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    Wearing Pajama Bottoms in Public Sends Unintended Messages

    I often wonder how some trends are fashioned. Does one person think up a fun twist to wearing a garment and then it slowly spreads? Or is it introduced in the media, on a music video, or on the catwalk, and the fans pick it up?

    Maybe it’s a little of both, but whatever the process, I would like to know who the first person was to wear pajama bottoms in public.

    When I was in college, I questioned this trend when kids came to the dining hall in pajama bottoms. Now, I’m seeing it everywhere.

    Just the other day, my family and I went to Pizza Hut for lunch and three girls (all at different tables) were wearing pajama bottoms. Two of the bottoms were pink with bunnies or puppies or some childish pattern. One of the ladies also was wearing slippers and looked like she had just rolled out of bed.

    I cannot think of anything that justifies wearing pajama bottoms in public.

    When I think of pajama bottoms, I think comfy, tired and lazy. But here are the messages that a person sends when he or she wears pajama bottoms in public, and how they can be interpreted by others:

    I can’t be bothered to get dressed.

    (Interpretation: You’re lazy. I’d never hire you if I were an employer.)

    I don’t care what I look like.

    (Interpretation: You have no self-worth. If you don’t care about you, why should I?)

    I don’t care what anyone thinks.

    (Interpretation: You’re selfish, rebellious, and immature.)

    The above interpretations may not represent reality, but your appearance gives those impressions.

    The way you dress is a reflection of your attitude, but it’s also a reflection of how others see you. You could be the smartest, most hard-working person in the world, but if you venture out in public in a pair of pink bunny pajama bottoms, people are going to think the opposite.

    Not only is your appearance a reflection of how others perceive you, but it’s also a reflection of how you see yourself. The message? “You are not worth the effort it takes to put on a pair of pants, and neither am I.”

    Personal appearance reflects an attitude, and your message should be a positive one, especially if you bump into someone important to you. We meet people every day, and some of them are potential friends, bosses, influential figures, and even soul mates. If you’re wearing pajamas, I doubt that any of them will give you a second glance, except to figure out what cartoon character’s on your pajamas.

    Ladies, your appearance in public should be important to you. Being clean and well-groomed should be second nature, and putting on a fresh and presentable outfit should go without saying.

    I understand that you may not want to dress up or just need to run out to the store, but it only takes a minute to look presentable. And that small effort could make a huge difference.

    Be honest! Have you worn pajama bottoms in public? Have you seen others wear them and what impression did it give you ?

    T.M. Gaouettehttp://www.tmgaouette.com
    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit tmgaouette.com for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on www.facebook.com/TMGaouette and https://twitter.com/TMGaouette .

    124 COMMENTS

    1. I agree the only reason I would think there is to wear it in public is if your really sick and it makes you really weak and barely have the energy to stand and your just going to the doctor I can understand that. But other then that reason Don’t wear it in public just because you want to.

    2. Never thought of it like this before. I wear P.J.s to the handy way up the street all the time. I never even gave it a second thought till now. I think I’ll be putting on my jeans from now on though.

    3. I, honestly, have never done this. I don’t really plan to (unless its PJ day at school ;)) But I don’t know if these aspects are what EVERYONE sees. I mean, I don’t really take it as that. I see it more as people just following a quirky fashion trend. But I guess it just depends on who you are. But I think it should be used lightly if anything. Going to McDonalds or running errands, sure, I guess, but school or work? No, that’s drawing the line.

    4. In my city, they are trying to ban wearing pajama bottoms in public. I don’t know the exact story of why they are, but it was something like, there were these guys in walmart, wearing pajama bottoms, and they had the fronts open or something and you could see their private area. A guy reported it, and that’s why they’re trying to ban pajama bottoms in public.

    5. I have never worn pajamas in public. I find it disturbing, a nuisance, and I always see those who do wear their pj’s in public as immature and irresponsible adults/young adults. No offence to anyone. It is simply my opinion.

    6. I have before, but that was a long time ago when I was a little girl. My daddy was an over-the-road truck driver and my family would go with him. Sometimes at night or in the mornings, my mum and dad would take us in to go to the bathroom and we would still be wearing out pajamas. I would never do it nowadays! It looks slouchy.

