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    What To Do If You’re Being Teased About Your Purity Ring!

    Someone recently shared with me that there’s a growing number of girls who have decided to make a vow of purity. Not only that, but many of them take their vows so seriously that they choose to wear purity rings! I think this is absolutely FABULOUS and I want to take a minute to congratulate each girl who’s made this life altering vow!

    What an awesome way to glorify God! You’re sharing with the world that you’ve decided to be obedient unto God and WAIT until you’re married to have sex! We’re proud of you here at Project Inspired and more importantly, GOD is proud of you!

    Although this is a GREAT decision, I know that it can come with some difficulties. People who don’t understand your lifestyle may say things that are hurtful or downright cruel. Interacting with mean people and peers who don’t understand you or your Godly decisions can be tough.

    However, it’s really important for you to remember that you’re God’s daughter. Your customs are different from the world’s customs!

    Keep in mind that God will never ask you to do something that you’re not equipped to do. What this means is that you’re already spiritually equipped with EVERYTHING that you need to handle the teasing that may accompany your Godly decisions. It’s tough being different, but always remember that God wants YOU to be the leader. Here are some tips to help you overcome the teasing:

    • Pray regularly. Ask God to give you the strength that you need. Ask Him to work on the hearts of your peers so they’ll feel bad for mistreating you. Also, pray for their salvation in hopes that they’ll also begin to embrace the ways of God.
    • Put on your armor EVERY DAY! God knows that it’s tough living for Him, so He gives us instructions on how to deal with attacks such as teasing. The Bible says this:

    So stand firm. Put the belt of truth around your waist. Put the armor of godliness on your chest. Wear on your feet what will prepare you to tell the good news of peace. Also, pick up the shield of faith. With it you can put out all of the flaming arrows of the evil one. Put on the helmet of salvation. And take the sword of the Holy Spirit. The sword is God’s word (Ephesians 6:14-17).

    • Use humor to deflect the situation. Often, when people realize just how silly their teasing sounds, they’ll back off. However, be careful that your humor isn’t hurtful and that it doesn’t become teasing itself.
    • Wear your ring with pride! Use questions or comments about your purity ring as an opportunity to witness to others. Before you speak, ask The Holy Spirit for the words to say and the courage to say them!
    • Be committed to your vow. Don’t allow the reactions of others to deter you. God is counting on YOU to set an example for your peers.
    • Remember that it’s NEVER too late to take a vow of purity. Even if you’ve had sex in the past, you can choose to take the vow today. God is waiting with open arms for you to make the right decision.

    I can’t emphasize enough how proud I am of you girls!

    Do you think purity rings are cool?

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    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    39 COMMENTS

    1. Think of it this way-
      I’m Indian, and I have different customs in my house. If someone were to make fun of me for those, of course you would think “well that’s just who she is and how she is. she can’t change that” Nor would I give up my heritage and cultures just because someone else thought it was uncool.
      Well the same goes for all girls! God has called us to be how we are and who we are and it doesn’t matter what others think. even if someone makes fun of your purity ring, they are not worth giving up what God has called you to do

    2. So true. I have a purity ring, and sometimes it feels awkward when people comment on it because when I mention it’s a purity ring, they’ll look at me weird or ask weird questions about it. Luckily, at least I haven’t had to deal with flat out teasing yet. But even the weird looks can be disheartening.

    3. I have a purity ring my dad gave me on my 13th birthday, so far it has not been to bad, at summer camp one year a bunch of girls freaked out when I said I was saving my first kiss. And this summer someone asked if I was married, and even after I explained gave me a weird look. BUT, I know that my ring inspired at least one girl. She asked her parents to do the same thing for her!

    4. I have a purity ring. No one gave it to me, I decided by myself to get one. It represents my values. My ring stands not only for saving sex for marriage, but also that my body is God’s temple and I should protect it from drugs, alcohol, and other ungodly things. Though I can’t protect myself from everything I still have God.

    5. I had a purity ring for a couple of years after dumping my first (and last) boyfriend). But this summer I lost it in the sand of Coronado Dog Beach five minutes before we were left! Although I haven’t gotten another one, I’m still single and still a virgin.

