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Tim Tebow Wants a Wife with a Servant’s Heart, But What Does That Mean?

Tim Tebow recently described his future wife, saying he wanted her to have a servant’s heart. Well, lots of the media went nuts, assuming he meant he wanted a “hot Stepford” wife to serve his every need. But that’s not what he meant. Christians who are familiar with scripture know this means he’s looking for a wife who’s giving, kind and charitable to others. He’s looking for a true Christian.

But you shall not be so: but he that is greatest among you, let him be as the younger; and he that is chief, as he that does serve. For whether is greater, he that sits at meat, or he that serves? is not he that sits at meat? but I am among you as he that serves (Luke 22:26-27).

I find the outrage interesting because it demonstrates how Christians often are misinterpreted or made out to be chauvinistic.

Scripture is clear in its teachings. Christ has certain expectations of us, especially when it comes to dealing with others. We are not only asked to follow Christ, but also to emulate Him.

As we all know, Christ always served others. He washed the feet of His disciples, and so we too are called to perform humble servanthood. We are called to serve our master. And our master is Christ. In serving others, we ultimately are serving Christ.

For even the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve, and to give his life a ransom for many (Mark 10:45).

We need to be servants to others, by ways of ministering to and for them. But in doing so, there are certain expectations of us.

Someone with a servant’s heart serves selflessly. If our desire to serve others is founded upon the need to be praised or recognized, then we’re defeating the purpose of service. When servicing others, we’re giving to others without expecting something back. So whether it’s receiving praise or feeling powerful, if our ultimate goal is to please ourselves, then our actions are not real service.

When serving, we Christians should serve humbly. We should do it without making the person or people we serve feel unworthy or ashamed. We are all in need of service at one time or another, so in giving to one person, another person may give to you. It’s not about giving to receive or giving because you received.

We must also serve graciously, gratefully and without complaint. Because anything less would not be service.

We’ve covered Tim Tebow a lot on this site, and let’s face it, he has a servant’s heart. His desire to marry someone who will equally serve makes perfect sense. They need to share the desire to please Christ by serving Him, each other and others. When a husband and wife understand their role as Christ’s servants, their marriage ultimately is strengthened.

PI ladies, do you want your future spouse to have a servant’s heart? Do you believe you have a servant’s heart?

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  1. feministgoddess

    Posted by feministgoddess on January 5, 2014 at 20:03

    that’s still pretty horrifying. it’s important to date someone who understands that as a woman, you are a fellow human being and have your own interests.

  2. perinteger

    Posted by perinteger on December 17, 2013 at 10:06

    You apparently didn’t find the outrage interesting enough to lead you down a train of thought that would actually correct the issue. This isn’t a case of Christians being depicted as chauvinistic. This is a case of Christians forgetting the difference between standard English and lingo. “A Servant Heart” may mean “A True Christian” in Biblical lingo; but the vast majority of English speakers aren’t fluent in Biblical Lingo – they’re fluent in standard English (usually British or American). If you want to be understood, speak in a language that people recognize.

    As a technical person, I can’t expect to be understood by non-technical people when every noun I use is an acronym and half the verbs are industry specific. As someone who lives immersed in the Biblical subculture, you can’t expect to be understood if you speak to folks outside your subculture as if they, too, are immersed in your world.

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by daughterofgod on January 14, 2013 at 19:54

    I wish I find a future husband with a servant’s heart too.

  4. Jesuskissed

    Posted by Jesuskissed on October 25, 2012 at 18:38

    I think this is a good reminder that there ARE guys out there who want good christian girls. I feel like we spend a lot of time bashing the ones who don’t, that we forget to remember there are guys out there God has made fit for his daughters!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by meggie07 on December 14, 2012 at 00:53

      And do I need to remind you that his pose is BLASPHEMY? And you still think he’s being sincere about his faith?

  5. Carnation

    Posted by Carnation on October 21, 2012 at 20:07

    I definately agree. I make sure my friends are caring for others and are servants to God. I am very lucky I have friends who love God and others!!!

  6. olburrows

    Posted by olburrows on October 18, 2012 at 14:48

    I have been told multiple times I am gifted with a servant’s heart. It is one of my greatest blessings!