    7. I have definitely seen lots of teenage girls(especially at the mall) wear pajama pants. I never have though. I have never been a fan of wearing them in public. I agree that you must be really lazy or thing it’s cool or something to that effect. I never really got this trend…

      • I don’t see the problem either. I don’t think pajama bottoms means you’re rebellious and immature. And you certainly wouldn’t wear them to a job interview. It’s sort of like wearing yoga pants in public (ew). The only thing that bothers me about it is thinking these people walk around all day in those pajama pants, then go home and get in the bed.

        • I also agree.
          Many people don’t care on what your wearing or not.
          They may snigger, ect, but I don’t think It’s technically headline news.

    8. I wear pajama bottoms under my suit for speech competitions when we leave in the mornings. It is my team and really good friends, and since we have to leave around 5:30 in the morning and it is FREEZING outside, I have them on to stay warm. I take them off before competition since part of our score is appearance. I hate it when people wear them in public on a regular basis, I assume they’re lazy and don’t care enough about themselves to take an extra minute to grab a nice pair of pants (or for me, I always wear skirts) and a sweater to go and grab their groceries and shampoo from Target. But your Pizza Hut story is horrifying! to go out to eat… sad 🙁

    9. I have only worn PJ bottoms once, and I dont really care. But I do think it’s a little sloppy.

      I usually wear jeans that are a little baggy so they dont look tight but they still fit, and a big t-shirt and my favorite zip up hoodie. Sometimes I wear more girlier outfits, but sometimes I get up so late that I dont have much time. I wish I did. But I’m pretty lazy in the morning. Do you have any ideas how to make yourself look more presentable in the morning in about 10 minutes? 🙂

        • I have a huge collection of bandanas, all differnt shades patterns and styles, it keeps your hair out of your face, and it looks pretty. 🙂 (It’s not a religigus thing, my parents don’t care as long as my hair is decent)

    10. I don’t know what’s worse; PJs or clothes that aren’t even CLOSE to fitting? What happened to the dasys where people dressed modestly and took care of the clothes they had? Take the 1940s for examle: they weren’t self centered, nor did they pay a fortune for clothes, but they always managed to look classy.

      I think sometimes people take the expression “don’t care what other people think of you” a little too far. The expression ment for you to not focus on them, but learn to take care of yourself.

      And, no, I’ve never worn PJs in public. And I never plan to do so. lol

      • I agree completely. Back in the day people made a point of presenting themselves well, no matter how much money they had. Imagine what they would say if they were told that one day in the future people would be wearing their night clothes in public places. They would never believe it.

        • yes, I’m not able to go shopping whenever I feel like it, a lot of my clothes are hand-me downs or thrift-store clothes. so my rule is to always be clean, I’d rather have clean hand-me-downs, then sloppy desiner clothes. 🙂

    11. The only time I would wear PJ’s in public at school would be for a dress-up spirit day. Sure, they are very comfy, but I’ve seen people do it at places like Starbucks, and it does give a message of “I’m lazy, I don’t really care about how I dress, etc.” You are not saying you have to have the latest greatest fashions. You are simply saying in a way that even a simple outfits of jeans or (modest) sweat pants, Converse, and a t-shirt are way more presentable than wearing your pajamas in public. And even sweat pants can push it in a way.

    12. Thank you! I hate when people wear pajama bottoms in public, that sends the message that you do not care about your appearance at all! There are only a few exceptions, such as going to the doctors office when you’re really sick, or staying up really late to go black friday shopping or something similar (:

    13. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to not care what people think (in a way), if their opinion is stopping you from being you then why should you listen to them trying to change you? Also, it’s nice to laze a bit, we don’t always have to be immaculate everytime we step foot out of the house, it’s too much pressure on the looks department! We should be who we are and dress how we choose (as long as it’s appropriate) Just my opinion… 🙂 x

    14. I have not worn pajama bottoms in public. I have seen others wear them and it makes me think”Did you just get out of bed or were you just too lazy to put on jeans aand pull your hair up if you are not goiung to do it.

    15. I think that Pajama bottoms are pretty unacceptable to wear for school or jobs. But, I feel that they are okay if you are just running to the store late at night,(that’s the only time that I’ve worn them).

    16. I totally agree. I’ve seen this trend, and I hate it. Also, the trend of wearing sweats everyday. I might understand once in a while, if you’re not feeling well, or having a bad day. but sweats EVERY DAY? it only takes an extra second to pull on a pair of jeans, if that. You’re right, it does make the wearer look lazy and immature.

