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What To Do When You Have Offended Someone

No one’s perfect. We all mess up sometimes. Whether we say something hurtful in haste or do something that’s completely out of character, everyone does something unintentionally hurtful to other people once in a while. So what do you do when you’ve hurt someone?

  • Forgive yourself. Understand that NO ONE is perfect, and God knows this. The Bible says: “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23.) Do your best to live a righteous life, but don’t beat yourself up too much when you fall short. We’ve all fallen short at one time or another, and it’s not a pleasant place to be, but remember that God still loves you!
  • Ask God to forgive you. God knows that we’re imperfect, but He loves us so much that He sent Jesus so that we might be justified through Him. God knows your heart and He’ll forgive you for your actions. Don’t ever think that you’ve done something so bad that God won’t forgive you. In contrast, God loves you and WANTS to forgive you. Did you know that God loves you as much as He loves JESUS? Jesus speaks this to The Father:

“I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.” (John 17:22-23)

God loves you that much!

  • Ask God for help. Ask Him to show you how to better handle similar situations in the future. If you have a habit of saying mean things or gossiping about people, ask Him to help you with that. If you’re struggling with a short temper, ask Him for guidance in that area. If you’re stressed out or are hurting in some way yourself, ask Him for healing. Whatever contributed to you hurting someone else, ask God to show you how to fix that area of your life.
  • Try to rectify the situation. This might be kind of hard, but it’s important that you ask the person whom you’ve offended for forgiveness. Depending on how hurt the person is, s/he may not be ready to accept your apology, but that is something that s/he will have to work through. God instructs everyone to forgive one another, and that includes the offended person in your life. If you’ve apologized and tried to make it right, then you’ve done all that you can do. Hopefully s/he will come around, but if s/he doesn’t, then pray about it and move forward. Don’t beat yourself up about the situation, just leave it in God’s hands.

I hope this helps!

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  1. Kyla

    Posted by Kyla on June 10, 2013 at 16:38

    GREAT advice Aysha! Thanks!!

  2. Posted by on August 16, 2011 at 18:14

    What do you do when you unintentionally offend someone, and they block you from their fb, which is the only means that you still have to communicate with them? Because you know that because you said something that you didn’t think would offend them, they now think you’re a jerk, and you have no idea or way to rectify the situation, even though you want to tell them how sorry you are?

    maybe I can fill you in about the situation better through email? But yeah, I don’t know what to do, lol 🙁

    • Posted by Nicole on August 18, 2011 at 11:41

      you know I’m not sure on this one.. can you try to email them from a friends’ Facebook?

  3. Posted by on August 15, 2011 at 19:43

    Thank you soo much for posting this! I struggle with this way too much and I feel horrible and regret alot of things! This surely has brightend up my day and gave me much more confidence. God loves us through anything and we need to thank him because I don’t know anyone who could still love you that much throughout every bad thing you have done. I love the lord with all my heart. Thanks again!

  4. Posted by ParisHolt on August 5, 2011 at 12:47

    I identify with this article. Trust me when I tell you,I’ve said some things that I regret like crazy,but God forgave me and helped me move on.

  5. Posted by on August 5, 2011 at 10:30

    Thank you for writing this! I struggle with this all the time, and I love how God will always forgive me for messing up every now and then. Thanks again for writing this!! 🙂

  6. Posted by on August 4, 2011 at 14:03

    This helped VERY much, thank you so much, I’m relieved haha! D:

  7. Posted by on August 4, 2011 at 13:53

    I didn’t know he loves us just as much, we definatly don’t deserve that! 🙂