  7. HISprincess13

    Posted by HISprincess13 on October 14, 2012 at 12:00

    I love this! Tebow is amazing,giving glory to God! LOVE IT! I definately need to work on my heart! Im so selfish. And Ive been praying for my future husband! And im happy to say that God has told me me a few things about him such as:he sings,hes goofy,and most import he loves God more than me! 😀 Im gunna write letters to him and give them to him after our wedding! 🙂

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by jeremiah2911shelb on October 14, 2012 at 00:12

    I find tebow to be such a great role model for Christian and non Christians..Especially high school guys who play football! Haha tebows a great conversation starters go frm (football,tebow,Jesus) when trying to witness to them.. Anyways people are always putting Christians under the magnifying glass watching there every move,to catch them mess up. So the medias constantly putting tebow in the spot light and he has peoples attention so he’s using it to be a light and glorify Christ!:)
    “Always work enthusiastically for the Lord for nothing that you do for the Lord is ever useless.”-1 Corinthians15:58
    “I urge you brothers & sisters to submit to them & others like them who serve with such devotion.-1 Corinthians 16:15
    <33333 when ever I'm dng chores or smthing I'm not thrilled to do I constantly have to remind myself to have a joyful heart because I'm serving Jesus! As Christians we need to Apply JOY to our lifes …this means putting J-Jesus first, O-others second, Y-putting your self last….hope this encourages! 🙂

  9. redkangaroo21

    Posted by redkangaroo21 on October 13, 2012 at 20:01

    It’s great how he looks for a servant’s heart in for his future wife! It is a sign of a true Christian. 🙂

    The Old Violin
    The Touch of the Masters Hand

    ‘Twas battered and scarred,
    And the auctioneer thought it
    hardly worth his while
    To waste his time on the old violin,
    but he held it up with a smile.

    “What am I bid, good people”, he cried,
    “Who starts the bidding for me?”
    “One dollar, one dollar, Do I hear two?”
    “Two dollars, who makes it three?”
    “Three dollars once, three dollars twice, going for three,”

    But, No,
    From the room far back a gray bearded man
    Came forward and picked up the bow,
    Then wiping the dust from the old violin
    And tightening up the strings,
    He played a melody, pure and sweet
    As sweet as the angel sings.

    The music ceased and the auctioneer
    With a voice that was quiet and low,
    Said “What now am I bid for this old violin?”
    As he held it aloft with its’ bow.

    “One thousand, one thousand, Do I hear two?”
    “Two thousand, Who makes it three?”
    “Three thousand once, three thousand twice,
    Going and gone”, said he.

    The audience cheered,
    But some of them cried,
    “We just don’t understand.”
    “What changed its’ worth?”
    Swift came the reply.
    “The Touch of the Masters Hand.”

    “And many a man with life out of tune
    All battered and bruised with hardship
    Is auctioned cheap to a thoughtless crowd
    Much like that old violin

    A mess of pottage, a glass of wine,
    A game and he travels on.
    He is going once, he is going twice,
    He is going and almost gone.

    But the Master comes,
    And the foolish crowd never can quite understand,
    The worth of a soul and the change that is wrought
    By the Touch of the Masters’ Hand.

    – by Myra Brooks Welch

    God uses us to change others. In the same way, Tim Tebow has showed himself as a man after God’s own heart. Despite the persecution he probably faces, he is willing to show himself as a light in the darkness. This is why I believe he is a great role model for Christians; he is not afraid to be courageous.

    • Paris

      Posted by Paris on October 13, 2012 at 22:31

      Great commnent for this article. Love this poem.

  10. sisterwhocares

    Posted by sisterwhocares on October 13, 2012 at 19:00

    God is definitely trying to teach me to have a servant’s heart. He has blessed me with great leadership skills and a ton of ambition, but sometimes I can get very impatient in wanting to be a leader RIGHT NOW. However, God is humbling my heart daily by reminding me, “Be patient. I know the plans that I have for you, and for now, your job is to be a servant and administer to others. Leadership will come in the future.” So, by teaching me to be a servant, God is not only helping me be kind to others, but to humble my heart and see where His winds take me. I’m his little boat 🙂

  11. faithinspired1995

    Posted by faithinspired1995 on October 13, 2012 at 09:30

    i have a serverts heart;) <3 lol

  12. Paris

    Posted by Paris on October 13, 2012 at 00:35

    I KNOW God will send someone who has a servant’s heart that is made only to serve Him. If my husband is someone who serves Him,he will love me so very much,and vise versa. I do belive I have a servants heart because I love doing things for others and working with children,even though I don’t always get things in return. I LOVE working for GOD,and we’ve already gotten our payment from Him,eternal life.

  13. Project Inspired

    Posted by BeStillAndBreath98 on October 12, 2012 at 19:42

    My mom is a pretty good example.She will do anything for my dad and vice versa. So yes she would wash my dad’s feet,for realsiez.She’s prove of how a wife should be to their husbands and I wanna be like her to mine 🙂 so im working on it!

