When You’re Tempted to Change Yourself to Look Like the World
Written by Christi Given | July 24, 2018
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This week, a PI Girl asked what to do when she feels the lure and temptation to look like the world and be lukewarm. She wants to be more like Jesus on fire, but she just said it’s so hard, especially with the lure of social media, Hollywood and the female celebrities. She doesn’t know how to be on fire for God when she wants to pursue a career in Hollywood. This question is such an important and valuable one, especially with the peer pressure in our day and age. Standing up for God and His righteousness in a godless culture sometimes seems impossible, but it is possible!
Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever. (1 John 2:15-17)
The advice I would give anyone who wants to become more on fire in their faith is to first unfollow people who don’t bring you closer to Jesus. Next, I would follow people who will inspire you or lead you closer to God. Some people who inspire me: Britt Nicole, Beckah Shae, Lecrae, Jamie Grace, Morgan Harper Nichols, Hillsong Young and Free, the JUCE TV Network, TBN, EveryGirl, Lauren Scruggs, Christine Caine, Kari Jobe, Bethel Music, Lauren Daigle.
I would also listen to worship music and I would focus on your calling. If you don’t know your God-given purpose, soak in God’s presence and ask God for wisdom. He will give it GENEROUSLY to those who ask (James 1:5). Once you know your purpose or calling from God, do the necessary steps to prepare you for it. Finally, I would surround yourself with godly like-minded friends, even if it’s one or two people.
Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. (Proverbs 13:20)
Remember, Jesus was rejected, and didn’t feel accepted by his own people. We can feel left out because of cultural norms. Being a misfit for Jesus and/or a leader can be difficult or can feel lonely, but it’s worth it to honor Yeshua. We must be selfless and we need to have faith that God will have our back and will defend us. Ask your school if there’s a Christian campus. And as part of the Project Inspired community, you can grow more in your faith with other people. You are NOT alone. The enemy lies to us so we don’t honor the King of Kings, but let us lay down our desires and do His will.
DON’T copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God TRANSFORM you into a new person by changing the way you THINK. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (Romans 12:2)
It’s only when we truly follow Christ wholeheartedly that we will be truly satisfied. When we go to other outlets and sources for attention, likes or applause, and/or if we try to get our fill by shallow worldly ways, it will one day fail us. Just know that Christ, the Word, the spirit of God and the living water satisfies your very soul. God wants to love and comfort you. All you need is His approval and He wants you to know you have a place in the family of God.
Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonorable, he will be a vessel for honorable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good work. (2 Timothy 2:21)
What we focus on grows. We need to resist our flesh and look to holy, pure, lovely things and focus on Jesus. Then we can fully be blameless and ready to do the good work of the Lord on earth and be hope to a dying world. PI Girls, do you want to inspire others instead of copying the world? Let us be world changers and show the world modesty is hotter, and purity is the next cool thing. We need to shift culture and be ourselves. Copying others never is truthful or satisfying.
We love you, PI Girls! Don’t ever change who you are on social media or lower your standards because you want more likes. That’s called compromise. You don’t need to wear skimpy clothing or more makeup to fit in! You are ALREADY accepted, spotless, prized, beautiful and blameless in Christ in your faith. God calls you His daughter! Don’t lower your royal standards to follow the crowd; you are a princess!
PI Girls, comment below for prayers and feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org for advice or for further questions about this topic! Or reach out on Instagram: @christigiven; or Facebook: facebook.com/christigiven.
Jesus loves you! Know we are praying for you all! Thank you for writing to us on the Girl Talk platform on the Facebook group!