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Turn Away From Bitterness and Say a Forgiveness Prayer!

When we’ve become offended in some way, it’s easy to hold a grudge against the person who’s hurt us. Hurt feelings can cause a person to curse or to say other things that aren’t pleasing to God.  In fact, bitterness is so strong that it could even cause a person to go weeks without speaking to friends or loved ones!

However, bitterness is not Godly! The Bible tells us to walk in the fruit of the spirit which is reflected by “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” (Galatians 5:22-23.) In order to continually walk in this loving and peaceful state, we have to learn to forgive the people who have hurt us. I’m going to share with you a method that helps me to walk in a state of forgiveness, even when my feelings have been hurt.

Let me give you a little background information first. One day I was sitting in bible study when a Christian Counselor, Rev. Paul Morgan, Ph.D., spoke to the congregation. Rev. Morgan shared with us the importance of the prayer of forgiveness. I was immediately drawn to this process that I’m now going to share with you.

Rev. Morgan shared with us that it takes ninety seconds before a thought becomes an emotion. In other words, it takes ninety seconds before we experience anger regarding something that is said to us. Therefore, whenever you feel something unpleasant, that awful feeling in the pit of your stomach, you should immediately go into a prayer of forgiveness. This way, you’ll prevent the negative words from taking root inside of you.

If you don’t capture the thought before it becomes a negative emotion, the negative emotion could cause you to walk out of alignment with God. For example, how many times have you said something hurtful to someone else in anger? Exactly! So, before you say something that you may regret later, go into prayer instead.

Once you’ve said the prayer, and repeated it as many times as necessary to make the negative thought disappear, you’ll then be able to handle the situation in a more appropriate, loving and God-pleasing manner.

Here’s my forgiveness prayer. Feel free to use it!

Dear God, please help me to forgive this person for hurting my feelings. Help me to see the greatness in her and to love her the way that You do. Help me to relinquish the anger that I’m experiencing so that I can walk in the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Help me to heal from this incident and to release any bitterness that I may be harboring. Please give me guidance in this situation, Holy Spirit, so that I can approach it in the way that is most pleasing to You. Help me God to do Your will. Thank You, and in Jesus’ mighty name, I pray. Amen.

The next time that someone hurts your feelings, remember to release it by saying a forgiveness prayer! Share your forgiveness prayer with us below!

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    Posted by kisa546 on May 21, 2012 at 12:33

    My friend posted who I liked on facebook and was gonna delete it right away not thinking anyone would see it but his friends saw it and told him and now they all make fun of me including my crush >.> So I’m gonna ask God to help me forgive everyone 🙂

  3. Posted by on July 10, 2011 at 17:02

    Thanks for the message,I have struggle for forgiving people who did a lot of wrong things to me Especially in the past,I realize that everyone isn’t Perfect and I ask for God to help me and guild me through the way Because It is hard a lot of time you Think that you are forgiving People but really you are not Forgiving yourself it hard for me Because sometimes My Past haunts me,you have to Forgive yourself and Forgive others,But it’s hard sometimes because of trying to forget what someone did to you for me ,I’m not a type person who likes to forget the past and learn from it,So Pray for me Please.

    • Posted by Nicole on July 11, 2011 at 00:24

      I will def. pray for you Jemima! Don’t be too hard on yourself ok? This isn’t an easy one, even for me!

  4. Posted by on July 10, 2011 at 01:40

    Thanks for posting. I needed that.

  5. Posted by on July 9, 2011 at 17:13

    I learned the powerful value of forgiveness from a book called Left to Tell by Immaculee Ilibagiza who is a Rwanda genocide survivor. She finds God during the horrors of her countrie’s Holocaust. She forgives the people who wanted to kill her and even her neighbor who killed her father. The book inspired me to forgive the people in my life who I held bitter grudges against. (And even forgive myself for some things) It is such an amazing, uplifting, freeing feeling to forgive someone and let go of that bitterness. The (true) story is rather sad but it has a good ending. I highly recommend it!

    • Posted by Nicole on July 9, 2011 at 23:49

      wow… that book sounds so powerful and moving. I can see how it changed your life! Thank you for sharing, I’ll look into it 🙂

  6. Posted by on July 9, 2011 at 14:25

    thank you so much for this article! i’ve been really struggling with forgiving an ex-boyfriend who hurt me very badly. i told him i forgave him, but i still held that bitterness for so long… i still wish i could change things and erase the past, but i’m no longer going to let this grudge i was holding keep me away from my relationship with my dear Lord Jesus. Thank you for the reminder!!

