What Do Christian Guys Really Think About Sexual Purity?

    Ladies, I don’t have to tell you that we live in a hyper-sexual era–we can see it everywhere around us. Teens are becoming sexually active at a much earlier age and teen pregnancy has become a norm in schools. Girls obsess over boys and boys can’t stop thinking about sex. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you ladies striving to maintain Christian values!

    And the media doesn’t help, does it? Television shows and movies constantly feature sexual content and celebrities always are pushing the envelope in their attempts to sexualize themselves.

    In such a highly sexualized society, how can Christian teens feel encouraged to maintain their purity, especially when losing your virginity as a teen has become so popular?

    Fortunately, not every teen is looking to lose their virginity as soon as possible. And not all boys are obsessed with sex. Check out the clip below–you may be surprised by what you hear!

    Ladies, do you ever feel pressured to get a boyfriend or lose your virginity? I pray that this video encouraged you to maintain your purity and save yourself for your future husband!

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    T.M. Gaouette
    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on and .


    1. Thank you so much for this video!

      It’s amazing encouragement for me to continue being modest, and pure. It also shows me that there are still good, Christian guys out there, and it gives me hope, and patience while I’m waiting for my prince to take me away. 🙂

    2. You know…if we taught kids about sexual responsibility through comprehensive sex ed–you know, contraceptives, protection against disease, prevention of pregnancy–instead of just abstinence-only, we’d have a lot fewer problems in this issue. A lot fewer teen pregnancies AND abortions, at the very least. Areas that practice abstinence-only sex ed are where teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted nastiness are at the highest percentages.

      • You’re completely missing the point though. God doesn’t warn against sex before marriage because of the ‘problems’ that come with it. It is because we are SUPPOSED to completely abstain and save ourselves for our husband. And besides there really is no such thing as ‘safe sex.’

        • Actually, it’s quite relevant. The post above mentions teen pregnancy being a norm, and adolescent sexuality being influenced by the media. With comprehensive sex-ed and open conversations with our kids, we can instill a sense of sacredness or at the very least the presence of consequences in relation to sex.

        • Well, yes, but the point of sex ed is to show people that if they choose to have pre-marital sex, there are ways for them to better protect themselves from diseases. After all, Christianity, choosing to follow God’s Word is a personal choice. I’d rather everyone choose abstinence until marriage because that’s the way, but people are still going to make their own choices and we should at least let them have alternatives. Often times, the best way to learn something is to make the mistake. That is, in all reality, how most people come to the Lord. I’m not saying we should just be like “Go sell and depreciate your bodies then come”; I’m just saying we should encourage them to follow God’s way, rather than not educate them about every way to defend themselves against unwanted pregnancies, infections, diseases. Think about it: if people weren’t allowed “safe sex” methods, diseases could spread more rapidly. No one wants that.

      • The only way to be sexually responsible is to honor God in it. The only way to honor God in sex is to follow His law and wait till marriage. To God, all sins are the same, so if sexual immorality is the same as murder, then you are saying we should teach that people shouldn’t murder, but if you absolutely have to, then here’s how to do it safely so you won’t get caught and don’t have to suffer any consequences. My point is, what you are saying is compromising God’s law and trying to justify it. The more we compromise and try to justify, the more we will compromise and try to justify. And the farther we stray from His law, the more consequences we will suffer. Bottom line, It really doesn’t matter what we think is right or wrong in our own eyes. As a Christian, the Bible is the ultimate authority, and the Bible says to remain pure.

    3. Wow. I am so happy I saw that video! Honestly, as a christian girl, I felt like I was fighting againts the media and everything that is out there + the boys!! I forgot for a long time that there are still guys out there who want Purity for God as much as I want it! thnks a lot guys!

    4. Ok i wanna know where these guys live!! Cause i’m moving there! Looks like there’s plenty of AMAZING Christian guys that actually want to wait. Too bad none of them live in Michigan. At least i haven’t found one yet.

