I am only 16, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years. He is also my best friend in this entire world. We are both Christians, and we believe it’s God’s will for us to be together. Over the past two years ,we’ve been in some very trying situations. The only way we’ve made it this far is with the help of God.
We decided the first week we started dating that we would “wait” until marriage. We knew that it was God’s will for us to wait, and we knew how much this would benefit us in the future–whether it be in our relationship or another that God decided would be better for us later on. We decided to take things slow with each other, too.
Being best friends and all, we share everything with each other. We tell each other everything and have so much between us. The only thing we don’t share is the physical part of relationships. Not having this in our relationship makes it easier, but it also makes things harder sometimes.
It’s easier in the way that we don’t have to deal with pregnancy scares, or worrying about getting caught, and most importantly, we are honoring God with our relationship, and being somewhat of an example to others in similar situations.
It’s so hard sometimes in the way that we share everything and we want to share this with each other. It’s hard because we have been together so long that it seems like the “right time.” Of course, we know that it won’t be until we get married.
Ways that we avoid temptations and crossing the line is to never be alone together. We also live 40 minutes apart, so when we are together it’s at church or hanging out with our families at one of our houses. Living far apart is good, but sometimes when we haven’t seen each other in so long, it seems like when we get together the temptation is harder.
We avoid tempting each other by writing down our thoughts that could hurt the other’s walk if shared and putting them into jars that we each have. We will be able to share this with each other when we get married.
It’s exciting to think about what we will have accomplished on our wedding day. We’re excited to know that our decision makes this relationship honorable to God. We’re happy to be set apart from other teenagers, and even though it’s hard, we have God to lean on, and we are able to pray together, knowing that we’re sharing the same frustrations and enduring the same temptations. We aren’t going through this alone.
As individuals, we avoid certain movies or fan pages on Facebook that seem to focus on sex, or pictures that could make us stumble. It’s hard enough without those things. When either of us is having troubles, we can pray for each other, and that’s one of the best things about having a God-centered relationship.
Waiting for sex is very important no matter how much you think you’ll be with that person for the rest of your life. God could do anything with your relationship, whether it be a death of your boyfriend or an unexpected move far away from each other. Saving yourself for marriage will benefit you and your future husband, especially if he waited for his future wife. Sharing that experience with just the two of you, knowing that no one else has shared it with you, will be amazing and more meaningful, too.
Of course, I have no idea how it will be yet, but seeing other couples in my life who have achieved this just gives me all the more motivation to keep on pressing forward, no matter how hard it gets. God has a wonderful plan and he knew what he was doing when he intended sex to be between married people only.
I hope that this is somewhat helpful to anyone who might be in the same sort of situation, and inspiring to someone who hasn’t been here yet. Even if you haven’t saved yourself for that special person, it’s not too late to start over. 🙂
Written by PI Fan, Kylie