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‘Tis the Season to Be Single, By PI Girl Jazlin

We all go through the roller coaster phases of waiting for “The One.” One moment we’re steadfast and patient for God’s timing, and then the next we try to rush God’s plans for our temporary satisfaction.

Do your feelings of longing for a companion seem more present now than before? The media is flooded with romantic holiday movies and songs this time of year. Let’s not forget about the long-awaited “under the mistletoe” kiss!

If you’re single and waiting for “The One,” just remember that this is just a season. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven.”

Ladies, allow this time for God to prepare you for your future “forever.” Even if your season of singleness seems longer than those around you, use this time to deepen your walk with God. There is so much joy and growth that takes place when you focus on God, and the intimacy that develops when you trust and pursue Him.

Think of it this way: Would you take a cake out of the oven before it’s ready? Of course not! It would not be any good because it’s not fully cooked. In that same way, God will not do things before his timing. You are too precious and loved by God for him to not equip you for your future.

I encourage you to mediate on Proverbs 4:23 through your season of singleness, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Whenever you find yourself slipping into the mode of doubt and anxiety for the future, observe what you are taking in. Ask yourself, “Is what I’m watching or looking at producing positive thoughts and actions in my life?”

What are some of your thoughts and tips on this issue?

Written by PI girl Jazlin

Image: Thinkstock | Monkey Business


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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by music on January 21, 2013 at 22:15

    Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. Now its time to pray for the patience to wait. :/

  2. Blair Bear

    Posted by Blair Bear on January 5, 2013 at 18:26

    This is really encouraging! This is also a great reminder for me when I’m wanting God to rush His perfect plans for me. Thanks for the advice! 🙂 -Blair Bear

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by thenabobena on December 31, 2012 at 15:11

    I loved this article! I’m writing a blog about a challenge im doing of not dating and instead focusing on God and using my singleness to serve God! I would love if you girls could visit my blog at http://athenaballes.wordpress.com/
    Or like my Facebook page for my blog at http://www.facebook.com/gamefacechallenge
    This is in no way to take you away from project inspired and what Nicole is doing (which is wonderful; thank you Nicole!) but rather I pray that the words God has given me to write would touch your heart and help you step closer to Jesus Christ. 🙂
    <3 in Christ,

  4. allydotk

    Posted by allydotk on December 31, 2012 at 05:22

    Being someone who has never had a boyfriend (I’m 22 btw), I’m actually finding it easier to wait for God’s timing for “Mr. Right”. I’ve waited this long, so I can wait a bit longer. Why should I settle for “Mr. Right Now” when God has my “Mr. Right” waiting for me? 🙂

  5. xcpassion9

    Posted by xcpassion9 on December 27, 2012 at 09:15

    Thank you so much for this article! it is so well written and came at such a needed time in my life.

  6. enchantedprincess

    Posted by enchantedprincess on December 26, 2012 at 17:48

    😀 Thanks so much this article helped me !!

  7. Joygirl14

    Posted by Joygirl14 on December 22, 2012 at 19:46

    Definitely something that I am struggling with in this season of my life. There aren’t any girls at my church who believe in waiting to date until you’re ready for marriage and I ahve a hard time relating to them because of that. They also don’t understand my commitment to myself and my future husband to wait. I know that God has a man for me but it’s so hard to be patient when i see everyone else in relationships.

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by Kathrie on December 22, 2012 at 09:21

    This is a really good article! And I just wanted to say how possible it is to “guard your heart”. I decided I think it was last year that crushes were more trouble and pain then they were worth, so with God’s help, I started thinking of boys less and less. My heart turned “child-like” (I am 16 by the way) and I didn’t even care about the fact that I was singe. I am starting to get caught up in all the Christmas love songs too though… and I think I need another boost from God to keep being child-like.

    • Joygirl14

      Posted by Joygirl14 on December 22, 2012 at 19:48

      @Kathrie, I really like that idea about asking God to keep me child-like. I am sixteen as well and I do think that crushes can dominate your thoughts and being moer throuble than they’re worth.Thanks for the reminder! 🙂

  9. sisterwhocares

    Posted by sisterwhocares on December 20, 2012 at 23:04

    And remember ladies, boys are pigs!!!!!! Lol, well not all of them. But the majority are

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by 3LaLa3Love3 on December 18, 2012 at 16:40

    Thank you so much for writting this, it for sure sometimes feels like I’m the only single one, but I know God has someone who was made for me. Thanks for the reminder.

  11. olburrows

    Posted by olburrows on December 17, 2012 at 14:27

    Excellent article, Jazline! Well done! 😀

  12. TaySwiftie13ts

    Posted by TaySwiftie13ts on December 16, 2012 at 11:27

    Great article, by the way(:

  13. TaySwiftie13ts

    Posted by TaySwiftie13ts on December 16, 2012 at 11:27

    I’m single and loving it!