    5. After a while you discover you have better things to do than chase after a boy. I have so many clubs at school, homework, and other things to do that I don’t have time. Plus, I have my best friend that I don’t really have time for! What’s the point of dating in high school if you are going to break up anyhow when you go to college? I guess I’m just overbooked.:p

      • There are a few rare exceptions, but seriously…Guys in high school are seldom worth bothering with. They don’t typically grow up until after college. How do I know? I’m 23 and a college graduate. Again, there are a few exceptions, but don’t count on one.

        About breaking up when you go to college- that’s not always a certainty. My boyfriend and I stayed together even though we went to different colleges far away from each other. We stayed in touch through phone calls, texting, facebook, and whatnot. It actually allowed us to get the hard conversations out of the way without physical distractions. Long-distance relationships are hard, but they can work, and they might actually be a healthful option for people who struggle with physical temptation.

      • i think that one reason you should date in high school is to get an idea of what kind of guy you are looking for other than just making sure he is christian. Whether you marry that that particular guy or not, chances are you will come out of the relationship having learned something about yourself.

    6. Its amazing to see guys actually think like that since previous relationships i am convinced i dont want to really get involved with a guy until marriage when i tel guys i dont want to have sex they make me look stupid before time it bothered me but where im from every guy i get into a relationship with wanted sex……thanks for the video…it shows theres hope out there.

    7. I finally bothered watching the video, and it looked and sounded VERY scripted (not to mention cheesy). Even if it wasn’t scripted, I wouldn’t want to date any of these guys…ignoring the fact they’re too young for me anyway. I like a guy who isn’t afraid of his body, heart, and mind. :p

      • I notice that you have commented around five different times here. I am sorry that you feel the way that you do. From many of the things you have said, it sounds as if you are trying to put up an argument with the girls that frequent here. What I am wondering is why that is necessary. We are trying to encourage each other in our beliefs, and it is disheartening to hear from you when you go to such lengths to prove us wrong. And even if this video was scripted, isn’t it still something wonderful to hope for? I don’t really believe that these young men are afraid of their bodies, hearts, or minds, either.

        • Just what have I said that was so negative, other than my distaste for the video? Also, is it really so bad to hear a different side to an issue? Not all Christians believe the exact same things, and that’s something you’re eventually going to have to come to terms with.

    8. My big brothers and dad have told me things similar to what is said here. We really do affect guys very strongly with how we dress, ladies! You are not dressing to be seen by them but you are dressing in a way pleasing to God, respectful to yourself and consequently respectful to guys.

    9. Great video! I’m a high school senior and have never once gone on a date. Though I don’t mind, I sometimes wish that guys I’ve had crushes on asked me out. However, the fact that they don’t proves that they’re not the ones for me and I can keep waiting for the one who’s worth it. This video proved to me that there are guys out there worth waiting for, and I have great faith that I will find him if God wills it!

    10. This is so encouraging to to know that there are still great guys out there who are courageous enough to stand up and say what’s right. We girls need to do the same and be bold for Christ, and an example for others to see and follow.

    11. I love this video! I just broke up with a guy who was always great to me but I realized I didn’t really feel much for him. We ended on good terms but I found out that he had been talking to his friends about the fact that he was wanting to “take things further” if you know what I mean. I was shocked because he had always seemed like such a Godly guy. I wouldn’t have expected him to say that. I guess it was a blessing that I ended things when I did because I wasn’t put in a bad position. But it made me start to worry about future relationships and if I’d find out the truth about a guy in a less convenient way. I always like to think that I’ll stay strong and stand my ground, but I have worried that if the moment came, what would I do? This video helped though. Those are the kind of truly Godly guys I should be looking for, not the supposedly “Godly” ones. It gives me hope that there ARE guys who are waiting too and if I find myself faced with a big choice, I can use that hope, rather than compromising my values because I’m worried there’s nothing better out there. For now though, I am simply enjoying my life without a boyfriend and praying that God would introduce the right one in His own time.

    12. Wow! I think i can honestly say,i have never met a guy like this, and i’ve been in church since i was four.. Well,i’m sure i have,i just didn’t know. Haha these guys made me not only want to wait for my future husband even more than before i watched this (which was a lot!), but they also make me want to follow Christ more than i have been lately. Thank you SO much for posting this video!!!

