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    ‘Tis the Season to Be Single, By PI Girl Jazlin

    We all go through the roller coaster phases of waiting for “The One.” One moment we’re steadfast and patient for God’s timing, and then the next we try to rush God’s plans for our temporary satisfaction.

    Do your feelings of longing for a companion seem more present now than before? The media is flooded with romantic holiday movies and songs this time of year. Let’s not forget about the long-awaited “under the mistletoe” kiss!

    If you’re single and waiting for “The One,” just remember that this is just a season. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven.”

    Ladies, allow this time for God to prepare you for your future “forever.” Even if your season of singleness seems longer than those around you, use this time to deepen your walk with God. There is so much joy and growth that takes place when you focus on God, and the intimacy that develops when you trust and pursue Him.

    Think of it this way: Would you take a cake out of the oven before it’s ready? Of course not! It would not be any good because it’s not fully cooked. In that same way, God will not do things before his timing. You are too precious and loved by God for him to not equip you for your future.

    I encourage you to mediate on Proverbs 4:23 through your season of singleness, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Whenever you find yourself slipping into the mode of doubt and anxiety for the future, observe what you are taking in. Ask yourself, “Is what I’m watching or looking at producing positive thoughts and actions in my life?”

    What are some of your thoughts and tips on this issue?

    Written by PI girl Jazlin

    Team Project Inspired
    We here at Project Inspired want to guide and inspire teen girls to be true to themselves and to God. We want to show young girls how to be people of value and confidence – how to be your own best selves – through leading a Christian life. Who are we? We're a team of girls, like you. We edit the site, we post to social media, we hang out in the chat rooms and forums. We talk with you, we listen to you, and we love you!

    31 COMMENTS

    1. So cool! Thanks for sharing this with me. My sister has a boyfriend, and although I know I’m really too young for a serious relationship like that, (and really I don’t want the extra baggage- or at least, the bad baggage- that comes with it) but it still kinda makes me want to have someone who I can share feelings like those I see from my sister and her boyfriend. I can hardly wait for when God brings someone like that into my life, but I know that God works everything according to His purpose, and I know He knows what’s best. =D

    2. This could possibly be the best article I’ve read on PI. This relates to me so much and I constantly need to remind myself of this. I often feel like there’s something wrong with me since I’m 17 and have never had a boyfriend but I love your point about the cake. I really like to think of myself as God’s cake that was a great analogy. Thank you!

    3. There is this page on Facebook that is called: I’m single because God is busy writing the best love story for me. So,that is what I think about. I’m in no rush. I used to be desparate,but God helped me get to the point where I hardly think about it.

    4. Just last night, I prayed to God about my impatience with His timing regarding this exact topic and BOOM! this article is posted. God works in wonderful ways. I have been seeking Him a lot more lately and just earlier today I realized how much more at peace I am and how much more intimate my relationship is with Him since pursuing Him with a deeper passion. Thank you for posting this article!

    5. My tip is to surround yourself with friends who feel the same way you do! I’m waiting until college for a relationship. I’m 17 and I’ve been single forever. Sometimes it’s hard, but I have to remind myself that I’d be spending an awful lot of time with someone who won’t matter to me in ten years. I think it would be cool if my first relationship were with my husband 🙂
      I also write “Dear Romeo:” letters… I don’t know why, but it’s kinda cool, I think. That way I’m focusing on who my future husband will be instead of who my current crush is.

    6. Having been engaged to the wrong man once in my lifetime already, this is very helpful.
      I look at everyone else, and I think, “Why have they found their happily ever after when I thought I already found mine?” It’s difficult not to rush things when you’ve been so close to the life you thought you wanted.

    7. For me it’s really hard because I’m 20 and have never been kissed, and all my friends around me are getting engaged and married and having babies. Even my best friend who is 2 years younger than me, got engaged last year. Even if they aren’t getting engaged, I’m still the only single girl around all my friends.

      • Right there with you! I’m almost 18 and most of my friends have serious boyfriends, getting engaged and even married (they are a few years older than me), and it’s hard. I’ve never had a real boyfriend either, never been kissed, and feel extremely lonely sometimes. But, I just have to remind myself that my husband is out there for me, I just have to wait for God to put him in my life! And I can’t wait! Besides, the longer you wait for something, the more you value it when you do get it 🙂

    8. I loooove this article so much! I’ve kinda been feeling down because no guys really like me, and this helped. And I love the title, haha. Now I have to make up the whole rest of the song to go with it xD But you were wrong about one thing…non-fully-cooked cake tastes awesome! I love cake batter :p But other than that, good job Jazlin ^-^

    9. This is a really good article! And I just wanted to say how possible it is to “guard your heart”. I decided I think it was last year that crushes were more trouble and pain then they were worth, so with God’s help, I started thinking of boys less and less. My heart turned “child-like” (I am 16 by the way) and I didn’t even care about the fact that I was singe. I am starting to get caught up in all the Christmas love songs too though… and I think I need another boost from God to keep being child-like.

      • @Kathrie, I really like that idea about asking God to keep me child-like. I am sixteen as well and I do think that crushes can dominate your thoughts and being moer throuble than they’re worth.Thanks for the reminder! 🙂

    10. Definitely something that I am struggling with in this season of my life. There aren’t any girls at my church who believe in waiting to date until you’re ready for marriage and I ahve a hard time relating to them because of that. They also don’t understand my commitment to myself and my future husband to wait. I know that God has a man for me but it’s so hard to be patient when i see everyone else in relationships.

    11. Being someone who has never had a boyfriend (I’m 22 btw), I’m actually finding it easier to wait for God’s timing for “Mr. Right”. I’ve waited this long, so I can wait a bit longer. Why should I settle for “Mr. Right Now” when God has my “Mr. Right” waiting for me? 🙂

    12. I loved this article! I’m writing a blog about a challenge im doing of not dating and instead focusing on God and using my singleness to serve God! I would love if you girls could visit my blog at http://athenaballes.wordpress.com/
      Or like my Facebook page for my blog at http://www.facebook.com/gamefacechallenge
      This is in no way to take you away from project inspired and what Nicole is doing (which is wonderful; thank you Nicole!) but rather I pray that the words God has given me to write would touch your heart and help you step closer to Jesus Christ. 🙂
      <3 in Christ,
      Athena

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