You know that feeling when you meet someone, and you just “click” right away. You can also imagine when you get introduced to someone new, and you have high hopes to get along—yet you feel like you have nothing in common. Here are five tips to help you rock the conversation, so you can potentially meet a new friend!
1)Have a great attitude! Your personality is all about your outlook on life, and shows right away in a face-to face interaction. Start the conversation with a smile, keep an open mind, and ask questions about their life- your curiosity will flatter the person and make them more likely to open up and be friendly.
2) Pay attention to their behavior! Notice their mannerisms, such as how fast they talk, if they use their hands, whether they lean toward you, etc.
3) Mirror their body language! Subtly, alter your mannerisms so that they match the person you’re talking to, and adapt to their communication style. If they use their hands often, try doing so as well. I often practice this when I can tell the person I’m talking to is wildly different from me, so I subtly alter my body (cross my legs as well, etc) to make them more comfortable. It’s a common fact that people enjoy and like people similar to them.
4) Have something in common! Try and find something that you both like, such as a particular city, a certain hobby such as pilates, a favorite movie, whatever. When I meet someone new and want to find a topic to discuss, many times I will ask where they’re originally from- and talk about what I know of that city. It’s a great chance for them to open up and for you to get to know them better.
5) Most important: Listen! No one can stand meeting someone new and them talking on and on about their own self, without making any effort to get to know you. It’s a narcissistic behavior that many people do and it’s not attractive. I often ask the questions about the person, and then sit and listen. Remember; People always like talking about themselves, so listening is a sure way to build a rapport right away.
You can use these tips on an unfriendly girl at school, a mean boss, a new waitress, whatever. Watch and see what happens, you won’t be disappointed!