It seems like it has been popping up in the comments section on all kinds of Instagram photos lately: #SquadGoals. Mostly on the ones of Taylor Swift and her Bad Blood crew being constantly over-the-top-fabulous. Seeing them bond and look gorgeous together really does seem like fun and might even make you wish you were on stage or partying with them as well.
Basically, “squad goals” are what you desire for your group of friends to be like in the future. Here are some of the #SquadGoals that we should have for ourselves and our friendships as Christian women.
1. Being loyal. In this day and age, it can be really rare to find long-lasting friendships. We should be consistent and always be there for our friends, even when it seems like something better comes along. You will be amazed by the bond that can come from friendships that span years. The time to start building those relationships is now.
This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. (John 15:12-13)
2. Supporting each other. One thing that is pretty awesome about Taylor’s group of friends is how they seem to always been thrilled for each other’s success. When your friend is going for something new, be behind her 100 percent. Don’t discourage her dreams and ambitions, and be genuinely happy for her when she accomplishes something. It can be anything from a new job to a scholarship, passing of a big test or finding love. Whatever the case, be your friend’s biggest advocate.
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
3. Praying together. Christian circles of friends have a bond deeper than many others because they also have Christ included in their squad. Praying for and with your friends is one of the most meaningful ways to show them love and connect on a deeper level.
For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them. (Matthew 18:20)
4. Not gossiping behind each other’s backs. This can be one of our biggest challenges as women. Resisting the temptation to talk about your friends when they are not around will set your squad apart from almost all others.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29)
5. Holding each other accountable. Another trait that sets Christian friendships apart from many in the world is our ability to remind each other of our priorities. If you see your friend getting into things that will hurt her or pull her away from Christ or the church, approach her (at a good time) with love and see if she would like to talk. Avoid having a spirit of rebuke or criticism; instead, speak with kindness and compassion.
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. (Galatians 6:1)
6. Forgiving each other. You and your friends will not be perfect. You’ll intentionally or unintentionally hurt each other’s feelings. Forgive each other.
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
7. Sticking around when the going gets tough. Being friends with someone who is going through drama is challenging, draining and inconvenient. However, no one needs a friend more than someone in desperate times. Pray that God gives you the opportunity to minister to your friends when they need it most. Be prepared to be the hands and feet of Christ, and hopefully, in the future, your friend will be there for you when you are the one going through trials.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. (Proverbs 17:17)
Still looking for some inspiration? Try using Ruth and Naomi as your ultimate #SquadGoals. If you haven’t read their story lately, check it out in the Book of Ruth. It contains some of the most beautiful passages on friendship ever written.
Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me. (Ruth 1:16-17)
Do our squad goals describe your group of friends? What are your other current squad goals?