What Does Fear Have to Do With Honesty?
Written by Aysha Ives | July 18, 2011
At times, it’s difficult to be completely honest with other people. However, honesty is very important in any relationship. Whether it’s your parents, best friend, boyfriend, bible study teacher, etc., it’s hard to reestablish trust if it’s ever been broken.
What I’ve come to realize is that dishonesty is born out of fear. Think about it. Whenever you’ve thought about being dishonest with others it’s because you were afraid to be honest with them. For example, have you ever been afraid to tell your parents the real reason that you broke curfew and decided to make up a story that you thought would be better received by your parents? Have you ever avoided telling a friend the truth about something because you didn’t want her to be mad at you? Or have you ever made up an excuse when you missed the deadline for something that was really important? I bet it was because you were afraid to tell the truth about why you really missed the deadline.
What is the common denominator in all of these examples? Yes, that’s right, fear!
We all know that everyone has been dishonest at some point in their lives. However, it’s really important to understand that being dishonest can have a pretty hefty consequence. People may stop trusting you when they find out that you’ve deceived them. So, the next time you’re tempted to be dishonest, remember that you’re putting your character on the line.
Also remember this:
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love (1 John 4:18.)
If you care about someone, then you’ll be honest with him/her. And if s(he) cares about you, then s(he) will be slow to anger and will forgive you regardless.