  14. Project Inspired

    Posted by nolasleuth on October 12, 2012 at 18:50

    This was a very good contribution by T.M..
    In a world where girls or women are constantly being compelled and pressured to find worth and value in the worlds views or ideas, IT is a “good” thing that in a simple and humble way a guy like Tim Tebow has articulated a view and he has asked for a value that really ought to make girls and women think and ponder very closely.
    Females can achieve and accomplish great successes of worldly recognition and honor. Todays social culture will speak well of you and flash your name in lights and plaster you on billboards, TV and magazines appealing to the flesh.
    But then the Master walks by YOU, Jesus the King of Kings and HE calls out to you and says to YOU, “come”,,,, learn about me, for I am meek and lowly in heart and there you will find rest for your soul”, for my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
    Follow me and I will make you fishers of men!
    Boing! “Meek and lowly”,,, where do we find these today?
    Spouses are men and women whose words declare a covenant to each other of honor and integrity to death you do part.
    But more than that, you are married to another child of the living God, a person made in the image and likeness of God whose eternal destiny is tied to YOU in a relationship where your spiritual credentials will be often called upon.
    She or He must be willing to die to self, and put on meekness, gentleness, patience, mercy, long suffering, peacefulness, and love for these are the marks of a living epistle that can be seen by all, and will be daily used.
    Then on top of all that God has wisely designed your bodies so tht they will make little “replicas” of each other calling upon all your DNA to transfer everyone that has ever lived from your heritage to your new family!
    And in time they will also need to be taken care of too as you partner with your spouse in the sight of God, thats is the long range telescopic view.
    Greatness and power in a woman is measured by using her wisdom and spiritual knowledge combined with a reverent and gentle attitude so that when she is serving anywhere,, and yes even when people are cruel, and when people are rude, and when she is treated unlovingly, her greatness will allow her to turn the other cheek and take up her cross, even if they nail you to it.
    Remember Joseph,sold by his brother to the devil!
    What living epistle did Joseph demonstrate?
    Joseph served, and then realized one day after years of harsh adversity, that what others intended for evil, God meant for God, finally Joseph’s DVD went off in his mind and he saw the bigger picture that God had designed.
    Gods got a bigger picture for all of us.
    Joseph’s servants heart, His humble and meek spirit, were the tools of “power” that broke Pharohs and he elevated Joseph to lead all of Egypt! WOW!
    He served, and served and served. Even when he did not understand,,, he served.
    Jesus said,,, do not be like the Romans who have conquered Israel, for they love physical power, and the Romans like to order people around saying go here, go there, do this and do that!
    Let that never be heard of among you, said Jesus, NEVER!
    Jesus has not not called you to be bullys, Jesus calls you to be servants and sheherds, to serve HIS sheep, (including spouses and children), Jesus calls us to feed them all of what Jesus commanded. Do you know His commandments?
    How will you help your spouse, if you do not know what the commandments of Jesus are? Get busy, learn them.
    Tebow dear girls has RAISED the bar for girls and women! Tebow wants JESUS to find Him a “Gold Medal Woman”, a SuperBowl Girl in Christ! Who can find her? For her worth is far above that to Tebow than all the riches of this world!
    Tebow chose Gods standard! Tebow wants a woman of character. Prov 31. and is saying, if she can get her training and exercise from God and shows up in the arena of my life,,, THEN when she shows up, I will surely recognize her and know who she is and that God has answered my prayer.
    Girls, Ladies, Women,,, dont settle for men with low standards or Bronze Medal attitudes about Jesus.
    Go for the GOLD! Heaven is the real arena that is cheering you on!
    To get started as a servant, the 4 gospels is where the Masters Voice speaks to you and me,,, listen to the Master!
    Have a wonderful blessed day!

    • HISprincess13

      Posted by HISprincess13 on October 14, 2012 at 11:33

      Omg! AMEN SISTER! Girl God bless you! You helped me realize how much I need to work on my walk. Ive been taking the wide path,being my foolish self! Thank you so much!

    • Paris

      Posted by Paris on October 13, 2012 at 22:29

      Love it. That’s all I can say.

    • sisterwhocares

      Posted by sisterwhocares on October 13, 2012 at 19:05

      Wow! God is really working through you! I think you should teach at Bible conferences and help encourage other women like us.I really like how you used the DVD metaphor with Joseph.