    17. Your interpretation of ‘I don’t care what anyone thinks’ is Selfish, Rebellious and Immature?? This is outrageous! Do explain, how not caring about what random strangers perceive you as, is SELFISH? Do you really think for one moment that you suffered being so uncomfortable because a person in public is wearing pajama bottoms? I seriously frown on this message and think that you should be more disturbed by women in public wearing mini-skirts and short shorts and low-cut shirts revealing (quite literally) showing most of their breasts. This is unnecessarily judgemental and borderline shallow. I implore you to reconsider your way of mind.

      • The interpretation is that if you have an “I don’t care about what you think” attitude, you may be an “I don’t care about you” person, and therefore, selfish. Which may make people avoid you. This article is to open a discussion on how you want to present yourself to the world and how the world sees you. If you don’t care, then that’s your prerogative. You may be “outraged” by the idea that people have a “what you see is what you get” attitude, but that’s how it is. You get that at school, at work, in the store, in restaurants. The same would go for mini-skirts and short shorts, but that’s another story. (Although I’m not sure why you would think it okay to be “shallow” about “frowning” upon girls in tight skirts but not in pajama bottoms. Each sends its own message.) You may find it shallow or judgmental for people to feel this way, but I “implore” you to recognize it to be reality, whether you like it or not.

        • Call me crazy but I think that people should dress the way they think they look good and feel comfortable. When I dress up to go to the store or something along those lines, I don’t consider; “Hmm, how is the cashier at Shaw’s going to feel if I show up in clothing that she/he doesn’t approve of” or “Is this random stranger that I may never meet again going to think I look ugly?”
          I am also curious to see how you managed to learn from my message that I think people that have a “What you see is what you get” attitude are outrageous? Are you kidding me? I clearly said that your interpretation of “I don’t care what anybody thinks” is outrageous!
          Another major conception failure on your part is where I said that This (meaning your article) is shallow. Why do you care so much about how other people dress? They aren’t you! They are NOT commiting any crimes, nor sins! What is your issue?
          You may be wondering if I am one of those pajama wearers that lashes out at anyone that gets close, I am not, but I’m sick of these kinds of articles, they are shallow, judgemental and unnecessary. If you don’t think that way, then I don’t care what you think! I guess I’m just only thinking of myself, or, you may call it, selfishness! Oh, I’m probably rebellious and immature too. I apologize if I managed to hurt your feelings or disrespect you, I am only trying to clear up some things, and trying to let you understand the other side of the story.

        • KPriorify, Please don’t think this discussion is hurting my feelings. I’ve received meaner comments. But I have thick skin, so I can take it:) I think this is a great discussion and I’m glad that you’re so passionate about it. It’s always necessary to look at all sides of an issue in order to choose which way to go. This site offers advice to Christian girls, we don’t expect that everyone will agree. God bless.

        • KPriorify I really agree with you.This whole thing is shallow.They are all judging and acting like their better for not wearing pajamas in public.Jesus said to not care about fashion.He never said oh I hope people don’t think of my robe as lazy maybe I should change into the same outfit as this rich guy.I’m sorry but none of you girls on here have a right to call anyone trashy because of how they are dresses.I think all you girls should take a look at yourselfs.

    18. Nice article, thanks for sharing 🙂 Yes, I’ve seen lots of girls wear pajama pants to the store or a restaurant and , even though I really am working on not judging others by their appearance, it does send the message that someone is lazy or just could care less about making a good impression. I have TOTALLY been tempted to wear pajama pants to the store, especially on days when I’m super tired, or really don’t care about how I look. But instead of wearing my pajamas, I settle with a comfy pair of jeans and a hoodie. I personally feel like it’s somewhat immodest to wear pajamas in public, even if they “cover” everything, but that’s just my personal opinion 🙂

    19. I like wearing pajama bottoms because they’re very comfortable. How does saying I don’t care what anyone thinks translates to being selfish and immature?

      Although I don’t wear them pajama pants out of the house, many people to do. It’s not such a big deal- maybe it’s a good thing people aren’t always thinking about outer appearance 24/7.

      I think this could have been better written- but good job T.M. I just think this article is taking pajama pants too seriously.

