fbpx

Catch Nicole in Catching Faith 2 now on DVD and streaming, buy your copy here!

Catch Nicole in Catching Faith 2 now on DVD and streaming, buy your copy now!

  • News From Nicole
More

    Wearing Pajama Bottoms in Public Sends Unintended Messages

    I often wonder how some trends are fashioned. Does one person think up a fun twist to wearing a garment and then it slowly spreads? Or is it introduced in the media, on a music video, or on the catwalk, and the fans pick it up?

    Maybe it’s a little of both, but whatever the process, I would like to know who the first person was to wear pajama bottoms in public.

    When I was in college, I questioned this trend when kids came to the dining hall in pajama bottoms. Now, I’m seeing it everywhere.

    Just the other day, my family and I went to Pizza Hut for lunch and three girls (all at different tables) were wearing pajama bottoms. Two of the bottoms were pink with bunnies or puppies or some childish pattern. One of the ladies also was wearing slippers and looked like she had just rolled out of bed.

    I cannot think of anything that justifies wearing pajama bottoms in public.

    When I think of pajama bottoms, I think comfy, tired and lazy. But here are the messages that a person sends when he or she wears pajama bottoms in public, and how they can be interpreted by others:

    I can’t be bothered to get dressed.

    (Interpretation: You’re lazy. I’d never hire you if I were an employer.)

    I don’t care what I look like.

    (Interpretation: You have no self-worth. If you don’t care about you, why should I?)

    I don’t care what anyone thinks.

    (Interpretation: You’re selfish, rebellious, and immature.)

    The above interpretations may not represent reality, but your appearance gives those impressions.

    The way you dress is a reflection of your attitude, but it’s also a reflection of how others see you. You could be the smartest, most hard-working person in the world, but if you venture out in public in a pair of pink bunny pajama bottoms, people are going to think the opposite.

    Not only is your appearance a reflection of how others perceive you, but it’s also a reflection of how you see yourself. The message? “You are not worth the effort it takes to put on a pair of pants, and neither am I.”

    Personal appearance reflects an attitude, and your message should be a positive one, especially if you bump into someone important to you. We meet people every day, and some of them are potential friends, bosses, influential figures, and even soul mates. If you’re wearing pajamas, I doubt that any of them will give you a second glance, except to figure out what cartoon character’s on your pajamas.

    Ladies, your appearance in public should be important to you. Being clean and well-groomed should be second nature, and putting on a fresh and presentable outfit should go without saying.

    I understand that you may not want to dress up or just need to run out to the store, but it only takes a minute to look presentable. And that small effort could make a huge difference.

    Be honest! Have you worn pajama bottoms in public? Have you seen others wear them and what impression did it give you ?

    T.M. Gaouettehttp://www.tmgaouette.com
    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit tmgaouette.com for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on www.facebook.com/TMGaouette and https://twitter.com/TMGaouette .

    124 COMMENTS

    1. A few years ago my friends had this idea of dressing up in their PJs to go see a movie at the theater. And so we did. We did it by choice not laziness. As for people who dress up like that all the time.. yeah that’s not good. But anyone who would really judge someone that harshly should be the one getting reprimanded, make those decisions when you know well enough to, not just by some glimpse. Although, my question is why does the girls in public school bother to keep wearing their pajama pants but do their hair and makeup?

    2. Ha yeah my mom never let us go outside in jammies she said we looked like bums/orphans. So yeah it’s true that what you wear not only reflects you but others also. Because people always say “You’re mama let you go out lookin like that?” I’ve even said it myself. It’s sloppy girls. I know it’s comfy in the house and you really don’t want to get out of your cotton spongebob pjs but yeah be presentable. God’s children are not bums. They are examples of Him.

    3. I’m sorry but I sort of disagree with this. It wouldn’t be a great idea to apply for a job in pajamas, but coming from a place where it gets to -11 F, I put my pajama pants over my skinny jeans sometimes! To a degree, it’s good not to care what people think. Jesus loves you just the way you are, whether you’re wearing a fancy dress, ripped jeans, or pajama pants!

