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Two Teenage Girls Tragically Hung Themselves in Suicide Pact Due to Bullying

This makes me so sad. I’m at a loss for words at this great tragedy. It’s hard to believe two best friends who were bullied made a pact to kill themselves and actually went through with it.

A slumber party in Minnesota ended in tragedy when two eighth grade girls fulfilled a suicide pact, killing themselves and leaving behind suicide notes telling their families that they loved them.

The bodies of best friends Haylee Fentress and Paige Moravetz, both 14, were discovered Saturday by Fentress’ mother, Tracy Morrison.

Haylee’s aunt, Robin Settle, said the girl had recently moved to the rural town of Lynd, Minn., and had complained to her family that she felt bullied on Facebook and at school. Settle also said there are indications that the girls had planned their deaths for a long time, even including funeral details in a good-bye note.

She was made fun of for being overweight, her red hair,” Settle said. “She posted on my [Facebook] wall that she really wanted to come back…that the people were mean and cruel and she didn’t fit in.”

Even though Haylee wasn’t severely overweight, she was so uncomfortable about her size that she rarely ate in public at school, Settle said.

Paige was Haylee’s closest friend.

“They were best friends. Haylee started school here about a year ago and over the course of the year, they’d become best friends,” said Brett Behnke, Paige’s uncle.

Paige played hockey and was teaching Haylee to skate, Behnke said.

“She had a big, round face and a smile that’s intoxicating, just a charmer,” Behnke said of his niece.

The two girls were so close, Haylee had hyphenated her last name on Facebook to include Paige’s last name.

Before they hung themselves they left behind behind suicide notes:

The girls died three days after Paige’s mother and stepdad left for a 10-day vacation to Hawaii. Paige spent the night at Haylee’s home.

“Her and Paige got really close. I think they’ve had this plan for some time,” Settle said.

Sometime after 1 a.m. on Saturday, Haylee left a Facebook post for her cousin, Jessica, wishing her a happy birthday. After leaving a post on her cousin’s wall, Haylee called her closest friend in Indiana, Settle said. Around 6 a.m., Haylee’s mother found the girls.

“They did hang themselves. My sister found them. She’s a medical assistant. She attempted to resuscitate them,” Settle said.

Those efforts to resuscitate the girls failed.

The girls also left behind letters.

“She just didn’t want anybody to be sad for her. She wanted everybody to pray for her and that’s the gist of it,” Behnke said of Paige’s note.

Haylee’s letter was to her mother and detailed plans for her funeral, Settle said.

“She requested everything pink and princess and butterflies,” Settle said.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Although it may seem impossible to get through the hard times while you’re going through it- girls need to know that it will get better, and that other girls are feeling the same way.

Please, if you’re feeling like this too, reach out to a parent, a school doctor or a psychiatrist to get proper help and attention. Your life is at stake and you can’t afford to lose that.

I pray for all the boys and girls who are getting bullied right now on the internet, through facebook, at school, whatever. Those people are insecure, mean, jealous and they’re trying to hurt you. If you need any help concerning this issue you’re going through, please let me know and I will offer my support and try to help you. God Bless. Xoxo

Source: ABC News

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by alwaysstrong on February 18, 2012 at 12:36

    That is soooo horribly sad!!! :'( I also get bullied at school alot. I just started coming to a private school this school year, and at first nobody talked to me. The called me emo alot because i was really depressed and didnt say a whole lot, and they made fun of me for the cuts I had on my wrists and ankles, which made me cut even more. And they also called me a “slut”, “whore”, “fat” and “husky”… but im only 5’4” 95 pounds I just have curves.
    While I was hurting, I began to notice all the other kids in my class who were being bullied. One of them ate in the hallways at lunch everyday, so I talked to him one day to ask if he was ok. Now he’s one of my closest friends 🙂 I made friends with the people who didnt have anybody and eventually my friends with most of the kids in my class. There’s still those rude people who like to make fun of me, but I wont let it get to me again. I’m worth more than that and no bully can tell me otherwise (:

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by xXjeXsiXx on November 5, 2011 at 01:03

    I make sarcastic comments a lot, but only to close friends who KNOW I’m joking. I remember last year we had a new kid who was a minority and everyone in the class was mean to him except for me. I changed everyone else and they all started being nice to him too. I remember he had e-mailed me and said that my “kindness and unbelievable friendliness” had made him feel better, even though no one else was nice to him. (:

  3. Posted by on August 24, 2011 at 15:07

    r.i.p to the girls i felt there pain cause sometimes i feel like that i don’t have no love but i survive it.

