To the Girl Who Is Scared to Dream Big

    Disney movies and women’s magazines tell us we can do and be anything we want.

    But not every girl knows what that is…and some are scared to find out.

    Those of us who come from supportive families, have always known what we wanted to do or firmly believe we can become whatever we want to be might not relate to this struggle. But this doesn’t make it any less real for the girls who are scared to dream big.

    This fear isn’t always rooted in reality (as is the case with most fears). Often, we fear dreaming big because we fear failure. We don’t want to look foolish or change our minds; we don’t want to waste money or time pursuing something we aren’t sure about. These are real concerns, but they don’t have to limit your future. If you’re a girl who’s scared to dream big, this post is for you.


    It’s Okay to Not Have Everything Figured Out

    Cultivating dreams and ambitions doesn’t mean you have a 10-year life plan. You don’t have to have everything figured out ahead of time—and that’s a relief! The beauty of following God is that life with Him is an adventure. As we step forward in faith and embrace the natural gifts He’s given us, He gives us the next step in the journey. Sometimes the girls who find their calling step by step end up far more fulfilled than those who tried to plan it all from the beginning.

    This road to your dreams may wind back and forth, going places you didn’t expect to go. Sometimes you might feel like you’re going backwards! But rest assured that God redeems everything if you trust and obey His Word.


    Take the First Step

    No matter where you are in this journey, all you need to do is take the first step. This might be taking a career test to find out some jobs to which you’re naturally drawn. The first step might be volunteering at a local animal shelter or playing piano at a nursing home. It could be simply checking out a book on a subject you’ve always been curious about. Opening the door doesn’t mean you have to walk through it. Be curious! Discover new skills, learn about your passions and allow God to lead you forward one step at a time.


    Sometimes Big Dreams Take Root in Small Places

    Don’t be ashamed of small beginnings. Sometimes big dreams take root when you’re in the smallest of places—still living with your parents, working a summer job and cultivating a dream on the side. There is no shame in growing a dream from a tiny seed. Very few dreams come to us fully grown!

    Be bold. Step out of your comfort zone and explore new things while you’re in a small place. Even if it feels insignificant, entrust it to God and ask Him to show you if this is the seed of a dream He wants to grow. If it is, He will give you opportunities to do just that!

    Fear will always try to hinder your dreams. Don’t let it! Failure is not a sign of weakness, but a sign that first you tried. The important part is to get up again, grasp God’s hand and walk forward into His purpose.

    Phylicia Masonheimer
    Phylicia Masonheimer
    Phylicia Masonheimer is an author and speaker teaching women how to discern what is true, discuss the deep stuff, and accomplish God's will for their specific lives. She holds a B.S. in Religion from Liberty University, where she met her husband, Josh, and now lives in northern Michigan with her two daughters, Adeline and Geneva.


    1. Thank you for this article. I’m going to start college really soon, and I’ve already declared a major, but I just don’t feel right. And there are endeavours (??) that I have but I don’t know if it’s because they are passions I want to pursue into a career, or if it’s me overthinking so much of the future that I am questioning what path I should take. I know prayer and seeking God’s counsel is one of the best things, if not the best thing, that I should do. And this article comforts me a bit.

    2. Thanks!! This gave me some hope cause I feel like I fall at pretty much everything! Buy it’s good to know that trying and failing is better than not trying at all. I really don’t feel like my life is that meaningful but recently God’s been showing me bit by bit that it is. I struggle with dreaming big cause I’m afraid I’m over thinking or it’s impossible for it to happen. I guess that’s something I need to pray about more!

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