What Do Guys Really Think About Modesty?

    Ladies, have you noticed that female fashion has become so very sexy these days? Even for young girls. If the skirt length isn’t short, then necklines are plunging or the fabrics are so sheer, they might as well not exist.

    Of course, the media plays a huge part in determining fashion trends. And as we’ve discussed many times on PI, our favorite young starlets are very eager to flaunt their assets. So why do girls like dressing in this manner? I believe it’s because they want to look sexy, attractive, and hot…to the opposite sex.

    Boys! It’s all about boys. That’s what they want, right? Boys like it, right?

    Or do they?

    Below is a video clip of different teen boys telling you what they really think about immodest dress. Do they like it? Let’s find out…

    Much of what the boys said has been mentioned here on Project Inspired. But hearing it from the source legitimizes it, I believe. These are young Christian boys who are telling Christian girls like you that if you dress immodestly, you’ll conjure up lustful thoughts in their minds.

    Dressing immodestly causes boys to stumble. They told you in their own words.

    My mind runs places when I see that, places that you don’t want my mind to go. So, if you guys want to help us out, don’t dress immodestly.

    Based on some of the comments I’ve read, I know some of you girls think that if a boy stumbles, it’s his problem, but you’re wrong. It’s your problem too, because scripture tells us not to cause our brothers to stumble.

    These boys also told you that dressing immodestly sends a negative message about you. It says that you’re easy, one boy said, and that you have no self-respect. Some of the boys even went on to say that they look to the heart when they’re looking for the right girl for them.

    The good guys care about what’s inside. What you heart is like. If you’re dressing like that, your heart’s in the wrong place.

    Ladies, the boys in this video are young Christian boys who obviously respect girls. If you meet a boy that is attracted to your “sexy” body, then he’s just that, “attracted to your body,” not you. Your physical self is presented as a sexy being, so of course any boy that’s interested is interested in what you have to offer.

    Consider this: If you go window shopping, you’re going to enter the stores with the desirable window displays, right? If you see books in a window, the store’s likely to be a bookstore. If you see shoes in a window, you assume the store sells shoes. If you see lingerie in a window, the store probably sells lingerie, right? It’s pretty logical. Well this is how a boy thinks. If you dress sexy, you must be sexual. This may not be the truth, but it’s the assumption many boys make.

    I hope this video was enlightening to you. Many girls don’t get the chance to look into the minds of boys. This is a truth pill for all young girls. This clip gives you insight about what guys really think and I pray you take their words seriously.

    Immodesty makes them uncomfortable. It leads their minds places they don’t want to go. It’s distracting. It sends the wrong message. Modesty tells boys that you have self-respect and that you have a good heart. Isn’t this the message you want to send?

    Ladies, what did you think of this clip? Did you find it enlightening? Will it affect the way you dress from now on?

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      • Here’s a tip, (I do this all the time!!) go to your favorite store or clothing store. Then see a pattern or print or style you like, try it on. If its too short or the neckline is too low or both, then try to make it longer or higher without it higher than the knee or lower than the neckline. If its lower and shorter still don’t get it. Instead try a bigger size that’s longer and higher ( of course it probably won’t fit ) if its higher than the neckline and below the knee but big on the sides, ALTER it!! Or pin it. So you can find cute clothes while still being modest and being totally fashionable! Hope this works! If u have any questions just comment afterwards. 😀

    1. Great video! I always try to dress modestly, but some of my clothing that’s meant to make it MORE modest doesn’t work. Such as spaghetti strap tank tops, they KEEP slipping down and I’ve tried getting both smaller and bigger sizes. It’s not as though I have a big chest at all! Anyone have tips?

      • I’ve had that same problem over the years. Here is some stuff that I came up with to help. . .

        -Look for tank-tops that have that sticky adherent stuff on the straps and sometimes the bra line–they form to your body to keep your shirt secure
        -LAYERING. I train and show horses, and, seeing that I’m out at the barn five to six days a week, I get really hot. So, I (providing the appropriate undergarments)wear a spaghetti strap tank-top, and then either another spaghetti strap tank or a thicker cami. They all stick together, and prevent each other from slipping.
        -The shorter the straps are, the less chance you have of your tank falling down in the first place. Try to make them short enough to provide snugness without being uncomfortable.
        Hope this helped 🙂

      • I’ve always struggled with that problem too! Go to Justice and get some of their tank tops (the wide shoulder ones, not the spaghetti straps). If you are wearing them under low – cut shirts, then you don’t have to worry about them being too tight. I get a size smaller than the shirt I would get there (size 20 shirt, size 18 tank top). Hope this helps.

    2. I have so many good guy friends who truly love God, and I would hate for them to stop haning around me because of how I dress. It might be harder when I’m shopping, but worth it to keep my friends and self-respect!