  4. Posted by on August 18, 2011 at 00:49

    This is heart breaking no one deserves to be bullied to the point of suicide in fact no one deserves to be bullied at all. I get bullied because i’m not thin and because of rumors going around at school it was so overwhelming to the point were I just couldn’t do it anymore i didn’t want to be here and i didn’t want the have to go through being bullied,i did things i regret to this day and it hurts that my parents found out but i promised i wouldn’t do it again..the bullying got worse and wrose it ended up following me to facebook..but a few months before summer vacation i heard a story like this..it tore me apart i didn’t even know her..she was my age and only lived 45 minutes away from me,i didn’t know her but i cried for days,the reaction scared my mom and she phoned my conseller..i saw her a day later she asked me if the reaction was cause i thought that could have been me at some point…i quietley said yes, my counseller was an in school thing when I go back in the fall for grade 8 we’ll start talking about ways I can improve and lose weight because it’s something i want to do not because the boys that pick on me want me to i’m not doing it for them i’m doing it for me. I talked to my doctor about the thoughts I was having ans she helped me her main advise to me was do something to keep your mind away from that subject and i’ve been doing that and i’m slowly improving and not have those thoughts anymore. i’m not telling you all this becuase i want people to feel sorry for me i don’t feel sorry for myself and i don’t want ya’ll to feel sorry for me i just want to help make this horrible thing be GONE! forever! i don’t want anyone to feel they need to hurt themselves i don’t want anyone to feel they don’t need to be in this world because YOU DO! God put you here he has a pourpouse for you,that pourpouse is probley still unknowen but as you go one your journey in life you’ll fine out what it was and you’ll be happy you’ve completed it to the best of your abbilites even if it was just to make people simle,laugh and feel specail! you have a pourpoue here!
    my advice to anyone out there that has these thoughts or does something harmful is talk to someone! don’t sit there and keep doing it TALK TO SOMONE! call Kids Help Phone if you need to! Your family and friends carew for you and love you people out there that may not even know who you are care about you don’t ever dout that. talk to someone if you do your one step closer to making this go away.

  5. Posted by on August 1, 2011 at 11:57

    I used to feel sucidel a while ago…but I know that with Jesus I can overcome anything, I know that everything will be ok 🙂

    • Posted by Nicole on August 1, 2011 at 23:00

      yes it will Bria!! God will guide you all the days of your life- “The LORD will guide you continually, and satisfy your needs.”. isaiah 58:11 I felt a huge strong urge to write that to you. God bless you.

  6. Posted by on July 9, 2011 at 02:22

    I feel weird quoting this man, but Charles Manson said something when he was on trial that after I read it, things started making a whole lot more sense to me. He said “You can convince anyone of anything if you just push it at them 100% of the time. They may not believe it completely, but they will still use it to form opinions, especially if they have nothing else to draw on.” That’s what I understand about kids who get bullied. You get so beat down from hearing the same thing over and over, you may not believe it but you form your opinions by it. When someone calls you fat everyday, you might not believe them fully, but you might eat less around them. That’s how it was for me at least, sometimes hope comes in the weirdest forms…(:

    • Posted by Nicole on July 9, 2011 at 12:12

      Elizabeth- this is very interesting. Don’t let those stupid bullies drag you down, say to them- “Are you so bored with your own life that you have to talk about mine?”

  7. Posted by on June 26, 2011 at 18:36

    Shannon, I’d tell the girl you know that she looks beautiful and don’t let the bullies get to her and if you and her pray to God that the bullying would be over, after some long patience it might work. I hope she feels better I’ll be praying for her. And if the bullies keep on picking on her you can do two things: One stand up to the bullies or if it gets worse two, report it to the principal! Hope this advice can work!

  8. Posted by on June 26, 2011 at 18:28

    I’ve been personally bullied all my life but it ended in the first week of my Junior year in High school. I know I’ve been through a lot even though I felt like I wanted to kill myself as well but I had family and friends that supported me and I prayed to God to help me get the bullying out of the way, and it helped in my Junior year and to me that’s awesome not being bullied anymore. And when I saw this middle school boy being picked on by his ‘friend(s)’ and I said to them “Hey, you better leave him alone ok?” And the ‘friend’ said “Well we’re just ‘friends’ I said “Well if you’re ‘friends’ with him then I’d suggest being nice to him instead of talking to him without him feeling threatened” And the ‘friend’ started leaving him alone. I felt like I was a hero, and I was, so the middleschool boy and I became friends!

    • Posted by Nicole on June 30, 2011 at 16:01

      that’s SO amazing and sweet of you Katie!! That makes me so happy you stuck up for him. 🙂

  9. Posted by on May 21, 2011 at 15:39

    That’s so terrible. My grandmother did suicide when i was two. She had to many pills. She had major depression and thought the town was after her. My mom, dad and I were the ones to find her. Thank god I was to young to remember. God bless everyone.