    4. Yes, I have. I was exhausted and mostly I wore them because I was sick or all my other clothes were dirty. If I see someone else wearing them I think that they’re probably tired or they wanted to be comfortable today. I also wear them when PMSing and the cramps are so bad that the thought of wearing a pair of jeans or anything else more constricting is not pleasant. I really don’t see a problem with it, it’s comfortable and as long as they’re wearing decent shoes/shirts, it’s mostly a trend. But wearing slippers in public is just…no. Don’t do that.

    5. Okay she may have been a little harsh but think about it. Your going around in your PJ’s… look at that from a guys point of view. Pjs=bed… i think you get my point. The bible says not to cause your brothers to stumble. And if jesus said to commit adultry was to merely LOOK at a woman in lust… why should we cause our brothers to stumble and hurt thier walk with our Daddy?

      • I get what you’re saying, but what makes boys think about that stuff is more like tight clothes, showing cleavage, etc. And sweatpants can look kind of frumpy and “unsexy” (unless they have something written on the butt of course). So it can cause almost an opposite effect lol.

    6. Jesus had a “Come as you are policy.” Jesus loves us no matter if we dress in rags/PJs/nice clothes. He doesn’t care what we wear (as long as it’s modest!) ! Why are you wasting your energy on writing about why it’s a sin to wear PJs in public…? On your bio it says you aren’t superficial. Judging people for wearing PJs is incredibly superficial. In my opinion, God would much rather you be writing about something important, rather than if we are wearing modest PJs to go to Pizza Hut (fast food, mind you. if it were like a fancy restaurant, I would be upset too. But no, it’s pizza hut…) or something else. God gave Adam & Eve clothes instead of leaves so they would be comfortable… You are taking the whole idea of religion way out of proportion. You are also making assumptions about God, and what He approves of, since you have no solid evidence.

      Please know that I respect you as a person/fellow sister in Christ, I just respectfully disagree. God bless! I know God will do something great in your life!

    7. I wear pajama bottoms all the time. It’s not that I don’t care what I look like, it’s that I know I can pull off looking good in anything. If you’re going to judge me harshly because I don’t get dressed up to go out in public, no, you’re NOT worth putting on nicer pants for.
      I don’t have to dress to please anyone but myself, and if I’m confident with how I look in PJ pants, what’s wrong with that? Isn’t that what this website is all about?

    8. I personally enjoy dressing up to go to school, or out in public at all. But I don’t see why it’s such a big deal that others don’t share my enthusiasm for dresses and frilly shirts. What people wear is a way to express themselves and their personality. If someone wears pajamas everyday, then maybe they’re just a laid-back person! If they wear pajamas on the rare occasion, then they might just want to be comfortable for a day. I agree with Muireann that if someone is judging based solely on appearances, then they are the one committing a wrong. As long as pajamas aren’t worn in professional or more formal settings (a job interview or church, for example) then I have no problem with this “trend”.

    9. i like to wear pjs to school. dont you think its pushing it a little to say that doing so makes people think “You’re selfish, rebellious, and immature”? sorry but this article just rubs me the wrong way

    10. I did it once, to go to a movie theater. If I am at a youth group retreat, or camp, and it will be time to go to bed soon I don’t mind wearing them, even if I am not going to bed quite yet. When I see PJ bottoms I think of them as the same thing as sweat pants. Someone who wants to be cozy that day, and who doesn’t care about what others think of her outward apperance. I do agree that people should brush their hair first, put on some shoes, and put on a nice clean shirt. I don’t care what people think I look like – Just what God thinks. Sure, I want to make a good impression, but my whole world doesn’t revolve around what others think.