    20. I’ve worn pajama pants in public, but trust me, they weren’t as pathetic as the fuzzy bunny ones. And yes, I’ve seen LOTS of people sport the “just rolled out of bed” look. It’s disgusting and sad.

    21. Honestly all weekend I wore my pj pants at my winter camp because it was freezing cold up there and no one cared. I also went to McDonalds with a friend on our way home from camp last night and no one cared… I don’t think that it’s a big deal as long as you aren’t going to school or a job interview or something like that dressed in PJ’s. I mean 99.9% of the time I dress really well but on occasion, who cares?

    22. I honestly don’t think it matters that much. I would never wear pajama pants in public, but I wear sweatpants to like Wal-mart all the time. I don’t think its a big deal like you seem to be making it out to be.

    23. I only wear them on PJ day at school, but when I get pregnant (Years down the road of course) I’ll probably wear them to the store and stuff because I will be PREGNANT. I think that is the only excuse.

    24. guess im the first to comment?
      well i often wear sweat pants, slippers, or pajama pants out in public.
      1- i wouldnt wear them to a job interview so why does it matter if people think they wouldnt hire me? im not looking for a job anywhere i wear pj pants or slippers boots too.
      2-its not immodest at all, mine arent tight and dont have innapropriate logos on them, theyre not much different from sweat pants. i dont like dressing up in blouses and jeans i like to be comfortable. i would rather wear pj pants or sweat pants that are loose and comfy than tight jeans that are going to cause guys to lust plus theyre not comfortable. if someones going to deem the way someone dresses as “innapropraite or sending the wrong message” it should be revealing and suggestive outfits.
      as long as my hair isnt crazy and i dont look like i completely dont care for myself theres nothing wrong with pj pants in public.

        • But there are clothing out there that are not tight at all. I have some jeans that are just as comfy as sweatpants and takes the same time and energy. You could also wear cargo pants. Put that, a shirt, a cardigan, and voila. It’s just the same as putting sweatpants, shirt, and hoodie.
          When you wear it that way you’re giving a bad message and this world, sadly, judges you by how you dress. First impressions count. When they look at you they think “lazy, rebellious, and trashy.” but you aren’t that are you? No, and we are to represent Christ. How are we going to have the chance to talk to God with someone when we’re in PJ’s? No one will want to. It’s like buying a book, people usually look at the cover.

    25. Great Article!!! I’m homeschooled, and yes every once in a while I will wear my pjs all day. But as a rule I try to look presentable within an hour of waking up. One thing that makes me brush my hair and put on a clean shirt every morning is pretending my Prince Charming will come any day and I want to be ready for him. Kinda weird, I know, but still it helps. 🙂

    26. f I respectfully diasgree with this article. That is very wrong to assume that someone does not care about themselves or is immature because they choose to wear pajama pants. If a person really has that attitude, then you must be really shallow. If God can look past that and into our hearts, why does it matter what we look like? Wearing pajama pants is way modest than wearing a short skirt or tight-fitting
      jeans. Also, if wearing something as trivial as pajama pants is comfortable for the person wearing it, why should they be considered selfish? I have seen girls wear them out in public, but I don’t judge others based on their appearances. I feel like this article could have been written in a less offensive way. Besides if a person doesn’t dress a certain way, why assue that they don’t care about how they look. For all we know, they mighr have a bad home life or can’t afford nice clothes.

      To sum it all up, I think it is wrong and un-Godly to judge people based on their clothes.

    27. I’ve done it a couple times on the way home from swim practice (at 9 PM) or to and from swim meets. I always thought it was a cute trend because older girls I looked up to did it, and besides, at 9 PM in the middle of January, that’s about the warmest and comfiest thing you could put on; especially since you’re going straight to bed when you get home. Still, I agree with your assesment as an older and more mature person…

    28. I HATE it when I see people wearing pajama pants in public! There’s no reason for it- even if I’m sick, I’ll put on my softest broken-in jeans or a pair of black yoga/sweat pants. I went to some physics lectures last fall at a major university, and half the room was college students in pajamas. You’d think they would want to make a little better impression on their professors who could be their future employer.

    29. YES! I see it everywhere too! It’s SOOOOOO ANNOYING! Finally someone gets it haha xP
      It’s like “really? It takes the same amount of effort to put jeans on. Are you that lazy?”
      We’re called to be ambassadors of Christ. How can we represent God by looking like that?