  10. Posted by on May 18, 2011 at 02:13

    I was bullied for awhile on and off but i was never suicidal because of that. When I turned 13 I began cutting because I gave myself up to a boy I thought I loved and I thought he loved me back. That wasn’t the case at all. A month later after I gave him what he wanted he started ignoring me and i decided that if I say I’m going to break up with him he will beg for me back. That didn’t happen and that’s when I broke down for 3 or 4 months I was cutting and got deeper and deeper until it wasn’t doing the job for me so I decided that I would just take pills to kill myself. My younger sister saw me and told her mom. Christina ( sister ) still worry’s. It kills me that I’m apart of her anxiety problems when she’s just 12. Nothing happened I just slept for 24 hours. turned out they were sleeping pills. I ended fighting at school and beating up my best friend. Getting in trouble with the cops and going to the hospital. I still have troubles with the cutting. It’s been 3 years now since i first started and I’m still struggling to control it. I was sexually abused from 3-8 I was raped in a room right next to my ex-best friend and the police won’t do a damn thing about it The friend tried to convince me to do nothing about it because it was her Boy friends friend. I refused to let her make my decisions for me. I was going through with the report weather I had her support or not. We turned out getting into a physical fight. . I struggle with drinking, and smoking but I’m working my way through it. Not as fast as other people but I’m going at my own pace.

    • Posted by Nicole on May 18, 2011 at 11:37

      Thank you for speaking out about this Lisa, your testimony will help other girls that are going through the same thing. if you are still experiencing these feelings, it would probably be a good idea to talk to a therapist, they can help you work through these problems. I am praying for you, God needs you in the world, so don’t give up! It WILL get better. God Bless 🙂

  11. Posted by on May 13, 2011 at 11:10

    My heart is breaking for these girls and their families! I was actually crying! I’ll pray for all the bullied girls and all the bullies, too!

  12. Posted by on May 12, 2011 at 18:58

    That is so tragic. If only somebody could see past the plastic smiles. Life is so precious. Whether it is through the form of abortion, abuse, suicide, bullying… you name, life is thrown away. People, God made EVERY life. EVERY life is precious. May God’s children be troubled about this and DO SOMETHING. Sit with the loner at school. Offer to take the new co-worker to lunch. Jesus chilled with people. Shouldn’t we do the same?

  13. Posted by on May 9, 2011 at 08:04

    oh my god this is terrible i never knew so many people killed themselves ovah this i thinks everybody is cute in there on way

  14. Posted by on May 4, 2011 at 10:04

    i just broke my right hand cause i hit a wall cause i was really mad and now kids in my class are always making fun of me, at one time i was thinking about killing myself. i almost started to cry and i never cry. i skipped the rest of the day. i never want to go back to school. what do i do?

    • Posted by Nicole on May 4, 2011 at 13:37

      Hi Daniel- First of all I want to say I am so, so sorry that those stupid kids are being so mean to you. They are insecure, selfish, and are not walking in the light of God. You are so adored by Him, and you are so unique and special just the way you are. Whoever is making fun of you, probably feels threatened of you in some way because you are above all their crap, and you stand out. Talk to a counselor at school about this, and tell the principal of your school the names of the immature kids that are making fun of you, so he can talk to them. If they keep it up, they can be expelled from school. You are priceless, and the world would never be the same if you weren’t in it. I care about you- and I will pray for you. Please let me know how it goes, but don’t ever give up. Those kids are going against everything that God wants. God Bless you Daniel- you’re in my thoughts.

  15. Posted by on May 3, 2011 at 18:25

    That is so horrible. They are two beautiful girl’s and should not be bullied like this. That is so sad. If anyone has bullies stand up to them and they’ll leave you alone. I know from experience. I had a bully I stood up to him and then he was actually afraid on me! So if you have a bully stand up to him/her and they’ll leave you alone

  16. Posted by on April 30, 2011 at 20:18

    I am currently being bullied at my school. The two main reasons are my race and my sexual orientation. Almost every day someone points to a landscaper and says “Hey go talk to your friend(s)” or “Go pick them up in your pick-up truck” First, I can’t drive, genius. Second, that is just stereotypical. Landscaping is better than dealing drugs or prostituting. And then theres my orientation. I am bisexual and so everyone at school treats me different now. Once I was talking to my friend and this guy sitting next to her texts her: “Lift up your shirt, she’s looking.” I won’t use any cussing but AGGH!:(

    • Posted by Nicole on May 1, 2011 at 11:28

      I know it’s hard and might seem silly, but I would talk to a counselor at your school and see if they could help you work through this mean behavior the other people are giving you. Many teenagers can be cruel, and are looking to pick on someone different then them, so they can feel more secure about themselves if that makes any sense. They are incredibly immature and selfish, and are not worth your time. Next time they say something rude, say “Really? How about you get a life instead of focusing on mine.” I’ve used that several times when I was in High school and it shut the mean girls up and they felt foolish. Let me know how it goes!

