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What to Do When College Is Disappointing
Written by Christi Given | December 2, 2016
Every week I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian walk of faith and any miscellaneous topics! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions and become bold in your faith. We love you, PI readers!
This week, I want to answer a question from the college forum on the PI chat board from a girl who is struggling with adjusting to college. This anonymous PI Girl said:
“So, I’ve been in college for half a semester now, and so far, I’m feeling very disappointed with it all. I know it’s still early, but I haven’t made any new friends; I don’t hang out with anyone other than my roommate and my family that lives near the college. I spend a lot of my time alone, and while I’m an introvert who enjoys some alone time every once in a while, the loneliness is beginning to feel quite suffocating. I’ve been feeling really sad lately, and very insignificant. I know God has a plan for me, and I’m trying so hard to trust in Him, but I’m feeling so lost right now. I pray and pray for friends and to one day find love (being that I’ve never had a real boyfriend), but I feel like nothing’s happening.
“I’m so grateful that I’ve been given the opportunity to go to college, and I’m doing fairly well in my classes, but the social aspect of college (the ‘college experience,’ if you will) is extremely lacking. I’ve been invited to frat parties, but I don’t feel that that really lines up with my values, so I never go. I’ve tossed around the idea of transferring to a smaller Christian college (as opposed to the large public university I’m at now), but I really don’t want to have to do that. I want to find a way to enjoy where I am.”
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Everyone has a different experience in college, and of course adjusting to a new school and routine can be difficult at times. Remember that you are not alone and that many other students are experiencing the same thing you are. Maybe you can reach out to someone around you who also is lonely or needs a friend. You can make a difference in their life.
The next piece of advice regarding adjusting to college is to not let fear or worry consume you; just keep looking at the positives. It seems like you have a lot to be thankful for and that you are doing well in school.
Take it one day at a time and be faithful with the small things, and over time, you will achieve overall success. When we look at the big picture and the huge tasks at hand, we can get overwhelmed. Just look at today.
To recap, here are some tips for adjusting to college.
1. Know that you are not alone. God is always with you!
2. Remember that adjusting to a new school and environment takes time. Don’t rush the process. There is a season for everything, and it always gets better!
3. Seek out the lost and lonely. Helping others heals us and is what we were created to do, so look to serve others.
4. Don’t let worry consume you. Worrying just makes things worse and doesn’t help any situation. Trust God.
5. Take each day one at a time and be faithful with the little, and you will succeed. Stay busy in your work, study God’s Word, or join a club or Bible Study…this will help any loneliness.
PI Girls, do you have any advice for adjusting to a new college?