When Friends Get in the Way of Your Walk with Christ
Written by T.M. Gaouette | July 7, 2015
Ladies, it’s not easy in this day and age to walk with Christ. Especially when so much of the world wants to take you by the hand and lead you away. However, a Christ-centered life is not meant to be easy. And when you have friends who don’t share your faith, it can often make it much harder for you to remain faithful.
There are many ways in which your friends can get in the way of your walk with Christ. Some ways are more evident and more damaging than others. Temptation, distraction, laziness and peer pressure are just some of the ways. The intentions are not always deliberate, but they’re destructive regardless, and the sooner you recognize them, the better.
Here are some ways that your friends can get in the way of your walk with Christ:
- They make fun of your faith. This may not always be in a mean-spirited way, but sometimes when friends continue to playfully make fun of something important to you, such as your faith, you try to hide it more.
- They pick ungodly things to do. Maybe it’s things such as watching risqué movies or attending improper parties.
- They take you away from your daily devotions to the Lord. Again, this may not be intentional on the part of your friends. In fact, it’s likely your own fault because you want to fit in or you don’t want to miss out.
Friendships are important and often essential. The best friends aren’t just fun in good times, but also supportive in bad times. But when a friendship stands in the way of the most important relationship of all—the one between you and Christ—something has to be done.
So, if you’re finding that even your closest friends are getting in the way of your walk with Christ, take a moment to step back. Finding a whole new set of friends is usually a little extreme, unless your friends are really the wrong crowd to hang with. Only you can honestly determine that. But if you’re finding that they’re leading you away from God’s word, you may want to consider the following:
- Come to terms with the fact that you may not be a part of all the things your friends are doing. And be okay with that. For example, you may not be able to go to all the parties or sleepovers.
- Talk to your friends about your faith. If they’re good friends, they’ll listen to you and understand when you explain how devoted you are. So be open about how you feel about their teasing or their parties. Just be diplomatic in your explanation. You don’t have to tell them that their parties are immoral. You can simply explain that they’re not your thing. Eventually, your friends will accept your faith and maybe even learn from it.
- Be stronger in the Word. Don’t be afraid of being a Christian. You don’t have to force your faith on others, but don’t be so quick to hide it from them, either. Just live the Word as God wills it.
- Make more friends who share your Christian values. You’re not replacing the ones you have, but rather giving yourself more options so that you have more Christian choices when it comes to hanging out. Also, spending time with like-minded friends will inevitably strengthen your faith.
- Increase your devotion. Obviously, praying always brings you closer to the Lord, so you should ask Him to help you not only with your friendships, but also with your personal relationship with Him. Read scripture, read your devotions and basically saturate yourself with the Word. By doing this, it will make it all the more difficult to allow any kind of distraction to get in the way of your relationship with Christ.
“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools suffers harm.” (Proverbs 13:20)
Ladies, do you believe that your friends are getting in the way of your walk with Christ?