    3. I always dress modestly out of respect for guys and that’s what the Bible tells women to do, but I never realized HOW MUCH guys are triggered by what they see! So, I will definentley pay more attention to what I dress like!

    4. Very good comments and observations! When Jesus spoke to a group of religious rabbi’s, and priest, he said,” if you look upon a woman to lust after her, then you have committed adultery with her in your heart”?
      Hmm, a tuff statement, but is it difficult to comprehend.

      Looking requires seeing,,, seeing what?,,, What creates visual lust?
      If a human body (male or female) is made to be a “billboard” for the opposite sex for attraction, well is that manufacturing lust?
      Modesty is a “condition of the heart”, and when out of the heart flows modesty, then it renews the mind, and it causes all of us to “renovate” our closets.
      Do you take Jesus in your mind, do you take Jesus in your closet, would you let Jesus lay out your clothes to dress for a date?
      Would you let Jesus put your makeup on?

      Would you like or promote your boyfriend or husband looking at any of todays American women walking around anywhere in a recreational casual way?

      You,girls, ladies have the ability and power to help protect the eyes and minds of boys or men anywhere, by 1st examining how you approach your image that you show.

      Then, girls you have the power to encourage and teach others to promote “godly modesty”. Not just for not harming men,,, but in obedience to Gods instructions and that not even a hint of bad comments could be laid against you because of any immodesty in your life.
      Happy New Year !

    5. LOVE this video!! A couple years ago, I decided that I would wait to date until I was 17. Now that I’m nearing that age, I have discovered that I definitely DO NOT want to date right now! And it’s not necessarily because I think high school guys are immature or stupid or whatever, but because I want to focus on my relationship with the One who will never, ever leave me, and who will always love me. Over the past couple months, I’ve found that I’ve fallen completely and hopelessly in love with God, but more than that, I’ve found that the more I’m focused on God, the less I’m focused on guys. I haven’t been seriously interested in guy for four months now, and I’m loving it. I’ve found freedom, love, value, and my worth in God. So, for now, I’ll focus on working for the glory of God, working hard in school, and cultivating great friendships–boyfriends will come into the picture later 🙂 LADIES: The dating scene can be put on hold–your relationship with God cannot.

    6. I am so glad this video was posted and that I came across it!
      I hate all my clothes right now, and want to buy new ones. After watching this video I will definitely be more careful when buying clothes. I didn’t dress very immodest before, but lately I have wanted to catch guys eye. (Which is kinda hard where I live. There are no guys!) But its dumb because I don’t want a boyfriend or need one. And I only want a guy who wants me for who I am. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is; thank you for posting this video, and YES. It will affect the way I dress from now on. I think I need to go through my clothes and get rid of some….

    7. Sometimes it can be so hard trying to know what is modest and what isn’t because it seems to vary from person to person but the quote that really helped me was “Would you wear it if Jesus was with you today?” if not, then don’t.

    8. There is this girl at my school who is always dressing immodestly. This video made me feel better because I was always thinking that all the guys in my school were all going to go after her- just because of what she was wearing! Thank You!!

    9. Wow that was great and so helpful!!!! Thank you! I dress modestly but I haven’t heard before what a guy says what he thinks when girls dress immodestly. We may think that guys can control their thoughts themselves and that it’s not our problem, but if the way we dress causes them to have bad thoughts then yes, as it says up there ^ it is our problem. We both need to do our part. Guys need to be careful of what they let enter their minds, BUT we can help them by dressing modestly and not causing them to stumble! Thank you so much for posting this! God bless you girls! 🙂

    10. Wow, that was really encouraging. Thank you for sharing! I dress fairly modestly in general, but lately I’ve found myself wanting to test the line on occasion. This really encouraged me to dress in a way that doesn’t cause my Christian brothers to stumble. I’ve also heard a lot of girls say, “Well, if a guy gets ‘excited’ by how I dress, that’s his problem.” It really isn’t, though. Yes, they can choose to turn to God to fend off those thoughts, but it is naturally engrained in their mind. We, as Christian girls, should do whatever we can to keep our brothers in Christ walking strong in the faith.

    11. I guess what some of the stuff they said is true I’m not saying you should dress like a slut but it’s ok to look cute and slightly sexy cause you can’t live your life just to please boys and my dad told me that boys minds will ” run places” even if your dressed like a nun it’s just the way they are they have hyper imaginations and teen boys especially with all of their h ormones running through them just naturally think like that even Christians .

    12. I honestly find this insightful. Honestly, it’s the wrong boys’ minds who will run places when you’re dressed conservatively. And regardless of them, we truly don’t want to cause our brothers in Christ to stumble. I think this was a really insightful post.

    13. I’m so happy I found this! It’s good to know there are Christian guys out there that are actually serious about God.
      And girls… I truly hope that you receive this into your heart, and strive to dress modestly, respectably, Godly, and with respect to the men around you, and your future husband.

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