into others. For example, Nicole Weider, the Project Inspired founder, wanted to do that online by starting a blog about culture and her faith. We all can help someone younger than us, but we must have someone we can call or pray with who can advise us, too. Having a mentor is very important when we go through trials, through the storms of life, or need someone more mature in their faith walk to talk to us.
The Bible tells us that “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17). This means that two believers can sharpen each other spiritually. If you are around people who are dragging you down, who are toxic or pulling you into darkness, you need to separate and get around like-minded believers who can help you and teach you. Yes, we can be a light to other nonbelievers, but it doesn’t mean we need to hang out with them all of the time or be besties with them.
Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him… (Luke 17:3)
The Bible tells us as children of the light, we should walk with those in the light (Ephesians 5:8). Until the person around you comes into the faith and turns from darkness, then you can be close in fellowship with them. Yes, Jesus hung out with sinners, but those who repented (turned from their old ways). Jesus sent out people to disciple and to minister by twos. Why did God send people two by two? The reason that the Lord sends people out to the world to minister is because there is accountability. Do you have someone you can consider your mentor or someone for whom you are a light?
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children…to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2:4-5)
We must keep each other in check to be sure we are lining up with God’s Word. Why should we keep each other in check, you ask? We get accountability partners to stay closer to God, to stay out of sinful habits and to become a disciple. (“Disciple” is in the word discipline). Think of it this way: Hang out with whoever you admire or want to become like. For example, people who want to be Olympic competitors hang out with other athletes. Why? To train better and to get stronger! We can do this spiritually as well. We should aim for holiness and perfection even if we aren’t perfect, but we want to represent God well so He will get all the glory. Amen?
In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. (Matthew 5:16)
Remember, we are sisters in Christ to each other, and the Bible tells us that older women should mentor the young and we should be helpful to each other. We are in the family of God and we can uphold one another when either one is down or needs encouragement. Sometimes we need to be corrected, too, if we are going down the wrong path. There is a thing called “tough love,” and if we are corrected by biblical truth in love, we need to humbly accept it and ask for forgiveness. Amen? This correction is not judgment, but rather it is love to keep you on the right path.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. (Ecclesiastes 4:9)
Lastly, about correction and accountability: Don’t mistake this for being judgmental, but we are to judge those within the church. People misunderstand this concept and they say, “Only God can judge me.” Yes, He is the ultimate judge, but judgment begins in the house of God (1 Peter 4:17). We are to warn people if they are walking in danger, and if they don’t listen, then we are released from the responsibility (Ezekiel 3:19, 21). If we stay silent, the Lord holds us accountable for not helping them. It takes boldness to stand up for godliness, but ask Jesus for courage. If you truly care for people and their salvation, then you will tell them God’s Word in the spirit of godly love. Amen?
PI Girls, do you have a mentor or do you mentor someone? Do you have a friend who is accountable to you and vice versa? Comment below! We are praying for you, PI Girls!