    13. I love this video!! I really needed to see this, gives me hope that there is actually good Christian guys left out there and when the times right God will send him my way, waiting is hard but I know it’ll be worth it, I want too marry a guy like this

    14. I love reading all these articles of guys point of view about topics like this. IT really helps me to understand a little more how much the way we, as women, dress and act effects the guys around us. I especially loved the comment one of the guys made about how we are like a gift. A gift is not something to be unwrapped until the right time. I thought that was the perfect analogy.

    15. This really encouraged me! I’ve never dated before and some people have put me down because of it, but I know that God is saving the right guy for me! There were some guys that I thought were right for me, but I realized they weren’t. This video showed me that there are good Christian guys out there and one day I’ll meet the right one for me!

    16. don’t feel at all pressured..don’t want to end up like my aunts or like my sister..all my aunts were teen moms (60s, 70s, and 80s); my sister is now going through a lot of stress, being a single mom, having to share my niece….then having to go to court later this month to get visitation stuff…:'( pray for my sis…i have always been there for her, emotionally and physically….i am a 20 yr old virgin, soon to be in a fantastic relationship with an amazing guy, who shares the same qualities as me <3

    17. This video was seriously just what I needed to see. I’ve never dated before and my friends have been putting me down lately because of it, but I know I just need to trust God because he has a plan for me! It was so nice to see guys my age wanting to save themselves for their future wives, it reminded that I really do need to wait and that I will meet someone who has the same values and morals that I do.

      • I definitely agree with you. 🙂 It is so amazing that these young men are saving themselves for their future wives and that they are encouraging other young men and girls to protect their purity too. I love that you are wanting to wait for the man that God has planned for you instead of giving into the pressure of dating just anyone. I know that the Lord will reward you for your faith in him and your future husband will be so glad that you waited for him! That is something that is very special. 🙂

    18. Any guy that want brainwashed wants sex. And for good reason. People attach too much feeling to sex. People shouldnt be scared or uncomfortable with it. They should learn about it and decide for themselves.

    19. Yes, this video is great, and I just want to encourage all you readers/watchers out there that I know of SEVERAL guys who are like this, and are really cool people!
      I don’t know how the Bible could be more clear that God HATES sexual immorality. Teaching ‘safe sex’ is only going to encourage more people to think that pre-marital sex is OK and that it is not damaging as long as it’s ‘safe’. Although I know that there are some topics in the Bible that are more difficult to pin-point as right-or-wrong, but this is one of sins that God clearly hates. But, don’t just be swayed by my words, read the Bible and ask the Holy Spirit to show you the truth, himself!
      Try these verses to start: Hebrews 13:4, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, Exodus 22:16-17, Jude 1:7, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, 1 Corinthians 7:2, Colossians 3:5, 1 Corinthians 10:13…….
      Some people like to think that there are two sides to God: the ‘judging’ Old Testament God, and the ‘all-loving and forgiving’ New Testament God. That is not true. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. There are many verses in the New Testament that talks about God hating certain sins and sinners burning in hell. Yes, God can forgive your sins IF you confess, repent, and believe and follow Him. But the REASON God forgives in the first place, is because of the penalty of sin.
      One more thing: I would also encourage everyone to read books like those by Eric and Leslie Ludy and other Christian authors. Actually to Christians and even to God, sex is really not ALL bad. It is meant to be a beautiful thing…within marriage. Just keep that in mind.

    20. This is so amazing but I’ve actually found someone just like these guys and we are both virgins I’m 16 and he’s 18 and we are saving ourselves for marriage. It’s hard but we encourage each other.

    21. This is a super touchy subject for me. Before I became a Christian, I was wild and messed a round and went way to far with a guy, and I tend to put myself below other Christians because of it.

      • Who you were is not who you are. If any man be in Christ he is a new creature all things have passed away.(2 Corinthians 5:17) God wants you to have dignity and standards despite your past. Focus on the here and now and make sure you’re living right today,that’s all God requires.God Bless

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