    11. Personally, I don’t feel that it’s that much of an issue. I mean, they’re confident in who they are and what they look like. I don’t think it’s that they really don’t care. The people i know that wear pajamas in public are outgoing, fun loving, and positive. They don’t appear “sloppy” because they DO put effort into their hair, makeup, etc. and their PJ’s arent dirty or whatever. It’s kind of like wearing sweats. We shouldn’t have to try too hard to make ourselves look “presentable” in this world.

    12. I notice that you did not say one thing about Christianity or modesty in this article. All I see is someone who has a problem with a current fashion trend and is venting. Listen, I don’t think people even WOULD wear comfy clothes to a job interview or a fancy dinner. You saw a few people at a fast food restaurant. No offense, but your pretty judgmental. Maybe you should think about the phrase ‘Be kinder than necessary, because you never know what someone is going through’.

    13. Hold on a minute here. I agree with the majority of Project Inspired articles, but this is a little harsh. I disagree. There’s really nothing wrong with dressing comfortably. If wearing immodest clothing is your idea of comfy, yes, there’s a problem, but the comment that you made about “I don’t care what I look like” is kind of crossing the judgement border. In most cases, it’s good to not care what you look like. I know I don’t care about makeup and name brand clothing. Yet, I’m still a good person. You can’t look at someone’s looks and say, “they must be rebellious”. Only God knows their heart and their relationship with him. I think if you wore pajama bottoms to your graduation, funeral, or another formal event, that would be disrespectful, but honestly I see no problem with them otherwise. God doesn’t care what you wear, whether it’s ripped jeans, pajama pants, shorts or jeans. He cares about the heart, not the outward appearance. It’s good to not care about makeup or fancy clothes. It’s good to a degree to not care what you look like. You’re only young once, and lots of little girls are pressured to grow up too fast. I chose comfort over fashion and people don’t judge me.

      • i completly agree i love this site but some of the articles are totaly rediculous the bikini waxing on was way up there in crazy girl land just because im a christan means i cant get a bikin wax well i disagree and i also disagree with this theirs nothing wrong with wearing pjs heck i wore them to school for finals and hqes~

    14. I think that if you are clean and modest it doesn’t matter what you wear. Admonishing people for wearing pajama pants in public is like saying that being unmatching is wrong. I disagree with this article.

    15. 1st of all WWJD!! or WWJT(what would Jesus think) if He saw us in our sponge bob PJs at Pizza Hut? He wouldnt care duhh

      I love my Pjs! i dont like trends though. i’ve worn pjs in public before and have gotten compliments lol (i had grinch pjs) I do care of how i look though, not to please pple but just because i like dressing up. i agree with the other girls, as long as u dont look trashy, (as in brush ur hair, wear a decent shirt and shoes) and if ure only going to the store or to a fast food restaurant and not planning on spending the whole day there then by all means go for it. I mean even if you do dress in normal clothes who’s gonna remember. I dont spend my time checking out how people are dressed. I dont remember peoples faces much less what they are wearing (unless they are wearing something really really cute) but if they are in their every day clothes then they are just another person to me. Besides most of the girls here, are well… girls. If you’re married and with kids then yeah i’d agree with you but most of us here are in our teen years. so it’s all good 😉 but anyways just be u. Jesus teaches us not to judge people by their appearance. I respect ur opinion but dont judge us because we like wearing our Pjs. God bless 😉

    16. Why should women have to dress to be “presentable” when men don’t? and also it really depends on how comfortable u feel in that town. here where i live i sometimes walk to my friends house wearing pajamas knowing full well that we might go on a walk. i really dont think it’s bad as long as it’s not all of the time!

    17. I’ve worn PJ bottoms out to late movies and other places. I personally dont think its a huge problem worth writing an article about. I mean,is being comfy bad? Sweats are basically the same thing, so should we not wear those either? sorry, but i disagree with this.

    18. I don’t usually wear actual pj’s outside. sometimes i do, but only when i’m sick and going to the doctor or something! I do wear soft and comfy sweats and stuff outside. I recently went through a period of deep depression and I really didn’t care bout my appearance,so I started wearing only yoga pants or big baggy sweats. Unattractive! Now I realize the message I was sending and I try to look nicer when I go out. But I still do wear my favorite sweats alot! (what, they’re comfy!)

