What Do I Do if God Closes a Door on a Relationship?
Written by Christi Given | October 10, 2018
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This week, a PI Girl wrote about the fact she felt that God was asking her to close the door on a relationship. What do you do in this type of situation where God is asking you to surrender something so important to you or something that is not easy to do?
In the Bible, Abraham is promised a son named Isaac. He has a son through the forcing of his own hands and his wife, Sarai, then turns to Sarah. She asked him to sleep with her handmaiden Hagar, because Sarah was an older maiden and wasn’t able to conceive. Out of frustration and impatience, Sarah and Abraham stepped out of the divine will of God and tried to FORCE the promise to come to pass. In doing so, they jeopardized nations even today, as we see much conflict in the Middle East because of that decision.
Regardless of our faults we still see God’s blessing and abundance. We see that God blesses Ishmael (Sarah and Abraham’s first son, but it was not the awaited promise). It was birthed out of desperation to “make it happen.” We can sometimes do this in life, and even when we GET the promise, we sometimes are asked to give it up. Will you give up anything for God?
Just a Test
Abraham DID get his promised awaited son. Guess what? God asked him to lay him down on the altar as a sacrifice to test Abraham’s heart and his worship of God. Would Abraham worship his son more than God or would he give up ANYTHING for his Heavenly Father? Because Abraham was acquainted with God, He trusted him; therefore, He laid his son down…but before He would kill him, there was an angel who said “Stop” and a ram in the thicket to replace Isaac. Whew! It was just a TEST.
God may be testing your heart right now like he is mine. Do you trust Abba Daddy, our Heavenly Father, that He knows what’s best for his precious daughter? You are so loved, adored, cherished and prized, and God has GOOD in store for you. He just wants to make sure your focus is right and that He is always number one. When God is first, all things are in proper order and fall into place, amen? (Matthew 6:33)
Will you surrender anything and everything to Jesus for God’s glory? Will you carry your cross even if you have to suffer a little while through the discipline of saying no? This is NOT easy, PI Girls, trust me. I have broken up with a boyfriend of five years whom I thought I would marry, and I have lost my father to heart disease.
We can lose things and people at a moment’s notice. Just like Job, what is your response when you lose something so special and precious to you? Do you get angry at God or do you let go and say, “God, you give and you take away, but blessed be the name of the Lord.”
Job in the Bible lost all his wealth, his health, his beautiful wife and children, and he did NOT complain. He stayed and remained anchored in God and loyal to his Heavenly Father. He knew if he even lost those most dear to him, God was worthy of all praise anyway. Wow, what an incredible attitude and heart posture.
Praise in the Pain
We have a lot to learn from Job’s character in the Bible and also from his wife. In the Word of God she says to him, and it’s been tempting for any one of us to turn from God in our pain. Don’t get me wrong—I don’t think God wants you to be fake and say, “Yay God, thanks for the pain”—but know it WILL work for your benefit in the long haul (Romans 8:28). It’s making you a stronger person and more brave in the Lord.
Close the Chapter
If the Lord instructs you to close a door or to cut off a bad relationship or bad branch that’s toxic to your health, would you obey? Will you obey to ultimately grow towards Christ or in life? God says in John 15 that He is the vine dresser and that he has to prune us like a plant. Not all branches are healthy or good for us. We have to cut what is not producing good, spiritual fruit.
If someone is causing you irritability or even sin (rebellion or distance between you and God), you need to not look back. Move on. Yes, it’s hard, but the Bible talks about “pressing on ahead,” not looking back at the past, and running our race with perseverance. Our goal is Christ, and if the person that God is asking you to close the door to in the relationship is hindering you and it needs to be addressed, be obedient.
My advice to you is to seek God, get wise counsel, do not burn bridges, but politely say you are going in a different direction with your life and you’re on a different path, or just fade away silently. God will give you the wisdom that you need.
Also, God will always open new doors and have new paths for you. The Bible says we cannot place old wine skins on the new wine skins and that the old doesn’t go with the new. We must be open to God’s plan and purpose, which is WAY better than we can ever ask, think, dream or even imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
PI Girls, I am praying for you and for healthy, fruitful, abundant relationships in Christ.
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