  7. Posted by AyshaIves on July 9, 2011 at 00:11

    Forgiveness isn’t easy and it’s something that we all struggle with. I agree with Nicole that asking God for strength in this situation is the way to go. Remember, everything is possible through God, even forgiving someone. From personal experience, I know how hard it is to forgive people who have wronged the people that I care about, but I also know that prayer works. Try saying a forgiveness prayer for him everyday (or even a couple times a day) and have faith that God will heal the wounds that he caused inside of you and your best friend. Then sit back and watch God work. He WILL help you through it. Let us know how it goes! =)

  8. Posted by on July 8, 2011 at 20:35

    All I have to say right now is “Wow”. God works in such mysterious, powerful ways. This whole year I’ve suffered with bullying and insecurity. It was my first time, too, so it really dealt a hard blow on me. I felt so much anger and hatred towards the bully, despite being a generally optimistic, friendly person. It killed me to have my family, friends, and God see me that way. Eventually, I realized I was becoming just like the bully – I wasn’t doing well at school, I lashed out at people, and I started to turn my back to God. I quickly prayed, asking for God’s help. I even stood up to the bully and tried being nice to him. However, I realized that I would never fully get over this unless I forgave him for his actions, otherwise the hatred towards him would consume me and turn me into a different person. I’m still lost and I’m still healing from this, so can anybody who reads this pray for me? The first step towards healing is forgiveness and love. I need this in order to properly move on.

    • Posted by Nicole on July 9, 2011 at 00:42

      I am definitely praying for you! what is this bully saying/doing to you specifically? It’s odd that he’s a boy and he’s picking on you. Maybe he has a crush on you secretly?

      • Posted by on July 11, 2011 at 19:37

        He would just say really rude, puerile comments like “That’s lame/retarded/stupid” whenever I would happily gush about something to my friends (the conversation never even included him!) or always say that studying is for losers. He would even make fun of people’s physical appearances (but he never did so for me), which really bothered me. But I know there is good in everybody, and I know I don’t deserve to be angry and frustrated for his childish sake, so I’m trying to forgive and let go. Thank you for your prayer!

      • Posted by Nicole on July 12, 2011 at 16:57

        HE is the one that’s a loser if he says that studying is for losers! 😉 When you study, you get good grades, which means you’ll get into college, which means you’ll have a great job, which equals a lot of money- which is what winners do! Tell him that.

  9. Posted by on July 8, 2011 at 18:30

    If Jesus forgives us time after time, we can forgive others. He and God showed us the ultimate for of forgiveness by allowing Jesus to die on the cross. While he was on the cross he said, “Father,forgive them for they know not what they do.

  10. Posted by on July 8, 2011 at 18:26

    Thank you so mutch for this message,I’am going totry to use it the next time someone will hurt me or make me upset 🙂

  11. Posted by on July 8, 2011 at 17:25

    There is this guy who my best friend went out with. And I knew he wasn’t right for her. A very ungodly person. And has no respect for women. And he did nothing to me personally but he used my best-friend. And that effected me considering shes like a sister to me. When I think of him I can’t love him like God wants and I can’t forgive him when I say I do I know I haven’t because whenever he is mentioned in a conversation or I’m reminded of him in some way anger, bitterness, and hatred builds up inside me. What do I do I’ve tried to forgive but it’s not working?

    • Posted by Nicole on July 8, 2011 at 17:56

      Have you tried talking to him and asking him why he mistreated her so much? and point out examples of how he did mean things to her. Ask him why he hurt her so bad. Does your friend forgive him? Ask God to pray for him, and excuse his actions because they were so wrong. Keep continually asking God for your forgiveness, but in the meantime avoid him at all costs.

      • Posted by on July 11, 2011 at 18:36

        I haven’t ever really talked to him since so no I didn’t ask him. But before I wasn’t very Christian like towards him. I let my anger out on him because I got so angry at him. I did pray for them both though. I guess I never asked him why. And trust me I have been avoiding him. I’ll do what you said and hopefully it works out. Thank you!:)

      • Posted by Nicole on July 12, 2011 at 14:47

        welcome!!

  12. Posted by on July 8, 2011 at 14:22

    Great message, thanks!!