Whether it’s a boyfriend that you’ve been dating for two months or a best friend that you’ve known for years, ending a relationship is a difficult task. Here are a few tips to make the experience a little more bearable for both of you.
- Always end a relationship with a spirit of love. The Bible tells us to “do everything in love” (1 Corinthians 16:14.) Although you can’t control the reaction of the other person, you can choose to speak gentle words in a loving manner. This will make the experience more tolerable for both of you!
- Be honest! Sometimes it may seem easier to give an untrue reason about why you’ve chosen to end things. However, it’s always better to be honest. Use kind words but always be straightforward and truthful. Also remember to avoid giving someone false hope. If you don’t plan to resume the relationship, make sure that it’s very clear. God tells us “show proper respect to everyone” (1 Peter 2 :17) which means always being upfront and honest with others.
- Be firm. You can be kind while still being firm. Don’t let anyone pressure you into continuing a relationship that you really want to end. This is especially true if the relationship is toxic or abusive. YOU SHOULD NEVER STAY IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP! If you’re in an abusive relationship, please seek help immediately.
- Set boundaries. It’s up to you how much the other person is in your life after the relationship ends. If you still want to remain friends with an ex, that’s fine. However, if you’d rather downscale even further to just acquaintances, that’s fine, too. Whatever you decide is okay, just avoid giving mixed messages. If the other person doesn’t respect your decision to end the relationship and is continually harassing or threatening you, seek help from a trusted adult IMMEDIATELY.
Ending a relationship is always a difficult process. However, it can be done in a way that minimizes the frustration for all involved. Hope this helps!