  17. Posted by on April 29, 2011 at 18:19

    So so so so sad I’m crying =[

  18. Posted by on April 28, 2011 at 13:26

    This is becoming a thing nowadays. People think they are better than everyone and bully other people. They just do it to make themselves feel better. And when they bring a gun to school or kill themselves, everyone asks why. God bless their families. And pray for the bullying to end.

  19. Posted by on April 27, 2011 at 23:11

    This is just so sad. Bullying has grown to become such a big problem. I see it happening at my school, too. Why can’t people just leave others alone? Does it give them some sick satisfaction to see others in pain and sad? It kills me to see things like this taking place.
    To anybody being bullied out there, I know this sounds so hackneyed and trite, but you are beautiful. YOU should’t feel bad about what others say; THEY should be the ones feeling ashamed for their actions. If they’re childish and heartless enough to make you feel that way, you shouldn’t even waste your time worrying about them because they’re obviously very narrow-minded, immature, and stupid. Just ignore them and don’t deal with them. Pray for them and feel sorry for them instead. Whose life are you living? Your own. Are they living your life? No. So don’t let them take contro of the gift that God has given you. Rather, turn to the beauty and hope in life. It’s always there, we just don’t see it.
    Some closing words: You are wonderful just the way you are. Don’t ever believe the lie that tells you otherwise. You are your own person, sculpted perfectly and meticulously in the hands of God so that you am formed just as he wanted you to be. Therefore, you am a beautiful creation.
    Sorry for the long post and God bles.

    • Posted by Nicole on April 27, 2011 at 23:24

      Stefanie I know this message touched the hearts of many girls reading this. God bless you!

  20. Posted by on April 27, 2011 at 22:23

    thank you for posting this nicole…there are so many people out there who will just tear you down in an attempt to build themselves up. I once heard on the news another story much like this. The worst part was that the bully (some teenage girl) showed up to the girl’s funeral and made fun of her. AT HER OWN FUNERAL!!! Its just so devastating to hear about the pain and destruction that so many face because of some bully. I pray for all of you who have been victims of bullies, or are currently victims of bullies. May the Lord give you strength and courage to stand up for who you are. No matter what others say, God made you exactly as He intended you to be. Stay strong. I also pray for the bullies. I pray that the Lord opens your eyes to the devastating destruction that you are causing, that you will repent, and start encouraging others.

  21. Posted by on April 27, 2011 at 16:45

    this broke my heart to hear and from personal experience because I was bullied for a long time and it was a hard road to go down but God pulled me through it and I came out stronger and My heart goes out to these 2 families who have lost these 2 girls it is just sad to hear

  22. Posted by on April 27, 2011 at 07:30

    Forget the last part of what i just said. Don’t just keep your mouth shut, say something ENCOURAGING to someone!

  23. Posted by on April 27, 2011 at 07:29

    Bet those bullies feel bad now!….There is whole bunch of stuff i could say about those bully but because i’m a Christian and know it wont help i’m not going to. But I will say this, I’m praying for you to get some since in your head to know the meaningless insults you say is serious chiz to someone else! Keep your mouth shut!!!

  24. Posted by on April 27, 2011 at 04:42

    My Heart is broke for there families and friends

  25. Posted by on April 27, 2011 at 03:50

    I know a girl who gets bullied at her junior high. She’s really gorgeous and really skinny but kids at her school have called her fat so much that she just believes them and I can’t even tell her otherwise anymore because she doesn’t listen to me. All of her friends at school basically ditched her and now she feels horrible. 🙁 Is there anything I can do to get through to her?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by lcyaya9 on December 3, 2011 at 12:01

      Just spend time with her and give her someone to trust and talk to that will be the nicest thing that you can do for her.

    • Posted by on November 12, 2011 at 22:22

      Absolutely. It took me a lot of courage to do the same for my close friend—I had to inform her parents that she felt “ugly” and “fat”, even though (of course) she wasn’t. Your friend could be in danger of harming herself. And when she harms herself, she harms others. Look for hints of loss of appetite, change in weight, appearance, and if she keeps constant negative attitude/talk. Prayers are needed, too. 🙂 I hope that helps.