Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and council. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
PI girls, this week I wanted to address body image and fashion, and the relationships they have with our self-worth and identity. This topic stemmed from the Girl Talk True Beauty forum…feel free to join in the conversation!
All girls want to be adored, cherished and called beautiful. We long for love and affection, and many girls care for their health and body with exercise, fashion, makeup or other beauty products. Here’s the deal, girls: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. No matter what clothes you are wearing, no matter what kinds of brands you wear, your makeup and jewelry choices…they do NOT define you, nor should they consume you. God loves you the way you are!
Of course, our world is full of branding, marketing, media, models, catalogues, fashion, magazines, celebrities and more, which make it harder to NOT compare ourselves to perfect-looking people. As many of you know, it is mostly a fantasy world, which is fun but can also be dangerous health-wise, not to mention can be smoke and mirrors with air brushing and Photoshop. To read about Nicole’s personal story in the modeling industry and how it made her feel, click here.
I am an eye-witness of what the modeling and fashion industry can make a person feel like and what happens in reality. I’m not saying that it is all bad because we need to purchase some clothing (and much of the industry is business and marketing, which helps us to know products), but there are dangers to every industry if there is not a pure focus and balance.
For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ (Ephesians 2:10).
Beauty should be on the inside, not on just the outside. Of course, it is normal to want to take care of yourself, maybe do your nails, hair or to buy a new outfit. But we need to not consume our minds, thoughts and time with fashion or think our identity is within the clothes we buy, the makeup we wear and the products we use. Our society is good at making you want things you don’t need, feel insecure if you don’t have a certain brand or if you’re not wearing the hottest trend. But remember where your true identity is, which is in Christ.
Our faith, our hope and our trust is in an unshakeable foundation in Jesus. We know that we will make mistakes and sometimes take our eyes off the prize. We are not perfect, but let’s not get filled up with the passions of the world but the passions of God. There is more to life than appearance, as Jesus said in Matthew chapter 6.
So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them (Matthew 6:31-32).
Again, it isn’t bad to like fashion or to like wearing some makeup, but when we begin to have insecurities or compare ourselves to the world or begin to think what is contrary to the Word of God, it is dangerous. A PI girl wrote about a conference she went to and said even some of the young men who attended mentioned that girls shouldn’t feel like they have to wear makeup.
Read what Ben said in Girl Talk forum:
We don’t understand why you feel like you need to wear makeup. If we are looking for someone we want to marry one day, we want to marry the beautiful girl she is on her own, not the makeup she is wearing (Ben).
The girl who posted this also said that “Several of the other guys chimed in, and said they would prefer it if the girls didn’t feel the need to wear makeup at all, even at prom or their wedding.” Pretty interesting, huh? Not to mention God created YOU perfectly and uniquely just the way you are (Psalm 139)! Now, if you enjoy wearing makeup, that is fine, but it becomes a slippery slope when we find our value in our looks or our appearance. (To read the full post, click here.)
In the Bible it says,
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:3-4).
Thank you, Peter. This is a great reminder! Amen?
Girls, do you have prayer requests about identity, image, self-worth? Do you think that it is a good reminder that our worth is in the LORD and being a daughter of the Most High? Comment below!