Peer pressure is inevitable. The question is: How do I stand up for myself when faced with temptation? How do I deal with the desire of wanting to fit in, but not fall into something I think is wrong?
These are normal questions to ask yourself–YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
If you are hanging out with your friends or a larger group, people may want to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable–for example, they may want to watch a movie that is inappropriate or demonic. This actually has happened to me. In these situations, the best thing to do is:
- Stay calm (don’t overreact or be too sensitive)
- Share your feelings with your friends
Now, if you tell your friends, “I don’t feel comfortable watching this movie or show,” they should respect you. If they are your true friends, they will not want to make you feel bad or uncomfortable. If they ignore your feelings, they may not be mature enough to understand, or they may not be a real friend.
If something is really bothering you, offends you or makes you feel you are either endangering yourself or your relationship with God, then you need to be brave and tell your friends that you can’t do what they are asking.
What if the situation is unsafe or makes you feel uncomfortable?
- Leave the area and call a parent to come get you
- Make sure you let an adult know what is going on if it is harmful to others
- PRAY. Ask God to help the group or the individual that puts pressure on you or your friends
What if someone makes fun of you because you said “No” or “I don’t want to”?
Smile, and turn the other cheek. You can boldly walk with the Lord and know you are making the right choice. I’ve learned that the best thing to do is to show the person love. Most people who are mean or who bully others usually have an insecurity themselves, so they lash out at others. Show them love, even if it is hard, and leave the area with parental permission.
“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good”–Romans 12:21.