I learned a long time ago that not everyone will like me. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but it’s true.
Sometimes people will dislike you for no apparent reason!
What I had to learn is that when people dislike me for no reason, it usually has nothing to do with me at all. Every person brings his/her own past experiences into encounters with new people and may unfairly judge a person based upon past experiences.
For example, if someone dislikes you it may be because you look like someone whom they’ve had bad experiences with in the past. Or perhaps your voice reminds them of someone they don’t really like. It could be something as small as the way that you laugh. It can be ANYTHING. But the thing to remember is that these are THEIR subconscious issues and IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!
So, what do you do when someone is being mean to you for no reason at all?
- Confront them. You should always hold people accountable for their negative behavior towards you. No, you can’t force anyone to like you, but you do have a right to be treated with respect. Let them know that their actions are hurtful and share with them how you expect to be treated from that point forward.
- Pray for them to heal. When others project their past experiences onto you, it means that they haven’t fully healed from their past hurts. It’s great if you feel comfortable enough to ask them to pray with you about their situation. However, know that you can also pray for them in your own quiet time, too.
- Remember your greatness! Don’t internalize other people’s negative opinions about you. Remember, their issues belong to THEM, not to you! Remind yourself that you’re a part of a holy and royal priesthood:
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. ( 1 Peter 2:9)
Find scripture that speaks to your situation and say the scripture aloud so that you might be strengthened. Be sure to say the scripture aloud because “faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ” (Romans 10:17.)
NOTE: If someone continually mistreats you even after you’ve attempted to rectify the situation yourself, or if you feel that your safety is jeopardized in any way, please seek help from an adult immediately!