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    Tips To Help You Handle Racism

    How should I handle racist remarks?

    I’m very sorry that you’ve had to experience racist remarks. I’ve also been the recipient of racist behavior in the past, so I know how hurtful such words and actions can be. However, I also know that GOD doesn’t consider color or ethnicity. The social divide among races and ethnic groups was created by people, NOT God. The Bible says this about Him:

    For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful (Psalms 139:13-14).

    God delights in the beautiful variation among His people and just like everything else that God institutes, Satan tries to cause chaos and division among different groups. We should understand that racism is just another attempt by the enemy to distract God’s people. With that said, here are a few tips to deal with racism:

    • Don’t retaliate. As hurtful or infuriating as racist remarks are, don’t retaliate with cruel words or other ungodly behavior. Some people are just mean and no matter what you say, they’ll continue to believe what they believe.

    Responding in a negative way does NOT bring glory to God because God instructs us to love everyone, including our enemies. (Don’t worry, God will deal with those people in His own way.)

    Instead, try ignoring them and walking away. You might also try responding with KIND words, which will probably make them feel pretty silly.

    However you respond, make sure you’re demonstrating the love of Jesus–you never know who may be watching. Your response may be what leads an onlooker (or the racist person him/herself) to God. Besides, when mean people realize that they can’t get a negative response out of you, they’ll likely leave you alone and be on their way.

    • Seek help from a trusted adult. If the racist remarks are repetitive, you’re being bullied, or if you feel that your safety is in jeopardy, please seek help from an adult IMMEDIATELY! It’s NEVER okay for someone to bully or harm you in any way!
    • Pray for them. Racist people don’t understand the Gospel and are probably lost. As Christians, it’s our responsibility to pray for their salvation. Despite the hatred that they inflict unto you and others, pray that their eyes eventually will be opened to the ways of Christ. Consider Paul: He hated Jewish people and actually killed many, many Jews, yet he found the road to salvation and ended up writing most of the New Testament of the Bible!
    • Don’t internalize the hatred. NEVER take anything that racist people say or do to heart. Unfortunately, they’re allowing Satan to use them, and Satan will use anyone or any situation to try to distract God’s people. Always remember that you are exactly who GOD meant for you to be!

    I know that racism can be pretty hard to deal with, but always remember that God created you in HIS image. He loves you and He has a purpose for you. No amount of racism can take that away. Be blessed and never forget that YOU ARE SPECIAL!

    Written by Aysha Ives

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    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    21 COMMENTS

    1. This touched me so much! I often deal wit cruel, racist remarks, but I try my best not to think any hateful thoughts of the people who tell me those things. Christ said during His dying breath, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” If Christ can forgive the people who beat him, bruised him, and desired for Him to be killed, then surely I can forgive all the racist people I meet in my life. This article REALLY gives me the encouragement I need to continue forgiving all those who hurt me with their racial remarks : )

    2. Thank you so much for writing this! It is so timely in my life right now! I am a mix of many different ethnicities, and people target just one of the ethnicities they don’t like and sometimes pin it on me. They make racist jokes and remarks that are unkind. It’s not very often that this occurs, but when it does, it can be really painful. It makes me feel like less of a person, and sometimes makes me wish I was someone else altogether. But recently, one of my closest friends who lives in a racist town, found out that I am partially African American. At first he said that he didn’t care, but he has been grappling with the issue for a long time. Though it was hard to tell him at first, this experience has made me, ironically, more comfortable and proud of who I am! God made me perfect and will use me someday. If others do not like or accept me for who I am, it is not because I am deficient, it is because they do not understand or choose not to. As for me, I just need to embrace who I am and thank God for creating me perfect! This article appeared right during this rough time with my friend, and I am so thankful that it did!

    3. I can’t stand racist people. I was watching a video where a guy said he didn’t like someone he barely knew just because the guy was black. It’s disgusting to see people still behave that way.

    4. I’m Chinese, and one time at the pool, my brothers friend overheard them saying, “I wonder how good that girl will be in bed.” He told me, and it was really hurtful… To be honest, I really just wanted to punch him…

    5. Can you please do an article about sexual talk?It’s all the rage in my high school.That just disturbs me.People use terms like,”That’s what she said” or “In bed” or words like “pussy”. It really hurts me inside.They are poking fun of marriage in a way and I feel God is getting very mad at us. My ‘friends’ say I am too innocent.I’d rather be innocent than know that disgusting stuff! Please reply and make an article about this! -Monica 🙂

      • Someone told me the other day that purity is powerful! It was really touching to me and really encouraged me- purity is a powerful thing that not a lot of people have these days. It’s not something to be prideful about, but continue to seek God and allow Him to help you stay pure! And if you have made mistakes, trust God that through Christ’s blood you ARE pure and beautiful and innocent! God bless~

    6. Uggh racism is horrible. I unfortunately know it very well. I am African American and have been teased a lot. It is hurtful and demeaning. A way to cope is to just keep telling yourself that you are perfect and wonderfully made. Another issue that I hate is stereotypes like people would tell me I was an oreo just because I don’t act gangster. And why do people have to be so narrow minded?

      • We are in the exact same boat. Sadly, society is not going to stop believing and acting out the stereotypical behaviors until someone tells everyone otherwise. I’m not going to change how I am or how I act or what I think is right just because people think that is what being “real” is. I’m me and I was born with dark skin. So what? As far as I’m concerned I’m human and unique in my own way and can speak and behave any way I please people need to get that.

    7. Mercy Me:Beautiful

      The days will come when you don’t have the strengthWhen all you hear is you’re not worth anything,Wondering if you ever could be loved,And if they truly saw your heart they’d see too much

      You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful,You are made for so much more than all of this.You’re beautiful,You’re beautiful,You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His.You’re beautiful.

      I’m praying that you have the heart to find,Cause you are more than what is hurting you tonight.For all the lies you’ve held inside so long,And they are nothing in the shadow of the cross

      You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful,You are made for so much more than all of this.You’re beautiful,You’re beautiful,You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His

      You’re beautiful

      Perfect lyrics for this article!

      • Yes, I am African American. People always call me “White Girl” because of the way that I act. I don’t know whether to laugh at comments like that or to act like I don’t hear them. But instead I treat them really good and they’re not used to people being nice to them after a mean comment. So, again that’s one of my coping methods.

    8. I’m Korean and I haven’t really had to deal with a lot of racist comments until lately. I live in a really small town and everyone is friends with everyone so I never really gave it a thought. But there are a couple girls out to get me and I never really had an idea why (Now I realize it’s because I hang out with a lot of guys). But anyway, all of a sudden they’re making these super racist comments and telling me they don’t know why all my guy friends want to hang out with “someone like me.” I don’t even know. It hurts, that’s for sure. But I have friends that back me up too. Anyway, racism is stupid and I always feel like crap when it’s all said and done.

    9. I really dislike how narrow-minded people can be, but the thing that upsets me the most are the adults. They are supposed to be much wiser because they’ve been in the world longer than we have but some will just take a glance at the color of someone’s skin and declare that that person is lower than them? It’s really immature how they believe that because my skin is brown that makes me ignorant? This goes for anyone for that matter! We should be judged based upon the content of our character instead of the color of our skin! We have no control as to what God what to look like. We were all created in His likeness!

    10. I’m not African American, but I’ve thought of racism also as African American people getting certain privileges because their skin is darker. I’ve been angry about that–and Black Lives Matter–And I really don’t know what it really is. I’m not racist (hypocratic me: I always seem to favor African American people above others, too. Is this racist?)

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