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    What To Do When S(he) Dislikes You for No Reason!

    I learned a long time ago that not everyone will like me. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but it’s true.

    Sometimes people will dislike you for no apparent reason!

    What I had to learn is that when people dislike me for no reason, it usually has nothing to do with me at all. Every person brings his/her own past experiences into encounters with new people and may unfairly judge a person based upon past experiences.

    For example, if someone dislikes you it may be because you look like someone whom they’ve had bad experiences with in the past. Or perhaps your voice reminds them of someone they don’t really like. It could be something as small as the way that you laugh. It can be ANYTHING. But the thing to remember is that these are THEIR subconscious issues and IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!

    So, what do you do when someone is being mean to you for no reason at all?

    • Confront them. You should always hold people accountable for their negative behavior towards you. No, you can’t force anyone to like you, but you do have a right to be treated with respect. Let them know that their actions are hurtful and share with them how you expect to be treated from that point forward.
    • Pray for them to heal. When others project their past experiences onto you, it means that they haven’t fully healed from their past hurts. It’s great if you feel comfortable enough to ask them to pray with you about their situation. However, know that you can also pray for them in your own quiet time, too.
    • Remember your greatness! Don’t internalize other people’s negative opinions about you. Remember, their issues belong to THEM, not to you! Remind yourself that you’re a part of a holy and royal priesthood:

    But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. ( 1 Peter 2:9)

    Find scripture that speaks to your situation and say the scripture aloud so that you might be strengthened. Be sure to say the scripture aloud because “faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ” (Romans 10:17.)

    NOTE: If someone continually mistreats you even after you’ve attempted to rectify the situation yourself, or if you feel that your safety is jeopardized in any way, please seek help from an adult immediately!

    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    8 COMMENTS

    1. Nice to know your testing! What are you testing for?? And yeah, I have had someone not like me just because I only listen to Christian music…She thinks that it’s shallow and I’m not normal for doing it. BUT! I don’t let it get to me, and she has had a very hard life.

    2. this is the biggest obstacle i had to deal with and im barely learning that i cant make myself perfect in everyone elses eyes and that i have to be me and that is all that matters and not to care what others think of you ….

    3. I used to be best friends with these two girls… er… well… I thought I used to be best friends with them. Apparently the whole time they were just using me to get more popular. And for some reason they just didn’t like me. It’s not like I ever did anything to make them dislike me. But for some freakin’ stupid reason, they were jealous of me and just did not like me at all. It hurt. I was pretty upset about it.

    4. I struggled with that…that was in fourth and fifth grade when I did tons of stuff I didn’t want to. I don’t mean bad things, it was as simple as dressing like a ‘normal’ person. But I think people could pick up on the fact I was uncomfortable or something. After a while, I decided “Screw it” and I dressed the way I wanted to, fuzzy legwarmers, tutus, dinosaur hats, and all! Not to mention the gold leggings! After that I was more comfortable and made friends. So, remember, just be yourself. Don’t try to change yourself to get someone to like you.

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