  14. melodiousmitsyx3

    Posted by melodiousmitsyx3 on December 16, 2012 at 11:16

    Love it. This is so relatable.

  15. Project Inspired

    Posted by on December 16, 2012 at 10:26

    I loooove this article so much! I’ve kinda been feeling down because no guys really like me, and this helped. And I love the title, haha. Now I have to make up the whole rest of the song to go with it xD But you were wrong about one thing…non-fully-cooked cake tastes awesome! I love cake batter :p But other than that, good job Jazlin ^-^

  16. vsmith21

    Posted by vsmith21 on December 16, 2012 at 09:29

    For me it’s really hard because I’m 20 and have never been kissed, and all my friends around me are getting engaged and married and having babies. Even my best friend who is 2 years younger than me, got engaged last year. Even if they aren’t getting engaged, I’m still the only single girl around all my friends.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Dilemma on January 4, 2013 at 16:34

      Right there with you! I’m almost 18 and most of my friends have serious boyfriends, getting engaged and even married (they are a few years older than me), and it’s hard. I’ve never had a real boyfriend either, never been kissed, and feel extremely lonely sometimes. But, I just have to remind myself that my husband is out there for me, I just have to wait for God to put him in my life! And I can’t wait! Besides, the longer you wait for something, the more you value it when you do get it 🙂

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by on December 16, 2012 at 10:32

      Oh I know that must be hard :/ Just remember, while they have their boyfriends, fiances and husbands, your boy’s name is Jesus, and he’s all you’ll ever need! (And he’s got a perfect guy picked out for Y-O-U!) <3

  17. Project Inspired

    Posted by GRITSWomanOfFaith on December 15, 2012 at 22:49

    Having been engaged to the wrong man once in my lifetime already, this is very helpful.
    I look at everyone else, and I think, “Why have they found their happily ever after when I thought I already found mine?” It’s difficult not to rush things when you’ve been so close to the life you thought you wanted.

  18. Project Inspired

    Posted by supaflyfyi on December 15, 2012 at 20:45

    Wow, this article describes me and my situation head on! Thanks for the encouragement!

  19. Project Inspired

    Posted by JennaBel on December 15, 2012 at 12:59

    This is a great article, really uplifting!! I love it! 🙂

  20. violinst4Jesus

    Posted by violinst4Jesus on December 15, 2012 at 11:06

    My tip is to surround yourself with friends who feel the same way you do! I’m waiting until college for a relationship. I’m 17 and I’ve been single forever. Sometimes it’s hard, but I have to remind myself that I’d be spending an awful lot of time with someone who won’t matter to me in ten years. I think it would be cool if my first relationship were with my husband 🙂
    I also write “Dear Romeo:” letters… I don’t know why, but it’s kinda cool, I think. That way I’m focusing on who my future husband will be instead of who my current crush is.

  21. Project Inspired

    Posted by Simply Me. on December 14, 2012 at 19:13

    I agree. Definitely one of the best articles on PI. I can easily relate. I’d love to read more on topics related to this. Thank you so much.

  22. yogagal95

    Posted by yogagal95 on December 14, 2012 at 18:07

    Just last night, I prayed to God about my impatience with His timing regarding this exact topic and BOOM! this article is posted. God works in wonderful ways. I have been seeking Him a lot more lately and just earlier today I realized how much more at peace I am and how much more intimate my relationship is with Him since pursuing Him with a deeper passion. Thank you for posting this article!

  23. Paris

    Posted by Paris on December 14, 2012 at 17:43

    There is this page on Facebook that is called: I’m single because God is busy writing the best love story for me. So,that is what I think about. I’m in no rush. I used to be desparate,but God helped me get to the point where I hardly think about it.

    • Lexi7

      Posted by Lexi7 on December 15, 2012 at 18:48

      i am looking up that page right now! 🙂

  24. jessicarose

    Posted by jessicarose on December 14, 2012 at 16:46

    This is so good Jazlin! Love it!

  25. Kyla

    Posted by Kyla on December 14, 2012 at 16:22

    This could possibly be the best article I’ve read on PI. This relates to me so much and I constantly need to remind myself of this. I often feel like there’s something wrong with me since I’m 17 and have never had a boyfriend but I love your point about the cake. I really like to think of myself as God’s cake that was a great analogy. Thank you!

  26. HurricaneMurphGirl

    Posted by HurricaneMurphGirl on December 14, 2012 at 16:10

    So cool! Thanks for sharing this with me. My sister has a boyfriend, and although I know I’m really too young for a serious relationship like that, (and really I don’t want the extra baggage- or at least, the bad baggage- that comes with it) but it still kinda makes me want to have someone who I can share feelings like those I see from my sister and her boyfriend. I can hardly wait for when God brings someone like that into my life, but I know that God works everything according to His purpose, and I know He knows what’s best. =D