    • Nef

      Posted by Nef on October 13, 2012 at 12:35

      I loved this comment so much !! It encouraged me and explained a lot !! 😀 I hope to be as wise as you one day 🙂

  15. Project Inspired

    Posted by on October 12, 2012 at 18:07

    Frankly, I don’t think we should be looking up to Tebow as a Christian role model. He’s made a spectacle out of the Christian faith, and I don’t think it’s appropriate. We shouldn’t be giving him this kind of attention.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by liv4christ on October 13, 2012 at 11:23

      I completely disagree Jael. What do you mean by “make a spectacle out of the Christian faith?” Are you saying that Christians should not do things that put them in the public eye? Doesn’t God call us to be a light in dark places? Tebow is living out his faith in a venue where Christianity is tolerated at best, scoffed at at worst. How can you think that is inappropriate?

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by liv4christ on October 16, 2012 at 16:56

        The Bible also says

        “Let your light shine before men, so that they may see your good deeds and praise our father in heaven.”
        Matthew 5:15
        and
        “We Christians can be mirrors that brightly reflect the glory of the LORD”
        2 Corinthians 3:18
        How can you do that by hiding your faith?

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by Dancer619 on October 15, 2012 at 07:02

        When the Bible says not to make a big show out of your faith I think it means not to use your faith to draw attention to yourself. But just because Tebow is bold about his faith doesn’t mean that he uses it give himself attention. Tebow is a missionary on american soil. He is able to show young boys that God and Jesus aren’t anything to be ashamed about 😀

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by BreJoy123 on October 13, 2012 at 20:11

        He is just serving the Lord in a way he can ! Don’t go off beating someone up because they are being a “missionary” in a way that other people aren’t. No he may not be giving a sermon but he is still ministering to others. The bible talks about being a light in the darkness . Who are you to judge if he’s being that light just in a different way especially if he is planting spiritual seeds that may grow ? Last i checked you aren’t God so why not let God do any judging..

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by on October 13, 2012 at 13:02

        The Bible says not to make a big show out of your faith and your prayers. It is tasteless. There are two possibilities: either he wanted the attention, or it never occurred to him that his behavior at a televised even would get any attention. I don’t think anyone’s really that dim, so I’m going to go with the former option; he wouldn’t have this much attention if he didn’t want it.

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on October 12, 2012 at 19:01

      You may be interested in the following articles that explain why PI feels that Tebow is a great role model for teens striving to be better Christians, and why he is worthy of the recognition. You may not agree, but there aren’t many celebs with the courage to put Christ first. I disagree that he’s made a spectacle out of the Christian faith. In fact, he’s defined what it means to be a true Christian in every aspect of his life. And frankly that makes some people uncomfortable. http://www.projectinspired.com/who-is-tim-tebow-and-why-is-everyone-tebowing/ http://www.projectinspired.com/snl-spoofs-tebow-but-is-mocking-christianity-the-same-as-mocking-god/ http://www.projectinspired.com/should-tim-tebow-fear-temptation/

      • tmgaouette

        Posted by tmgaouette on October 13, 2012 at 13:07

        @MsJael915 Then based on your belief, we should get rid of all priests, ministers, preachers etc, since they all broadcast to the masses. Tebow shares his love for Christ and it has had a lasting impression on millions, including myself and some of our PI ladies. Additionally, more than 92 million people Googled John 3:16. In my opinion, and in the opinion of millions, he is an inspiration and a role model. Obviously, you’re not one who shares this belief, and that’s okay. But you wondered why we highlighted Tebow, and I thought the articles I mentioned above would be helpful in answering that question. I’m not trying to change your mind. God bless.

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by on October 13, 2012 at 11:57

        I think his behavior is horrible because I believe that ministry should be a person-to-person matter, rather than a broadcast to the masses. It should be a meaningful conversation that will have a lasting effect, not simply getting lots of people to Google things just because some guy painted letters and numbers on his face.

  16. thequietone

    Posted by thequietone on October 12, 2012 at 17:43

    This is something I’m going to need to work on 🙂

  17. Loving.Lexie

    Posted by Loving.Lexie on October 12, 2012 at 13:42

    I think I do have a servant’s heart, but sometimes it gets tricky and I become too over-achieving to please people, and that doesn’t work. And then I go from one extreme to the other and expect people to do more for me. So, like all people, I need some work. But yes, I definitely want my future husband to have a servant’s heart 🙂 A lot of guys are too prideful and stuck up to serve people…but to me it proves they’re stronger than that 😉

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by YouAreBeautiful on October 14, 2012 at 22:54

      I totally agree with you 🙂

    • DanieB

      Posted by DanieB on October 12, 2012 at 17:37

      I love this! Im a selfish person and i have to admit to that. But This encouraged me so much that i want to do something for the Lord more than ever 🙂 thank you