    19. i wore pj’s in walmart before. the message it sends me is bold, (in a good way) fun, i don’t care what you think of me ( again, in a good way) outgoing and not afraid to wear what you want! but i don’t think you should wear them in public all the time!

    20. I don’t think wearing pajama pants is unhealthy. People actually pick out what they wear the next day and they think its cool. Sweatpants can be seen as “Pajama Pants”. Whats wrong. . . lmaoo saying its “You’re selfish, rebellious, and immature” doesn’t make people want to come back and check this site everyday. It’s kinda insulting. wow

    21. I don’t agree that “I don’t care what anyone thinks.” translates into “I’m selfish, rebellious, and immature.” I don’t think people should care so much about what others think of them, and I think that if you don’t care about what others think, it shows confidence.

    22. For once I actually agree with T.M. Don’t get me wrong; everybody has lazy days and sometimes it’s relaxing and comfortable to wear pajamas all day. But doing it on a regular basis doesn’t set a good predecent. It gives off the impression that you’ve completely let yourself go. And starting off the day by washing your face, brushing your teeth, putting on decent clothes and basically making yourself look presentable also really helps you feel crisp, fresh and ready to go. You’ll get a lot more accomplished and feel a lot better about yourself 🙂

    23. i havent but i have seen people wear them. So is it ok to wear sweat pants or adidis pants out in public? or does that give off a look that were lazy? I usaully just wear them because there comfy? Is that worng?

    24. I think it depends on the pajama pants. If they’re hot pink with little bunnies on them, then no – I wouldn’t wear them out. However, some pajama pants are actually kind of cool and classy – sort of preppy looking with plaids and stripes not in screaming colors. Now those – yea, I have worn them with cute flip-flops and a nice top in the summer….they’re comfy! I wouldn’t wear them, say, out to dinner. But to the supermarket or McDonalds? Um, yea….Why on earth would that be more “gross” than shorty shorts with your butt sticking out or yoga pants that are so tight you can see every lump and bump?

    25. I have worn pajamas pants before in public and personally I see nothing wrong with it. Booty shorts or low cut shirts may be inappropriate but a comfy pair of pajamas bottoms does no one harm. We shouldn’t be so focused on our looks that we aren’t ok with not looking totally perfect 24/7. Our job is to love God and love others. If we are spending time judging others because they are wearing pajamas pants, WE are the problem. However, I accept others opinions 🙂 You do you, I am just saying not to judge others.

    Project Inspired

    We here at Project Inspired want to guide and inspire teen girls to be true to themselves and to God. We want to show young girls how to be people of value and confidence – how to be your own best selves – through leading a Christian life. Who are we? We're a team of girls, like you. We edit the site, we post to social media, we hang out in the chat rooms and forums. We talk with you, we listen to you, and we love you!

    Read On

    10 Festive and Fun Holiday Activities to Do This Winter Break

    As we are in the winter break season, there are many fun holiday things to do. I wanted to inspire you with some Christmas...

    4 Powerful Things You Didn’t Know About Women in the Early Church

    When we talk about women and the church, the conversation usually descends into a discussion of gender roles. While I’ve discussed women and the...

    10 Amazingly Delicious Hot Chocolate Recipes to Try This Season

    Grab your best mug, the coziest blanket, and your favorite movie! As temperatures wind down and the holidays close in, who wouldn't go for...

    The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Family

    The greatest gift you can give your family is quality time.  No amount of presents, the coolest new toy or even money is as valuable...

    50 Things to Do When You’re Single for the Holidays

    Are you single for the holidays? Is "cuddling season" inapplicable to you? Are you getting "all the feels" this time of year? Well, I've got news for...

    Subscribe!

    Stay connected with Project Inspired.