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What Do I Do if My Relationship With God Is Fading?

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This week a PI Girl said she feels distant from God and feels like her faith is fading. What should she do and how does this happen? How can we prevent our faith from failing us? Why is faith so important to God?

I will address these very important questions and will include Bible verses to back up what I’m saying so you can make sure you remain connected to God. Amen?

First off, I believe we start to drift from God when we are not feeding ourselves daily with prayer, worship and the Word of God (the Holy Bible). Why is it important to feed our faith? Well, as with any living thing, what we feed and water grows. If you are feeling spiritually dehydrated, you need a drink of the living water and need to eat the bread of life (the living scriptures of God). Jesus is the Word, and spending time with Him is how we are connected, just like when spending time with a friend, we build intimacy and depth.


Then Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.” (John 6:35)


The Bible says if we abide (remain or stay) in God through Christ (in the Word and in prayer), we will produce great fruit if we’re connected to the vine as a branch. If we disconnect, it’s like unplugging from the power source, like your phone—and eventually your spiritual battery will run out. We eventually run dry, so we always need to replenish our physical bodies with food and water, and the same goes biblically. (Read John 15.)

The Bible says that apart from God, we can do nothing. If we think we can just go to God only when we need something, we are mistaken. Just like our friends, we can’t just call them up only when we need a favor. We need to be faithful in communication and in fellowship. It’s a give-and-take in relationship. The same goes for God, although He doesn’t need us, He wants us. He desires you, He pursues you, and guess what? When we plug into God’s Word, truth and life source, then we are fueled with faith.


So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. (Romans 10:17)


If you are faithless and in doubt or fear, that is an indication that your faith tank is low. Like a gas tank that is fueled by oil, our spirits our filled by the Holy Ghost and the living Word. You need to get into the Word if you are drifting from God. You need to cling to your Bible or Bible app if you are feeling distant.


Why Do We Feel Distant From God?

You are either feeling distant from God because you aren’t reading the Word daily (daily bread verse) or you are in an active sin. Sin (doing the wrong thing when you know what is right, or rebellion against God, or disobedience) can separate us from God. You may say we are all sinners and will always sin, so then who can be close to God? This is true, but it is a daily walk, daily repentance, seeking God’s face daily that keeps us in intimacy with Him.

The Bible says that when people are in darkness or ignore God’s voice, it can actually harden their heart. The more you ignore Christ knocking on the door to fellowship with you, the more your heart will become stone. We need to stay humble and resist sin, temptation and pride. We need to keep our hearts soft and open to the Holy Spirit.

Another reason people fall into sin or temptation is because they are not guarding their hearts and minds. The Bible says there is “no peace (or rest) for the wicked” (Isaiah 48:22). What does that mean? Well, if you are in sin or practicing wickedness (which is the opposite of righteousness or what is right, good, Holy), then you are choosing to be god of your life. When Jesus is King, He is Lord and we have peace. If you don’t have peace, you may not be close to the prince of peace.

King David in the Bible asked God to test his anxious heart and to see if there were any bad ways in him. He wanted to repent. He wasn’t a perfect man, but had a sincere heart for God. The Lord loves a broken and contrite, or humble, spirit, but he resists the proud, so the fact that this PI Girl is asking for help is a healthy sign. It’s okay to ask for help from God, your peers, and Christian leaders or friends.

Ask for help, be vulnerable, stay in repentance daily, be in the Word daily or regularly, pray, and be in the spirit and in worship. Make sure to protect your heart and mind from the world or being influenced by other people’s voices. A sheep knows its shepherd’s voice; make sure if Jesus Yeshua is King, you heed unto your Lord’s voice, not yours or man’s. Amen?

I am praying for you, PI Girls! God bless you. Know you are pursued, chased, adored by the everlasting God! Jesus loves you!

Comment below and write a prayer request, or send me a private message with questions at facebook.com/christigiven.

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