    6. Whenever you are confronted with teasing or riducule because you have decided to honor God and make a pledge to remain pure until marriage and wear a purity ring, just remember that we as Christians are not supposed to fit in. We are supposed to be set apart from the world. This is sometimes difficult to do, but with the aid of the Holy Spirit, you can be victorious over temptation, teasing and ridicule. Remember that you have the victory in Christ.

    7. I remember, when i first got one some people would comment on it and it was wierd at first (8th grade) but, now am perfectly fine about it i dont mind the comments or questions, am proud to talk about it and wear it because, am happy about the promise i made with God:)Oh and P.S the ring in the picture is the exact one i have ! 😀

    8. i have had people ask me what it is and why im wearing it and be all like “that is so cool!” but some are like “oh, well it’s too late for me, Im impure, Ive had sex,” I told them, though, it’s not too late to purify yourself in the blood of Jesus Christ. <3

    9. So I got a purity ring, and my mom is saying it can’t be my purity ring because it’s some kind of Irish commitment ring. I got it because the symbols stand for love, loyalty, and friendship and now I’m starting to think that it can’t be my purity ring. Is that true?

      • It sounds like it’s a claddagh. I see those often used as purity rings. It is an Irish design to symbolize commitment, and it was traditionally used as an engagement ring. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with using it as a purity ring. My ring is claddagh-like; I got it in Scotland and it has a heart with Celtic knot designs around the band.

      • You shouldn’t go against your mom. If she doesn’t want you to wear the ring as a purity ring then don’t. But, I believe it does not matter what type of ring it is. It doesn’t matter if the ring has something engraved on it or how expensive it was. It is just there as a constant reminder that you are a daughter of God and that you are saving yourself for someone who deserves you. If you agree with me, maybe you could try to explain to your mom that the ring is special to you and that you’d really like for it to be your purity ring. Hope I helped :).

    10. i love my purity ring,it has a rose on it,it’s not like a traditonal purity ring which makes it special. the rose is red and the band is gold,and i love wearing it,but sometimes i take it off and forget to put back on (i know,shame on me!) but i love it so much <3 🙂

    11. I have a purity ring and I love it, it was my mom’s promise ring that my dad gave her. It has both of their birthstone’s in it. One half of the heart is amethyst, and the other half topaz. It’s beautiful and I love it! I haven’t really gotten teased and have actually bought one for one of my friends who said that she wanted one.

    12. i still have a purity ring,but not the one i previously had. the ring i now use is a pewter ring,engraved on it is the word “forgiven” and on the inside of it there’s a verse refrence engraved. Eph. 1:7,and of all the rings i saw,it really stood out,and cheap 😉 but it’s a pretty ring. it’s a great thing to wear as a purity ring

    13. I brought a ring in my last year of college when I understood how to keep pure but I often broke it today I am not breaking the vow and I still get made fun of and judged but I just ingore and pray. I still wear my ring today.

    14. I have never been teased about my ring. Other girls have asked me about it, and been amazed about me still being a virgin(not because of my character, but because of the world’s morals). In my math class 2 years ago, a girl asked me about it, and when I told her what it was, she almost started crying and said that she wished she was still a virgin. It made me so sad for her, and other girls in the same boat. I love my ring, and feel almost naked without it on!

    15. When I first got mine there were some guys that were teasing me about it but they really didn’t understand what it was. So once I actually told them what it was and why I wore it they stopped. They actually think it really cool now. 🙂

    16. While I appreciate purity rings, my parents and I share the opinion that I do not need a ring to remind myself and other of my decision to stay pure. If you need a ring to keep yourself from giving up your virginity, you have a big problem…

    17. I wear one. It says “TRUE LOVE WAITS” the ‘o’ in love is an aquamarine stone, my birthstone. It has a heart that separates the o and v a bit, it wraps from the top to the bottom. The ring is asymmetrical. I love it. It is a bit too big so I wear a ring snuggie on the back of it and have to take it off when I shower so it doesn’t slip off! People have asked about it, and I tell them that it symbolizes my promise to myself and to God that I will not have premarital sex. People don’t make fun of me, but they do tell me how they disagree with me and ask me what’s wrong with sex. Many people think I am crazy for waiting until marriage.

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