    30. There are three scenarios in which I see this as ok. A pajama day at school or somewhere else where you’re SUPPOSE to wear them, when you’re in your pajamas during a long car ride and you end up stopping in the middle of the night. The last one is the only one I’ve ever done, which is when you’re having a spend the night of some sort and you’re already in pajamas when you go for a walk around the neighborhood. But wearing them to the movies, or to wal-mart, or to Pizza Hut… I’m sorry but that’s just strange

    31. Yeah, I’d feel way too awkward to wear pajama pants in public. I know they are comfortable, but you can easily change into sweatpants or something of that sort. There’s no need to get up out of bed and walk out the door without bothering to change your clothes.

    32. Girls at my school do this all the time. And theyll be wearing shirts that don’t even vaguely match. Yes I understand If you have PE t the end of the day and just dont want to change in, Im guilty of that myself. But ALL the time no.

    33. I haven’t worn pajama bottoms in public because I’m not allowed to and it wouldn’t feel right to me because like the article says,it gives off the wrong impression. The only people who shoud see your Pj’s are your family and friends,unless it’s pajama day at school.

    34. This article makes a good point. However, I also think that this may justly offend some girls. For example, if a girl is sick with a serious medical condition, she may not feel well enough to put effort into her appearance. Also, some girls may not be able to afford many clothes. When it came down to pajamas or the same pair of jeans for the 4th day in a row….well, I don’t know what I would choose in that position. Just something to think about.

      • Yes, of course. A very sick person is a different issue. But regarding affording clothes…it’s not the quality of clothes that is important, it’s about presenting yourself in a manner that glorifies God. Scripture states that clothing does not define you, but it reveals you.

    35. I’ve seen a lot of girls at my school wear pajama bottoms, and I honestly think it looks kind of trashy. Not to be mean, but that’s just how I thought of it. The only time I’ve worn pajama bottoms was on pajama day, but almost everyone else was too.

    36. Girls your Christians, do you not see how your judging people.We are not to judge.I know we all make the mistake but we need to stop and think.Would God want you judging others for how they look? People can wear what they want.Yes we should dress modest, but I think if someone wants to wear pajama pants to pizza hut or the store then go for it.As long as you don’t see anything imodest.I have worn pajama bottoms in public before.It wasn’t for a fad or because I’m lazy.It was quik to pull on yes it was clean and it was comfy.I don’t need to be all glamed up for the world for pizza or sitting in a school desk taking an exam.So next time you see someone in pajama pants please don’t judge.God doesn’t look at physical things but the heart.So this means we can not judge others on looks.

        • But can He look past that? Don’t forget He redressed Adam and Eve because He thought their “fig leaves” too immodest. He obviously cares about it.

        • I don’t think that God would turn the other cheek on someone because they wore pajama pants. That’s just my opinion. I do agree that wearing them isn’t appropriate to wear at a formal event, school (unless it’s exam week), or a job interview. But if someone wants to wear pajama pants to the store, to a mall, to pizza hut, who am I to judge? I look at what’s on the inside of people. I have been judged for my appearance all my life and it has had a negative affect on my overall self-esteem. So when I read these comments and this article it made me sad, because we are supposed to be followers of Christ yet here we are judging others based on their appearance.

          What I am saying is that, I am positive that God isn’t going to get angry or be disappointed because someone wore pajama pants. That doesn’t make any sense to me. Sure He may care about His children wearing clothes that makes one look immodest; such as, low-cut shirts, short skirts, short dresses, hanging pants, tight-fitting clothes, etc.

          Other than that, God looks at what is in our hearts, our thoughts, and our actions.

        • Jesus said to them, “I did one miracle, and you are all astonished. Yet, because Moses gave you circumcision (though actually it did not come from Moses, but from the patriarchs), you circumcise a child on the Sabbath. Now if a child can be circumcised on the Sabbath so that the law of Moses may not be broken, why are you angry with me for healing the whole man on the Sabbath? Stop judging by mere appearances, and make a right judgment.” John 7:21-24

          That’s the full scripture that relates to Jesus healing on the Sabbath.

    37. To be completely honest, i see nothing wrong with wearing pajama bottoms in public. say i’d just had a sleepover with my girlfriends and we decided to pop to wal-mart or something with our pajamas on..we’re just having fun! we’re not sending wrong messages to proplr. i dont understand the problem at all :L

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